Should we pay?!

[Mumlife80]

Ok...so need some advice plz...I was watching my sisters two boys...age 10..and 7...i have a lively 3 yr old and while they were eating at the table my 3 yr old knocked the 7yr olds glasses onto the tiled floor breaking the frame under one of the lens...the cost to repair them is £75 and my partner is steadfast against paying for them while i think we should...my sister i think is expecting us to pay for them...what would you do??...my partner believes that because i was doing her a favour looking after her boys that should warrant not paying...also that our boy is only 3 and didnt know better...he thinks my sister is out of order expecting us to pay!! What do you all think? Thanks

I think you should pay, or at least go halves with your sister, or offer.

It doesn't matter that your son didn't deliberately break it- it still got broken as a result of him, so his parents should cover the cost of what he broke.

For instance if a kid broke something in a shop- 'he didn't mean to' wouldn't mean the parents shouldn't cover it.

Are all the posters who carry on writing their point way after it's all sorted, the same people who don't listen at all in a group situation and simply wait for their turn to speak? Even when someone's already said that.

Well done @Mumlife80 x

Is your partner often unreasonable?

You should definitely pay.

There isn’t really an option not to pay full price for the repair. Your child grabbing them off the other child’s face eliminates the only paying half option, in my opinion. Tell your DH to unclench and do the right thing.

Oh, sorry OP I see you have paid. I’m glad you have sorted the issue with child care too.

You should absolutely pay. Your child broke them. She's now out of pocket.

Yes I think you should pay at least half. As a parent you need to make sure nothing breakable is within reach of your 3 year old at the table.

NHS cover the lenses and cheap frames.

You should definitely pay. Unless they’re much wealthier than you…

You on’t look after your nephews as a ‘favour’ or to save your sister money, you do it because they’re your nephews so that’s irrelevant. Your kid broke the glasses, it’s reasonable to expect to pay for them and only to not if your sister insists otherwise.

That's one hell of an arrogant and unpleasant assertion, particularly when you clearly don't know what you're talking about.

Repairs are free to the NHS maximum. If you got free glasses all repairs are covered. If you pay extra to have higher quality or designer kids frames then you also have to pay extra if they need repairing or replacing.

The OP said they were designer. Her sister paid £75 above the NHS max for them. As they need replacing (frame snapped) it will cost the same £75 for the replacement pair.

Before you label anyone a liar it's best to make sure you're right. Otherwise you just look like a prat.

Yes suck it up op. It hurts I know. It happened to me too, I went on multi generational and cousin-heavy hol with my 4 kids kibdly funded by PILs as we were broke. Rained.
I designated a little used table in a little used room for kids colouring stuff/toys/chaos and asked everyone if that was OK to be kids table.
SIL leaves prescription designer glasses on there. Toddler thinks ooh new toy and yup. Broken.
Still had to pay.
God I'm not even over it

Cancel the cheque whilst you're at it.

It was a good thing you paid but she out to have been smart and really not accepted. In a friendship you give and you take, you win and you lose. She got the 75 quid but it'll likely end up costing her more I think. Obviously it's different with siblings but you can't be expected to watch your kid 24/7 like a hawk when you've got 2 more kids to keep an eye on, can you? She should have been more sensible & understanding and let it go (unless she really needs the money).

Repairs for kids glasses are free your sister is lying

if you’ve paid her fine but she’s taken you for a mug

another question how has the child care been sorted she’ll just turn up like before expecting you just to watch them or have you actually told her no
(mine would be fuck off to be honest) and stated it won’t be happening?

No hes actually a very reasonable man...hes dislikes how my sister acts at times..especially with expecting me to babysit all the time cuz im a sahm...it grates on him more than me...he thinks shes just an entitled human and if you knew her you would probably agree lol but shes my sis and i love her

Maybe either she or you can claim off an (house) insurance.

Is she sure about the £75?

My 9yo has glasses and has broken them no end of times in various ways, lost them and even twisted them so much the frame snapped and it's never ever cost me to replace them. The only thing they charged me for was a slightly fancier case she insisted she needed the first pair she had.

Surely insurance covers this - either or both of you?

You do know that wouldn’t work why cause of the excess which will most likely be over £100 so no point at all.

Just as a point of order having four children doesn’t make you a better parent than someone who has one. It just means you have more children!

I am sure you are a wonderful parent - but your parenting skills are not related to the number of children you have.

Of course you need to pay? My god

A) I wouldn't pay that much and don't because I DON'T HAVE THAT MUCH. If your rich then very good for you but I have an income of 8k a year. Good luck getting money I don't have.

B) 'deliberately damages' come off it, on what fucking planet is a 3 year old knocking something over (something that shouldn't have been left there) 'deliberate'.

C) If you require medical aid they are YOUR responsibility to keep safe and not leave lying around. I take medication, if you ditched your kid at my house and I left my meds on the table and your kid downed them like sweeties I doubt you would insist on paying my prescription replacement cost.

I agree with your husband. If you look after their children a lot you are doing them a massive favour, and have saved them a lot more than £75 on childcare fees.

If they expect you to pay, then I wouldn’t be looking after their children again.

Your child is 3 - and GRABBED glasses off another child's face! After checking neither child was hurt, you should have immediately reassured the child and parents that you would pay in full for the glasses.

1. Because assuming your child is not intellectually disabled, you should have taught him by now that you don't put your hands near people's faces, and that you don't grab their stuff.

2. Because when you child breaks something, even by accident, even if age or ability mean they haven't got the capacity to understand, you pay for it.

The only reason to doubt this would be if the other child had actually been egging him on to steal the glasses. You know if the 7 year old had said "bet you can't grab my glasses," not thinking that he'd try. Or I guess, if the other kid have given the young child something fragile to play with which might have been stupid.

You have affectively just said, "is it ok that a young child is not able to see properly because I can't make my kid behave?" NO IT IS NOT.

I would pay but never do her another favour