Should I let my 17 year old get filler?

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Hi, I'm looking for some advice on whether I should let my 17 year old get a small amount of lip filler? She has begged me for years so when she was 16 I said we would look into it. She is a straight A student who is extremely respectful. If I allow it I have more control over it rather then me saying no and she gets it done cheap and secretly. PLEASE HELP

It would depend on reasons for me initially , if she had a very thin top lip then a small amount would be good to boost her self confidence but if her lips are ‘normal’ size now then no seen too many lumpy trout pouts and it is starting to become less fashionable

No!

My thoughts exactly!

Well you could say no and when she turns 18 she can get it done herself however she wants. I'd be open to finding someone from a medical background not just a beautician and have a consultation and what would best suit her.

I would not personally support my child to get any form of body modifications under the age of 18. However, she will not be a child forever. If it were me I would tell her that if you both sit down and do the needed research together and have it done reputably when she is legally an adult that you will support her if that is what she is hell bent on doing. If she is 17 then she will have to wait less than 12 months to do it alone anyway. Surely it’s better to support her and discuss than flat out refuse to listen to something that’s clearly important to her (irrelevant of other peoples opinions). Otherwise when she turns 18 she may do it as quickly as she can as an act of defiance and go somewhere improper that can causes her harm or damage. Supporting her doesn’t mean you have to agree with her reasoning and it doesn’t mean you agree she needs it, it just says “hey, I’m your mum, I respect you’re an adult with your own free will and you don’t have to make any decision alone”. If people want to do something they will regardless and any extreme forms of push back will just make her more determined. At the moment all it has to be is a discussion, show willing and she may even change her mind when she comes to it.

we were on holiday over christmas and the amount of TERRIBLE filler and botox everywhere was extremely unnerving. I can't for the life of me work out why it's so popular.

Getting filler once when I was 17 seemed to fix the problem for a long time, I only needed a tiny bit to tilt my top lip up slightly. I could only notice it was flat again when all the filler had gone (when I was around 21) so I got it done again (only 0.5ml). I’m thinking about getting it redone again soon though! If you get the filler to solve a particular issue (rather than just wanting big lips) it can be really confidence boosting and be very subtle. People are really shocked when I tell them I’ve had lip filler.

yeah it did hurt slightly, but nothing unbearable. Took around a week for my lips to feel normal again!

She'll do it anyway. I'd find somewhere reputable and go with her.

Shoot me now.

I agree. I was shocked when I watched the Paula Yates doc. She obviously had a boob job and so on, but her face looked so natural compared to today's celebs - she even had crooked teeth. All of the 90s/00s celebs featured looked natural too.

Noooooooo

It is horrifying that you are considering this. She’s a beautiful young girl she does not need to buy into this absolute bullshit at her age.

taken from .gov.uk:
Key messageFrom 1 October 2021 it is a criminal offence to administer botulinum toxin (commonly known as ‘Botox’) or a filler by way of injection for a cosmetic purpose to a person under 18 in England, even if they have the permission of someone over 18.
It is also an offence to make arrangements or book an appointment to provide these treatments to anyone under the age of 18 in England.

it's also undoubtedly a feminist issue. Unless all the boys are also getting filler and botox, and I am unaware. it says a lot about our society that these are the new expected beauty norms for young girls.

Ok reasons other than “no” -

shes 17, her face probably hasn’t finished moving and growing to what she’ll look like as an adult, leave it a couple of years for her face to settle

its normal to hate your face at 17 and want a homogeneous face to the idea of beauty that is narrowly defined at school, but in a couple of years she may love her different features.

if she has filler, when taken out it can make lips look stretched and haggered, so if she starts now, she has to go on with this for the rest of her life or end up with the mouth /upper lip of a 70 year old by the time she’s 30. This is a several hundred pounds every 6 months for the rest of her life commitment. Hold off starting that…

every young woman I know who’s started with a little bit more to look natural has ended up looking overly filled and “I’ve just had dental work” look within 5 years.

this fake lips look is beginning to wan in fashion circles, give it a couple of years and thinner natural lips will be back in fashion, as per above, if that happens she’ll find it hard to go back to a natural look. It’ll be the over plucked eyebrows of our generation, but with an added kicker of costing hundreds to keep up and not as simple as drawing on eyebrows to cover it.

All in all, I’d leave it and hope when she’s 18 she doesn’t bother herself.

No, Kris Jenner. No, you should not. And if you need it explained to you why not, you are a genuinely terrible parent...

some very extreme replies here. I would talk her through options, safety, different types of filler and research together as when she is 18 if she still wants it she will get it regardless. 0.5 or 0.7ml of widely known and used filler like Juvaderm should not give her ‘duck lips’ as some pps have implied. Nowadays filler is so common and accessible and many practitioners are qualified and experienced nurses. If she hates it it can be dissolved - they aren’t forever!

She’s not far off 18 wait til then and you have had no part in it then. I’m agree with the plastic surgeons who have said that the filler and Botox look has ‘alienised’ the human face many reputable plastic surgeons I know refuse to do it now because they think it’s unethical the money grabbing ones still do.

Why is she ? Her daughter will do it anyway, I'd much prefer to be in control of the situation.

I’d say no, trends come and go for eg skinny eyebrows and pin straight hair on a night out. Filler isn’t permanent but a massive change. The current trend happens to be big lips - it’s not like having a nose job after a life long insecurity or teeth fixed after life long problems.

I wouldn’t want to support something like this. I get she can have it done in less than a year but I just wouldn’t want to be a part of it. I was walking through a shopping centre and the amount of young women with distorted lips is just saddening.

I never get why the pregnancy thread often has threads about women wishing they were having a girl as it’s things like this that worry me about having a girl and the shit they have to deal with.

No. Watch botched bodies on repeat. Lip filler can go terribly wrong. You can buy makeup that make the lips look fuller. Maybe take her for a MAC makeup counter to have a make over and try out products.

No. You could start by explaining how trends change and once lower class people can all afford to get their lips filled the upper classes will all have small lips again. Same happened with eyebrows, butt size, bust size. Explain to her that it will look dated in a few years. Explain that lip filler does not not actually disintegrate but migrate into the lower face and although she won't notice as she sees her face everyday, everyone else will see her emerging trout pout and feel sorry for her. Just say no.

How would you feel if you paid and her lips died, exploded or went lumpy? Surely its better to teach her to accept who she is.

Really.....?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-56845921

Absolutely not