Should I let my 17 year old get filler?

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Hi, I'm looking for some advice on whether I should let my 17 year old get a small amount of lip filler? She has begged me for years so when she was 16 I said we would look into it. She is a straight A student who is extremely respectful. If I allow it I have more control over it rather then me saying no and she gets it done cheap and secretly. PLEASE HELP

Correct; I am baffled how they consider this attractive or even normal looking.

It looks fake and not attractive in the least. Makes me think of Botched the TV Show.

I think your real lips suit your face whatever size they are.

Why shouldn't you? Because it's not just about lip filler. It's about changing her body - and with it her behaviour - to conform to an ever-changing and inherently misogynist ideal of beauty. And it is more invasive, expensive and painful than wearing make-up or buying certain clothes or colouring her hair.

I'd encourage you to help her see the desire for lipfiller for what it is- a misguided belief that how she looks is somehow lacking.

It's not a mindset I'd want to endorse for a 17 year old.

Her academic achievements are neither here nor there.

It's dreadful that she thinks she needs filler at 17. What is she going to be like in 30 years time?

Filler isn't a one time thing like getting a piercing. You are basically agreeing that her lips aren't good enough and agreeing to future injections too. If fillers don't magically make her happy, will you be agreeing to other procedures like veneers and boob jobs ? You can't stop a working adult paying for it but you can not be complicit in this.

I understand that young people face far more pressure than we could ever imagine but it is ridiculous than teenagers get plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures for non medical reasons.

Definitely not. Her being a hard worker is totally irrelevant.

What the fuck could she possibly be filling at 17?! (Apart from her head with nonsense).

Deep down you must know that lip filler isn't a magic bullet that's going to make her happy with her looks and she'll want a nose job or something next.

Hi OP,
I have had lip filler myself. I won't advise wether you should allow your 17 yo to get it done but I would say do your research as to where you would take her. Some places will do it cheaper but will look awful. I researched a lot and found a clinic that does really natural enhancements - no crazy duck lips.

happy to send you the info of where I went if you want to message me

Christ no

i think this absolutely depends on her current look.

we all know what lips look like in todays beauty standards, and being born with naturally very thin lips is bound to be disheartening when you see everyone else running in the opposite direction trend wise.

if she’s got very thin, barely existing lips, then a little bit of filler and I mean tiny bit, could make a real difference to her confidence.

however, if she’s got average lips and just wants the filler for a ‘boost’ and to get the plump looking lips we’re seeing all over the shop at the moment, then no. Because the a majority of women I’ve spoken to who have had fillers, have openly talked about how they wish they hadn’t started, you get used to how your lips look with 1ml.. so then you get 2ml.. then you get 3ml.. then your lips they lumpy and out of shape and look awful, then you’re going through a dissolving process and your lips look deflated and ruined.

a lot of women now are having. Their filler dissolved anyway, I think the next trend is much, much more natural. The ‘clean girl’ aesthetic is coming in fast.

so all in all, no I wouldn’t. If she still wants to when she’s 18, that’s her choice and she’s of age to make the decision without you. But at the moment you’ve got the potential to help her make a decision she might regret.

Of course not, a reputable one won’t do work on anyone under 18.

I would say no, but that when she is 18 if she still wants it, she can buy it for herself.
There are many lipsticks/ glosses that can give the appearance of fuller lips. Personally, you can always tell when girls have had their lips done and it just looks like they’re trying to be something that they’re not!
Are her friends pushing her to get it done?

God no.. She's too young and whatever her lip shape, she doesn't need it

Why are you presenting lip filler as a solution and wiping your hands of it, when the issue here is about a 17 year old understanding body image, beauty standards and protecting their own self esteem and resilience. You say no to the lip filler and you support your child in those areas instead. If she's as good and hardworking and respectful as you say then you should be trusting her not to go behind your back. I'd also be educating her on how these things can go wrong and how important quality care is.

How is it safer if you get involved?
It’s pretty sad that a teen has believed for years that lip fillers are desirable, and that you’d even remotely consider letting her have it done as some kind of reward for being well behaved and clever.

How sad that you are confirming to your daughter that she isn't beautiful.

Surely this is a reverse?

And the answer is no, for all the good reasons stated above...

NO

No way. Have you questioned why she wants it?

Nope. One day in the not so distant future these cosmetic treatments will become the next health scandal.

Well she can go and work, earn money and fill her own face with that crap and ruin her appearance then. I cannot fathom on what planet a parent would even consider paying for their child to deform their face. Are you one of the Kardashians?!?

Out of curiosity why have you only had it done once more?

Out of more curiosity did it hurt?

God how depressing to be considering this at 17.
Every person I've ever met who's had lip filler looks either utterly hideous or, at best, a little....'off'.
However, I say this as someone who got tattoos at 18 (not on my face though!).

No. Looking natural is so much nicer. All this fakery these days is grim.

Oh Lord. Just No. If she wants crap pumped into her lips let her wait until she’s 18, until then be a parent and not a best friend. So what that she gets good grades and is respectful. You should expect that if she’s still under your roof. I will even guess that her lips are completely normal.