Should I let my 17 year old get filler?

[muminneedofadviceplz]

Hi, I'm looking for some advice on whether I should let my 17 year old get a small amount of lip filler? She has begged me for years so when she was 16 I said we would look into it. She is a straight A student who is extremely respectful. If I allow it I have more control over it rather then me saying no and she gets it done cheap and secretly. PLEASE HELP

I think the fact that the child has wanted filler in her lips for years at the age of 17 lets us know that the only thing in control of the situation is the mad belief that she's got something wrong with her face that needs fixing.

Before

Sit down with her and google "lip fillers gone wrong" and "lip fillers gone bad."

More to the point, investigate why her self-esteem is so poor, and what can be done about it. Did she really start asking for this at age 14 or 15?

Definitely not!

No

If my daughter had a really bad nose that caused her to be bullied and destroyed her self confidence, I would agree at 17 to a nose job. But not to surgery because she wanted a slightly “cuter” nose when there is nothing wrong with the existing one. Similarly if she had extremely thin lips or uneven lips following corrective surgery, I would agree to lip fillers. But otherwise no - it says she is not good enough as she is. If she goes behind your back and gets fillers, well at least you did the right thing.

I would ask her for a picture of what she wants to look like - go with her and make sure she only gets that done and not some blow up doll pout.

literally just gone from this thread and there is an article here (sorry its DM) maybe show her this?
Meg Ryan, 61, looks unrecognisable on first public outing in six months | Daily Mail Online

A new law means those under the age of 18 will no longer be able to access Botox or lip fillers for cosmetic reasons.

[[https://patient.info/news-and-features/botox-and-lip-fillers-banned-for-under-18s

@muminneedofadviceplz Your 17 year old will have to wait until she is 18.

There are many clinics that offer natural looking enhancements not everyone is doing the duck lip or russian lip look- so if you choose the right place she can get a very natural result. I would advise only going to a top clinic and paying the full price - true professionals charge for their services
However I think she needs to be at least 18 or more and really do her research ( filler can be dissolved btw ) but it can really look bad and also cause pain. It might also prompt other students to make fun of her
I am happy I waited to get stuff done - I think no 17 year old should get any work done considering how young they are - she needs to work on her confidence first wait a bit and see if she still wants to do it

BECAUSE SHE'S 17!!!!

No

Could I just clarify something? OP, you said in response to a previous question that you hadn't had lip filler done. The way you answered made me wonder if you have had any other cosmetic surgery. Have you? If so, how many operations? (I'm wondering how normalised such operations are, in your family, is all)

No. She’ll look like a duck! When people look at her blow up dolls come to mind and people will think of what goes into that hole in the face. No way!

There won't be a balanced range of opinions because the majority of people in their right mind would be saying a flat out no.

I can only assume you are the 17 year old looking for reasons to persuade her mum who has said no.

Nope. If she can’t accept the way she naturally looks at 17 then good luck to her when she’s 30, 40, 50 and beyond. The best approach you can take is to help her accept herself exactly as she is (and part of that involves modelling it yourself, so showing that YOU have good self esteem and feel comfortable and at peace in your own skin).

Having said this, I have a seventeen year-old DD and she has been known to do things I didn’t particularly want her to do (DIY tattoos, piercings etc) 😬

The mind fucking reels at what we've done to that generation

My thoughts too

No it looks stupid.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if my daughter got lip filler. If she wants it it's probs safer if you're involved in helping her find someone/not get too much etc

Also just to add I've not had any cosmetic procedures - but lip fillers aren't permanent right? Un like something like a tattoo. I don't think it would bother me, you can't stop her once she gets to 18 anyway

The daughter has joined mumsnet now I see.

No because it never looks good.
Use the money on a short therapy course to try and get her to love herself the way she is.

I would absolutely not let my 17 year old have lip filler. When she’s 18 it’ll be up to her and I’d guide her towards someone reputable- a medical professional.

Incidentally though, while lip fillers can look unnatural and awful in the wrong hands, it is absolutely possible to have subtle and natural looking filler. Mine have a small amount of filler as I naturally have a thin top lip. The key is to go to someone reputable, not alter the natural shape of your mouth and know that a little goes a long way. You probably just don’t notice lip filler done well!

No because she's a child & you have a partental responsibility to not let your child do potentially stupid & damaging things.

You are also reinforcing the message that she isn't pretty enough or attractive enough without.

Tell her she can do why what she wants when she's 18 but tough shit until then.

Get her a lip plumper instead- too faced & soap & glory are some of the better ones.