NHS now say you can cosleep safely.

[Emmamoo89]

The never sleep with your baby has now been removed and updated to be safe if you share your bed with your baby.

Isn't that awesome 👏 😊

I'm sorry that happened to your friend. But you can't prevent sids. It's going to happen regardless.

When they die with co sleeping its more like to be suffocation

Which tells you it’s not safe! Goodness me, are you always like this? carrying on even when people have shown that you’re innocent?

If you haven't squished your baby it is because of luck and not a supposedly superior motherly instinct because you happen to breastfeed.

@HistoryFanatic Amen! The voice of reason!

This isn’t true, and it’s not about “superior” instincts – it’s about sleeping more lightly when breastfeeding and purposefully cosleeping, and breastfed, cosleeping babies moving around less when sleeping than formula-fed babies do. It’s not a breast Vs formula pointless and goady debate, it’s just how differently fed babies behave, well, differently.

Not my experience. I hear of far more parents who didn't cosleep but their child started coming into their bed at 2 or 3 who have these issues, my sibling is an example.

Do ff babies develop gross motor skills faster then? As in, formula accelerates milestones? That's amazing...

Not remotely what I said. To what do you attribute your deliberate misreading of MN posts?

DS crawled properly at 5 months, he didn't move around much at night. Breastfed, cosleeping baby. The PP meant behaviour, not ability.

You said that breastfed babies move less.
Is there any evidence of this resent strange claim?

Well I am and its still a small risk. More likely to happen if you fall asleep on the couch than a bed

Well I haven't made a rod of my own back and baba will happily sleep in his room on his own 🤷‍♀️

That's exactly what was meant.

It's not down to luck at all...

Meh, my ff baby was exactly the same.

Do you have any actual evidence for your claim?

Great stuff, the NHS has finally accepted a lot do this anyway so better to provide sensible guidance then push more guilt on mothers.

Slightly separate topic but I think they could add an additional line in there, since lockdown I know a few families with dogs who also have them on the bed - surely this is also not safe. Regardless of what people will say on the size or temperament of their dog.

I'd have thought a dog shouldn't be unsupervised in a room with a child, or have access when parents are sleeping whether the child is in a moses basket, cot, or cosleeping?

If you go on the lullaby trust website they provide safe sleep guidelines for having the baby in your bed, they are a reputable SIDS charity so have always respected some families co-sleep. They also provide guidelines on cots and other sleep equipment too. If you follow them on social media they regularly post updates depending on the seasons e.g in summer they post about keeping your baby cool over Christmas they post about alcohol and sharing a bed etc.

Ps. Unfortunately and I think most mums will agree the health service seems to notoriously disagree when it comes to children, particularly infant feeding. At the end of the day I've always found as a mum its part of our job to educate ourselves and then go with what works best for our babies and us. If you would like to breastfeed I would search the term IBCL, this is the qualification you need to become an official infant feeding professional as the term 'feeding consultant' or similar isn't protected so your pet dog could call themselves that without any prior education which is one of the reasons so much incorrect or outdated advice is ouf there. The website kellymom.com is written by IBCL's and covers a wide range of topics including sleep and breastpumps. There are reasons why breastpumps, bottles, dummies etc aren't initially recommended but they can be incredibly helpful later down the line if it works for you. I always wanted to combi feed too for personal reasons however a few month's in found my son was having none of it so you never know!

I co slept with my two, as mums have being doing so for centuries, not a new trend. Both of them were ebf. My midwife didn’t have any problem with it.

Combi fed both mine. Never co slept. I'm a very routine loving mother 😬i promise I am maternal though!
Still think this is about time. I think most parents I know co slept, whether they breastfed or bottle fed, dont we all rely on our instincts as mothers?
The most important thing apart from babies health obviously is mums mental health and lack of sleep can destroy it. The NHS stating this will take a lot of guilt away methinks and that is fantastic for new mums/parents doing their best.
I realise some people also co sleep just because they want to, it was never for me but I was bloody blessed with good sleepers who were happy in a moses basket/cot.

Agree I've worked with so many parents who are desperate for a descent night's sleep and can't get one because their 7 year olds are still kicking off or worse 3 year olds who now wake the older siblings instead

The Lullaby Trust do still say babies own bed is safest though but if you insist on co sleeping this is the safest way to do it .....I think most parents beds fail on the firm sleeping surface front for a start.

I love a routine. My son was in one at 6 weeks. He loves it. It helps a lot. It definitely is fantastic now mams don't need to worry or feel guilty 😌 I'm blesses having a good sleeper but it was only when he was teething/poorly we Co slept