Feb/March 2023 Birth Club

[TeddyBeans]

Hello my lovelies! I thought I'd make a post birth thread so we can continue our chats now that our little ones are earthside. Feel free to tap out!

20/1 - botleybump 💓 (due 23/2)
10/2 - Amy1303 💙 (due 27/3)
12/2 - Babynum2 💙 (due 5/3)
12/2 - Cams50 💙 (due 2/3)
13/2 - LizziBee 💙
14/2 - BabyNumber3OnTheWay 💙 (due 28/2)
18/2 - Ubbee 💙 (due 27/2)
19/2 - beatingheartbaby 💓 (due 14/3)
21/2 - suchardchoccy 💓 (due date baby!)
22/2 - muminlndn 💓
24/2 - saltandpepperr 💙 (due 6/3)
24/2 - mrs2022 💙 (due 24/3)
25/2 - JTB123 💓 (due 1/3)
25/2 - Splashh 💓 (due 8/3)
26/2 - GreenIsle 💓 (due 7/3)
26/2 - LaForza101 💙 (due 3/3)
27/2 - EastyBaby19 💙 (due 4/3)
27/2 - Katdemar 💙 (due 4/3)
28/2 - TeddyBeans 💓 (due 26/2)
1/3 - Franklin123 💓 (due 13/3)
2/3 - Thirdtimesacharm3 💙 (due 6/3)
2/3 - allthingssparkly 💙 (due 6/3)
3/3 - Blondewave 💙
3/3 - June628 💓 (due 8/3)
3/3 - Noodle20 💓 (due 7/3)
6/3 - Shep21 💓 (due 18/3)
7/3 - MoronikaFaceache 💓 (due 1/3)
7/3 - Room4onemore 💓 (due 17/3)

I can't sleep tonight as baby girl is breathing fast on and off and occasionally grunty. Lots of research suggests that if it isn't bothering her and she's not showing signs of laboured breathing, then it could be any number of things and not dangerous. It's so hard to hear though

@Cats23 I'm crazy thirsty! However much I drink.

@Rainbowbaby23 yeh the eye rolling is very normal. Such a worry when you don't know though.

@ChristmasJumpers oh the breathing is so all over I remember constantly worrying with my first. With my second I couldn't sleep for 2 days after birth as I had to make sure he was still breathing

@ChristmasJumpers For the first week or so I was so paranoid about the heavy breathing (and then the also very shallow breathing!). We saw some drs at 1 week tho (for an issue with a rash), and both gp and paediatrician said not to be concerned about the breathing. As long as they are breathing and there’s no obvious pauses/holding of breath, then it’s just how babies are. Still bloody petrifying tho!

So glad to see these responses and know its not just us. You know how mumsnet can be - I thought I was going to get shot down in flames for not rushing her to A&E (which I almost did)!
It's so hard to know when it's something serious and when it's just common baby noises/congestion. She was c section too so probably still has a bit of mucus

Re breathing-

Our baby did a meconium poop and was born via C-section, so has been sneezing and has had a fair share of breathing monitoring by midwives, baby doctors, and we took her to A&E as well one evening as post birth she had increased respiration (above 60 inhales in a minute), so when we were discharged, we were told to monitor her and were hyper aware of her breathing.

However, we have now been reassured all is fine, and only to worry if her nostrils flare, she changes colour during a feed, or breathes in a way that her tummy goes significantly inwards

Our baby is 10 days today and for the past 6 days I have had baby blues.
I don't cry all day, maybe 2x a day, but the smallest things would make me tear up.

Has anyone else had baby blues and how long did they last?

@havananana i really struggled with baby blues but think I’m coming out the other side now, baby is 2 weeks old today. I have cried about something or other every single day, some days only a few tears but other days absolute breakdowns. The sleep deprivation doesn’t help! Make sure you’re looking after yourself as best you can

I also had a touch of the baby blues which is so normal, there is so many sudden changes in your life plus hormones. It can all be so overwhelming. My little one is 1 month old now and I only had a small wobble yesterday so after around 3 weeks I felt a bit better. It does take time for your body and mind to adjust its like phases.

I've been struggling with guilt because of my other 2 children. I have a 15 month old and I feel bad that we aren't out and about as much as I would like but new baby is a bit colicky/ reflux and likes to feed every W hours so even though this is my 3rd baby I don't feel confident enough to venture far.

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Hi everyone! Our baby girl is 4 days old and we’re in love 🥰

She was born 2 days overdue. The first 3 days was hard due to my milk supply. Our first midwife visit freaked us out - we took her to A&E for suspected jaundice, baby lost 9.6% her birth weight after only 2 days so doctor gave us some formula to top up. DH freaked out and bought a bunch of premade formula. We also panic bought a breast pump on day 3 and got a 1ml syringe from it.

