Should I let my 17 year old get filler?

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Hi, I'm looking for some advice on whether I should let my 17 year old get a small amount of lip filler? She has begged me for years so when she was 16 I said we would look into it. She is a straight A student who is extremely respectful. If I allow it I have more control over it rather then me saying no and she gets it done cheap and secretly. PLEASE HELP

Fuck no. At 17 you are simply too young to be making decisions about altering your facial features, perhaps permanently (if it goes wrong).

I’d be worried about why my 16/17 year old daughter was so insecure and easily influenced that she wanted to do this, tbh.

No from me. Reasons already given by pp.
Parent your daughter!

My neighbour has had lip fillers She looks like Lisa Simpson.

Hell to the no. I know 3 women - between 24 and 28 - who started having botox and lip fillers at 18/19. They all did NOT need it, and they all look about 40 now.

I would 100% stop my 17 y.o. from doing this, and would struggle to speak to them/feel like disowning them if they went and did it anyway, because it wrecks your face.

Fillers and botox and collagen etc is very ageing. Ironic, seeing as how people put it in their face to look 'younger.' They look anything but!

No, explain to her the risks. How important it is to find a professional who actually makes it look natural rather than them looking like they’ve been pumped up with air. When she is 18 she can decide for herself and use her own money but she needs to fully understand the pros and cons of it.

No.

No, no, no, no, no.

And no again.

Whether you let her or not, no respectable injector will treat her at 17, there are many reasons for that.

Why does she want it?

No! Lip fillers look ridiculous and very dated. That’s quite apart from any medical concerns. But mainly, why on earth would she need them? You’d be better rewarding her hard work with a treat (a trip out, tech, jewellery, etc etc) and boosting her self-esteem and her sense of worth as an individual.

None of those cat’s-arse-lipped, filtered clones look nice at all.

Lol total wind up

Sounds like you’ve made your mind up but not in a million years.

We tell our daughters they are beautiful (for many reasons of course, not just in terms of their appearance) from the day they’re born so I can’t fathom entertaining this conversation with my daughter, especially when she’s still a child. To agree would feel like me validating she needed it, personally.

No! Absolutely nobody needs this, but especially not a 17 year old. Why spoil a young, fresh face?!

I think when A-list celebs (who can afford the best treatments that money can buy) look disfigured with fillers, then a 17 year old kid getting them from someone unscrupulous enough to pump a child's face with synthetics is unlikely to end well.

My DD asked for fillers too when she was about 15, obviously I said no, because, yknow? parenting 🙄 She's in her mid-20s now and despite having access to her own money for the last decade has yet to spend it on fillers!

I think I’d say she has to wait until she’s 18, I can understand why she wants it though social media and influencers having it etc. but I’d make her wait.

I would definitely be having a conversation about keeping your body healthy and being happy in yourself and how we are all unique and beautiful in our own ways. These trends come and go and starting with something like fillers can have a huge effect on girls self esteem in later life. It's great she works hard academically, I know it's difficult when they are set on something. Keep on talking to her x

Forgot to add this: Many will be up in arms with this parenting but my mum’s line was always “not under my roof” even after I turned 18 (and older!) and was earning more than her. 😂 Eg when I wanted not one but two tattoos! Clearly on a whim!

Her reasoning was that my prefrontal cortex responsible for things like good decision making wasn’t fully developed until well into my twenties. (Need to actually read into this to verify!) I’m so glad she took this approach and respect her hugely and will also be using this line when I need to. We have a great relationship and did then. I also recommend reading a book called “Hate Me Now, Thank Me Later”.

Then why are you asking?

But for me -under no circumstances would I agree

Yep, I never got those tattoos I so desperately couldn’t live without at the time I was nagging my mum either. 🙄 Not one.

Absolutely not.

Well said.

As a mother, I wouldn't be reinforcing the notion that physical alterations are the key to happiness. What's next, breast enhancement?

Those are decisions for a mature, adult woman. I'd say no younger than 30, ideally, though of course legal adults are free to do as they see fit. But what a sad lesson to teach a teen in youthful young womanhood. "Yes, I agree you aren't good enough as-is. Get yourself pumped/filled/cut to be more beautiful."

Absolutely not.

shes 17 why has she been asking you for years?

what have you done to raise her self esteem ?.

I think when A-list celebs (who can afford the best treatments that money can buy) look disfigured with fillers, then a 17 year old kid getting them from someone unscrupulous enough to pump a child's face with synthetics is unlikely to end well.

I think this needs to be shouted from the rooftops!!

Absolutely not. But I wouldn’t want my dd to have them at any age. Only yesterday I was served at the chemist by a woman with them and they looked absolutely dreadful - they are literally the only thing I can remember about her.

No

It makes make difference if she's a hard worker - totally irrelevant.

She's too young to be filling her body with un-necessary chemicals. I hate the pout look - always looks artificial. And there certainly does seem to be that once people start, they want to go bigger and bigger, more and more.

I think she will end up with terrible wrinkles if she starts doing things to her face that young - her mouth will be all weird by the time she's 25