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Breast milk jewellery- cute or wierd?!

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wildmoon · 10/01/2023 05:32

Okay.... so I can't decide if this is cute or WIERD.

But..... I am currently bf and drawing to the end of the journey- maybe another month or 2. I feel really sad about giving up but I know it's time.

I saw some breast milk jewellery where they use resin to make a pearl looking stone out of breast milk.

I thought maybe this would be a cute keepsake... if not to wear then maybe just a little heart shaped one to keep in a special box.

Thoughts on this? Cute? wierd?

Also- do you know of any other ideas for breastfeeding keepsakes/ souvenirs?

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BunchHarman · 10/01/2023 14:29

There’re a few posters who seem quite affronted that not all of us are as charmed as they seem to be by the idea of breast milk being turned into jewellery, and seem quite sure that that just mean we didn’t breastfeed. 😆

Some of us did but didn’t buy into the whole ‘this means I’m an amazing mama with magic boobs’ bollocks that seems to swallow certain women and get them carried away. For some of us it was just something we did because we could, and endured for as long as we wanted to. That’s it. There’s some of us who don’t view it as an ‘achievement’ so much as a thing we did after we had a kid.

(I know someone who makes this jewellery by the way, you are quite likely to have someone else’s breast milk hanging around your neck. You might want to bear that in mind.)

tillytoodles1 · 10/01/2023 14:30

Derbee · 10/01/2023 14:22

Your own hang ups about “not counting” if you didn’t breastfeed doesn’t make someone who is proud of their journey smug. Breastfeeding is difficult and important for many people, and to have managed to breastfeed is an emotional achievement for many.

Get a piece of jewellery made from SMA if your feeding journey and your feelings about it warrant a piece of jewellery in your opinion. That would be a totally legitimate thing to do.

But there’s no need to call others smug.

I don't have a hang up about it, it didn't work for me, but I still feel that me and my baby had a lovely time as he was growing. A fed baby is a happy baby, however you do it.

JamSandle · 10/01/2023 14:33

Weird and vile.

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bellinisurge · 10/01/2023 14:36

Fucking weird. Spend your money how you like but if you were a friend of mine and told me that's what you'd done, I'd be spending less time with you.

AlwaysGinPlease · 10/01/2023 14:36

JamSandle · 10/01/2023 14:33

Weird and vile.

Agreed

bellinisurge · 10/01/2023 14:39

I struggled to bf but I don't object to it because of that. I object to it because it's weird. See also, a parent's ashes turned into jewellery.

UWhatNow · 10/01/2023 14:41

I breastfed my children but I can’t say I attached any sentimentality to it.

I take a lead from them - they grew and developed and ‘fed’ from all sorts of new exciting things, so I went with them.

They are young adults now and am I sitting in my armchair wearing my breastfeeding jewellery, sadly wishing they were babies and living in the past? No, I’m still enjoying new developments in their lives with them.

LaLuz7 · 10/01/2023 15:19

This has got 90s Angelia Jolie wearing a vial of husband's blood round her neck vibes

Emmamoo89 · 10/01/2023 15:19

Floomobal · 10/01/2023 14:23

This is what I’ve ordered

That's so pretty x

Emmamoo89 · 10/01/2023 15:20

tillytoodles1 · 10/01/2023 14:14

For those of us who didnt/couldn't breastfeed, I find the idea very smug as if we don't count, even though we have healthy kid s too. Maybe I should get one made from SMA.

It's really not smug at all. Go for it

Help14235 · 10/01/2023 15:38

Smug? How is it smug ? How strange. I’ve got breast milk in my freezer from when I stopped feeding two years ago I’m going to get a necklace made.

tillytoodles1 · 10/01/2023 15:45

Help14235 · 10/01/2023 15:38

Smug? How is it smug ? How strange. I’ve got breast milk in my freezer from when I stopped feeding two years ago I’m going to get a necklace made.

It makes people who couldn't breastfeed feel you think you are special, unlike us who had to "make do" with bottles of formula.

Emmamoo89 · 10/01/2023 15:51

tillytoodles1 · 10/01/2023 15:45

It makes people who couldn't breastfeed feel you think you are special, unlike us who had to "make do" with bottles of formula.

If people think like that it's their problem. We are not trying to make out anything. Christ you can't do anything special without someone thinking bad shit about it.

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 15:51

Here is my breastmilk jewellery, set into diamonds.

I wear the ring constantly.

I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about it. I love them.

Breast milk jewellery- cute or wierd?!
wildmoon · 10/01/2023 15:52

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 15:51

Here is my breastmilk jewellery, set into diamonds.

I wear the ring constantly.

