Husband pushed 4 year old over who fell and banged his head

[Wishbub]

Not sure this is the right page, but i really don't know what to do. Husband has a bad temper which mainly results in shouting and some hitting of our 4 year old. Today was the worst, my son fell and banged his head, he now had a large lump on the back of his head.

I told my husband that this is physical abuse of a child, which he ridiculed, saying it was just an accident. I told him I have to protect our son, so he's said that he'll kill himself and be out of our way.

I'm currently breast feeding a small baby and feeling incredibly unwell, I don't know what to do...

Wtf have I just read???😱
get the fuck away from him and get your children to safety for FUCK SAKE.
Jesus Christ.

agree !!

i feel sick at what I’ve just read and what actually goes on when OP is not around!

I hope the poor baby is ok

He's an abusive monster (you must know that). Really really hope that you're not here replying because you've either called police or you're getting your DS checked out in A+E. Please please report this!!

@Wishbub he wouldn't need to threaten to kill himself, if he done this to my son he would currently be buried under my patio!

@Wishbub

Are you ok? And your children?

Keep talking to us.

This is a scary and overwhelming situation for a mum with a baby and a young child to face up to.

We’re here to support you, not judge you.

Keep posting.

I'm a social worker. If you don't report this today and seek medical attention for your poor 4 year old, you are complicit in his dad's physical abuse of him and I would be making an application for a care order for him. If you were to report it and protect your children, you would be given all the support that you need from a team of professionals. Don't be another woman who puts some fucking dickhead before their innocent little kids.

I've just thought the same. The poster must have given some details when signing up.

The police have managed to find my phone number and call me about something before (nothing like this) while only knowing my name. I hope there's some way this can be reported to the police and whoever needs to know.

Take your son to a and e urgently. If he has complications you will not only lose him, you could be convicted.

I'm so sorry but you have to leave tonight. Hopefully the police will show your partner the door when you get to a and e. I would call them from there. Better to call them first and be on the same side as the doctors and SS.

Let him kill himself, will be better for your poor son to have a dead father than a violent one

I was thinking the same.. if I or mumsnet reported this could the police do something by tracing IP address etc ?

I really hope @mnhq are monitoring this thread and can raise a safeguarding issue somehow from the IP address. It’s made me feel sick, worrying about this poor child. And if the dickhead cunt kills himself then thank fuck for that - least the child will be protected.

Surely you know what to do. Protect your child! Put them first. Let the vile piece of shit klll himself if that's what he's threatening.

You are complicit in this abuse. Why cant you protect your own child? Jeez, do you need to be told to call the police?

Agree. The poor child. How can a mother just sit and watch her child get beaten by a bully. OP get off your arse and protect your child. Im filled with rage, I hate reading stuff like this.

OP isn't coming back.

I doubt she will do the right thing either :(

Those poor children.

Things like this haunt me, I'll be thinking of him for weeks

I have a child the same age and I would never EVER let anyone touch a hair on his head! I am totally appalled - what a vile, violent bully your husband is. He needs reporting immediately. As a parent you have a massive duty of care to that poor innocent little child.

@Aberdeenusername I mean, it's worth reporting even if nothing can be done, surely? It's better to be safe than sorry. And in this case, I'm sure they'd rather know and do the right checks.

What are you going to do about it OP.
He has assaulted your 4 year old child and not for the first time.
YOU need to ring the police, YOU need to report this to Social Services. If you don't YOU are as bad as he is.
I too hope MNHQ can identify who you are and report it as well.

My son is nearly 4 and I have a baby too. Reading this just made me feel sick. No other advice but agree with PPs that you need to protect yourself, your poor son and your baby urgently.

Contact women's aid OP, they will help you and your son get somewhere safe as well as help you with legal steps

How long has he been physically abusing your son?

Is he in nursery or school? Do you do the school run with the baby and without the violent partner?

If so I'd speak to school tomorrow, be brutally honest about how long it's being going on and ask for help. You also need to call the Police.

I'm sorry but if my husband did a bit of hitting my son and shoved him over causing him to bang his head, I'd be hard pushed not to help him out with his threat to top himself.

Protect your children, leave him and ring the police.

Is the 4 year old his child OP? Why did you have another baby with this piece of shit? I hope your poor child is ok. Please take him to hospital If you are anywhere in London, I am happy to help you. You need to do something to protect your children.

If your family and friends live far away, take your children and go and stay with them. Right now!

I hope a neighbour heard what happened and contacts the police. Or that someone on here recognises you from real life and does it. Anything.

I’m sorry to say it but I hope they take both of your kids somewhere safe, because that sure isn’t with you. It’s not your fault that your man did what he did, but it is your fault if you rest on your laurels and turn a blind eye. That poor boy. I bet your baby’s crying gets on his nerves too. It won’t be long until he’s doing it to them.

We’ll read about you in the paper someday, I bet. 😪