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NHS now say you can cosleep safely.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 14:17

The never sleep with your baby has now been removed and updated to be safe if you share your bed with your baby.

Isn't that awesome 👏 😊

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 18:55

bussteward · 11/03/2023 18:43

I’m not sure hounding a poster about whether she did cosleeping right is a great look or advertisement for cosleeping.

I cosleep in the correct position, breastfeed, etc, and my baby still wriggled under me: but I woke, because that instinct to wake is part of cosleeping. Where I haven’t woken is when I’ve gone to sleep accidentally: holding my first baby, burping my second, and haven’t programmed myself into the light sleep that you do when cosleeping. On that basis it’s safer than the alternative.

In all honestly I love sleeping and while a baby snuggle is nice, my preference is a night in my bed without a child in it, sleeping in whatever position I want! Cosleeping C-shape on my side all night without moving is bringing back my pregnancy PGP, and I do not want it back! But I do get more sleep this way, on balance.

Don't get me wrong I love sleeping. But loved the baba cuddles 🥰 best cuddles ever

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Moonicorn · 11/03/2023 18:58

Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 18:55

Don't get me wrong I love sleeping. But loved the baba cuddles 🥰 best cuddles ever

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Yeah you’ve said several times

getting a bit sickly now!

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:01

Several posters on this thread have stated that it's completely safe user40816.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:02

Moonicorn · 11/03/2023 18:58

Yeah you’ve said several times

getting a bit sickly now!

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Fuck off then

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:02

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:01

Several posters on this thread have stated that it's completely safe user40816.

Not really. That they've done it as safe as possible

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fairgame84 · 11/03/2023 19:06

@KickAssMumma
You can harvest colostrum from 37 weeks but it should be done by hand expression and not pump.
I work in nicu and we advise mum's not to pump until either 72 hours post birth or if your getting around 7mls per expression. If you pump before it can cause pain and mastitis and affect your supply.

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:07

Not really. That they've done it as safe as possible

Not really? They either they have or they haven't. If you read back over the thread you'll spot the posters that have stated it.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:09

fairgame84 · 11/03/2023 19:06

@KickAssMumma
You can harvest colostrum from 37 weeks but it should be done by hand expression and not pump.
I work in nicu and we advise mum's not to pump until either 72 hours post birth or if your getting around 7mls per expression. If you pump before it can cause pain and mastitis and affect your supply.

Put it better than what I said.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:11

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:07

Not really. That they've done it as safe as possible

Not really? They either they have or they haven't. If you read back over the thread you'll spot the posters that have stated it.

Well that's their opinion

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AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:12

Well that's their opinion

Duh! Hmm

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:16

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:12

Well that's their opinion

Duh! Hmm

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Teafor1please · 11/03/2023 19:18

I'm interested by why this is important - since the advice from the NHS is also to keep them in your room til 6 months, but op you say you put baby in their own room at 11 weeks. So why does NHS guidance matter to you? Surely you are just advocating doing what's best for the mother, irrespective of any official advice or guideline? In which case it doesn't matter what their website says.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:19

Teafor1please · 11/03/2023 19:18

I'm interested by why this is important - since the advice from the NHS is also to keep them in your room til 6 months, but op you say you put baby in their own room at 11 weeks. So why does NHS guidance matter to you? Surely you are just advocating doing what's best for the mother, irrespective of any official advice or guideline? In which case it doesn't matter what their website says.

Its nice to see it being official 😌

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user40816 · 11/03/2023 19:20

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:01

Several posters on this thread have stated that it's completely safe user40816.

I've been through the thread and haven't seen anyone state that cosleeping is "completely safe" or implied there is absolutely no risk. Feel free to quote where you've interpreted that; I'd be very surprised to read a comment like that from anyone who has actually coslept.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:20

Becoming*

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FatGirlSwim · 11/03/2023 19:33

My youngest dd is now 8 and I got safe cosleeping advice from my health visitor.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:34

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:07

Not really. That they've done it as safe as possible

Not really? They either they have or they haven't. If you read back over the thread you'll spot the posters that have stated it.

Well tell me who did.

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AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:34

I'm not going to go through the whole thread but how about this from Whenyouknowbetteryoudobetter ?
It was always safe. Humans have been sleeping with their babies since the dawn of time. So it’s great the nhs are now encouraging it especially for new mums who may believe putting their baby in a cot is safer when it’s actually more damaging and creates abandonment

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:34

FatGirlSwim · 11/03/2023 19:33

My youngest dd is now 8 and I got safe cosleeping advice from my health visitor.

Aww that's good! 😊

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AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:38

Or this from Barannca ?:

"That is very good news. People have done it very safely since the first babies were born! It is natural and when done properly perfectly safe"

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:42

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:38

Or this from Barannca ?:

"That is very good news. People have done it very safely since the first babies were born! It is natural and when done properly perfectly safe"

Yeah she said when it's done properly it's safe. Which it is when it's done properly

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AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:46

Yeah she said when it's done properly it's safe. Which it is when it's done properly

You really don't believe that it can go wrong even when done properly, do you? It's absolutely crazy that you won't acknowledge risk, quite scary actually.

Like I said before, it went wrong for me despite following all guidelines.

howrudeforme · 11/03/2023 19:48

I coslept with mine for years. Ignored the criticisms and pointed out that probably half the planet cosleeps for various reasons.

Depends what suits your situation.

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Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 19:52

AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:46

Yeah she said when it's done properly it's safe. Which it is when it's done properly

You really don't believe that it can go wrong even when done properly, do you? It's absolutely crazy that you won't acknowledge risk, quite scary actually.

Like I said before, it went wrong for me despite following all guidelines.

Of course. Its a small risk. I'm sorry it happened to you but wasn't blaming you for it. Unfortunately it happens.

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AndTheSurveySays · 11/03/2023 19:53

Wel if you know there is a risk then why the fuck did you say it's safe when done properly? Confused

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