I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about it. I love them.

Stunning! Where did you get these made?

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Emmamoo89 · 10/01/2023 15:52

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 15:51

Here is my breastmilk jewellery, set into diamonds.

I wear the ring constantly.

I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about it. I love them.

Really pretty. I definitely want a ring x

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 15:56

Also ring on right now..

I got the stones made by Cumbria Life Casting and a private jeweller set the stones into diamonds. 🙂

Breast milk jewellery- cute or wierd?!
wildmoon · 10/01/2023 15:57

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 15:56

Also ring on right now..

I got the stones made by Cumbria Life Casting and a private jeweller set the stones into diamonds. 🙂

Absolutely STUNNING. Thankyou for sharing. I must admit a lot of these comments were making me think I was a wierdo but you have given me the confidence to go ahead with it.

Thankyou xx

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Em4815 · 10/01/2023 16:01

@wildmoon - sorry can't seem to reply on the app but search 'Make it Mine - keepsakes by Ali' on Facebook - she made my necklace 🙂

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 16:01

You're very welcome. They've made me so happy and helped me come to terms with finishing feeding my last every baby at 18m. ❤️

tirednewmumm · 10/01/2023 16:07

tillytoodles1 · 10/01/2023 14:14

For those of us who didnt/couldn't breastfeed, I find the idea very smug as if we don't count, even though we have healthy kid s too. Maybe I should get one made from SMA.

This is odd though, one person commemorating something they do doesn't have any impact on anyone else surely? If you go on holiday to Italy this year and bring back a fabulous souvenir it doesn't mean my holiday to Somerset doesn't count!

Bestcatmum · 10/01/2023 16:11

I really don't think it matters what anyone thinks tbh. Is someone wants it they should have it. I had my sons first tooth put into a locket. The Victoria's were great fans of jewellery made of hair. I have a piece made out of my great grandmother's hair.

RampantIvy · 10/01/2023 16:12

To me there was/is just nothing particularly commemorative about breastfeeding to put breastmilk into a locket or whatever. I fed my child but I never seen it as a ‘journey’ or an ‘achievement’ any more than other parts of motherhood.

That’s exactly how I feel. I found it very hard at first and it was very painful, but I managed to get through the pain barrier when DD was about 12 weeks old.

It’s fine to be proud, but I think for a lot of strong breastfeeding advocates it crosses over into somewhat of an identity - hence wearing breastmilk jewellery, it just seems attention seeking

There’re a few posters who seem quite affronted that not all of us are as charmed as they seem to be by the idea of breast milk being turned into jewellery and seem quite sure that that just mean we didn’t breastfeed. 😆

Some of us did but didn’t buy into the whole ‘this means I’m an amazing mama with magic boobs’

I agree with the above. I don’t think I’m special because I managed, after some difficulty, to breastfeed my baby.

I have been thinking about this and trying to articulate why this is something I wouldn’t have wanted to do. So pinching ideas from other posts on this thread I think these are why it is an odd thing to do (to me)

Breastfeeding is natural and while it is best for baby I don’t understand the worship breastfeeding gets from some women to the point of fetishising it.
I didn’t love breastfeeding and I don’t understand what there is to love about it. It was just a way to feed my baby (after an awful start). I didn’t get any physical enjoyment out of it, and I don’t believe that it helps bond any more than just cuddling and interacting with your baby.
I didn’t find breastfeeding any more “meaningful” than playing with DD or changing her nappy. It was a just a means of nourishing or comforting her.
I don’t understand why some women want to sentimentalise or commemorate their breastfeeding days, nor do I understand why some women feel the need to build their identity around it.
I don’t feel the need to be reminded that I breastfed DD. I know I did, and that’s enough.

I think the whole 'yeah I fed my child and so what' attitude is a lot worse than somebody thinking 'I'm proud of this stage of my life, and want a small way for me to remember it'

Why?

IMO the way some women worship breastfeeding I can see why they get called the breastapo by bottle feeders.

I want to make it clear that I don’t find the idea gross, more
a case of “why would you?” The jewellery shown on here is quite pretty, but I would rather have an opal than solidified breastmilk.

Cuppasoupmonster · 10/01/2023 16:14

HaroldsDoggyBowl · 10/01/2023 15:56

Also ring on right now..

I got the stones made by Cumbria Life Casting and a private jeweller set the stones into diamonds. 🙂

Hope you’re not preparing food for other people with that on 🤮

Cuppasoupmonster · 10/01/2023 16:15

To be honest it would be less weird to make a necklace out of your baby’s first teeth or something 😂 business idea for the crunchy baby led weaning mums?!