NHS now say you can cosleep safely.

[Emmamoo89]

The never sleep with your baby has now been removed and updated to be safe if you share your bed with your baby.

Isn't that awesome 👏 😊

Blessed*

Yes they have. That's good that your midwife was fine with it 😊

www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

There's the link, I'm not disagreeing that a cot (in the correct circumstances ie not choc a bloc with teddies etc) is the safest nor am I insisting on anything however if you are going to co sleep best off reading guidance first. Co sleeping was one of the things I said I've never do when pregnant and I don't consistently but occasionally we all have our personal reasons.

The way I look at it is: if my baby is in her cot on her back there is zero chance of her suffocating. If I cosleep with her, there is a small chance of her suffocating. I'd rather take zero chance than a small chance.

People saying your making a rod for own Back so what they will sneak in the middle of the night who wouldn't want a cuddle from their child? They only young once

I’ve been told i’m making a rod for my own back so many times over the years.

With my first, I was told I would never get him out of my bed.

I used to joke that we’d have to get a bigger bed when he’s 15 then.

(he’s an adult now and has been in his own bed since he was 4, just like his younger sister and I am sure my 2 year old will follow suit and chose to sleep in her own bed in her own time. The years fly by).

Fair enough. But when you've got a screaming baby in pain you have no choice. I wanted to comfort him all night

With some babies, not cosleeping increases other risks. For me, that would have been a higher chance of falling asleep while sitting up and feeding, a higher chance of crashing my car due to lack of sleep, or other accidents related to getting no sleep.

Exactly. Sleep deprived is way more dangerous

Not when they stick a foot in your face or lie across your legs. Gets annoying.

Are we talking teething? Mine is teething. A bit of ambesol and he is as happy as Larry in his cot. He actually prefers it. Did you give any ambesol or nurofen to him? He wouldnt need to suffer all night.

He started teething at 8 weeks. Couldn't use it then and tried calpol didn't help. I'm sorry but I wasn't going to leave him in his cot screaming in pain

Also co slept from 3 to 6 months and formula fed. God did I get stick and lectures about how "only mothers who breastfeed should co -sleep"

We were both fine. Until he got to 6 months and decided he hated sleeping next to me and preferred his cot.

It's never 100% safe. Baby sleeping in a cot/moses basket is never 100% safe. Like most things with babies. You can do everything the "book" tells you to do and unfortunately sometimes still something might happen.

I co-slept with both of mine (they are now 23 and 19). I breastfed them whilst I slept at the suggestion of my midwife. I think it's the only thing that kept me sane.

I'm glad it worked for you 😌 also glad you had a decent midwife

We didn't "co-sleep" as such but had a full size bed size cot which made life so much easier with breastfeeding.

Definitely better to have safe sleep advice as parents will do it anyway