However, the milk started coming in last night and baby has been cluster feeding for 2 hours stretches and seemed content! Started to think we wasted £100 on that breast pump…

My baby is a week old today and I’m really struggling with the thought of leaving him with anyone but myself. Me and his dad aren’t together and he wanted to take him all day today but I said I'm not ready and that I’m happy to bring him over to his house because he doesn’t feel comfortable here with my family
after arguing a bit he finally agreed and now I feel like I will go to his later and be bamboozled by him and his family for not letting him have him on his own. This is his first child and he can barely hold him properly and doesnt know anything so i dont feel comfortable leaving him and would rather he learned while I am present

Thank you for sharing your experiences!
My husband is on paternity leave and I get 7-8h sleep every night, so I know it's purely hormonal , so hope it passes quickly

@Rainbowbaby23 you have every right to not want to leave baby so young. I feel like they really need their mum this little I've noticed my boy doesn't settle on anyone as good as he does on me!

@havananana Just one episode of tears for me so far , Day 6 at the time- DS (15) was playing rugby in a cup match 2hra away, I struggled the day before to agree letting him go up with a family friend ( who is a nurse so bonus) and her son just incase my Ds got injured and I wouldnt be there- First match ive missed. He was ofcourse fine.

Felt a bit overwelemed yesterday as my 5&7yr old were a bit hype and I braved the food shop alone with my 2 younger dc & baby ( I forgot to do click and collect!)& my dog was being a bit of a hype idiot too

@Rose429 can you return the breast pump (due to it being faulty ) although it still will be useful once your supply settles you may want to pump to give yourself a break in the near future, I bought one off Amazon for £30 a few years ago and it's still going strong it's even wireless like the expensive ones.

@Rainbowbaby23 under those circumstances I would not want to leave my child either. Even not at 4 weeks pp my heart actually hearts if I'm away from baby more than an hour or so. Can't imagine how stressful this must be for you and any mother within his family should understand this. Do not feel pressured into doing what they want. Make it clear that your happy for baby to go to dad alone when she's a few weeks/ months older and he feels confident with her feeding and routine. Don't feel guilty about putting your foot done here at the end of the day your feelings are most important, you just had a baby.

@GreenIsle @Saltandpepperr thankuse, I don’t want him to feel like im being unreasonable but im even offering to go to him when im not fully better myself and id rather they come to me

@Rainbowbaby23 DS was 15 months when his dad left, he had him for 3 hours at a time at that age. There's no way I'd leave a newborn for more than a couple of hours, especially with someone who is completely clueless

@Rose429 congratulations! It's easy to panic when things go a little bit wrong, especially if you're not being given all the info. The breast pump might still come in handy, you might decide to bottle feed expressed milk further down the line

@GreenIsle @TeddyBeans Ok I’ll hold on to the breast pump for now. It’s honestly so draining with cluster feeding. She has changed her pattern now: 1 hour feed, 30-40 mins sleep, another 1 hour feed. She basically on my boobs all the time I can’t do anything or rest properly 😭

@Rose429 My little boy cluster fed for the first few days/nights pretty much nonstop and it was so exhausting! I thought it would never end but he very quickly settled into a much more regular pattern after that of feeding every 2-3 hours. Hopefully your little one will do the same soon, hang in there!

@LRiddles Thank you for your kind words x This evening she has settled into 1 hours ish feed every 3 hours which is more manageable. Still needs to be held all the time though!

I'm unwell! I have swollen throat headache and just feel like rubbish. BF and feeling like this is not fun I need to rest but I can't feeling a bit sorry for myself and don't know how my mum done it with 9 kids when she was unwell

@Saltandpepperr hope you feel better soon 💐 I'm just coming to the end of yet another cough/sore throat virus myself - have felt grim for the last 3-4 weeks so understand how rubbish it is to be poorly with a newborn

After just over 4 weeks we finally made it home with my daughter from the hospital on Friday! Very happy to join the no sleep club ☺️

Our baby sleeps 7-8h a night with 1h gap for feed, nappy change and burping, so it's been so nice so far.

I'm recovering well from the surgery, just can't walk more than 15min without pain.

Can't wait to be able to exercise!

Our only struggle at the moment is gas that's causing her discomfort, but leg bicycling seems to help.

Do any formula feeding mums have advice on formula that doesn't cause much wind? We are on Aptamil and Cow Gate.