My partner works as a police officer and is also an extremely light sleeper, before DC was born has no problem falling asleep on the sofa but now DC is born wants to have the bedroom himself and thinks that I should take the bassinet into living room as he wakes up when baby wakes and then can’t get back to sleep.
I understand he has to be alert for his job, but feel like it’s unfair I have to lug baby and bassinet downstairs every night.
we don’t have a spare room, live in a one bed and can’t afford to upsize yet.
Our baby is 11 weeks.
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Is it fair DC and I have to sleep in the living room?
beefinthetrifle · 08/08/2022 02:08
dreamingofsun · 08/08/2022 09:35
I cant believe some of the stupid suggestions on here. No wonder there are so many single parent famiies around.
He is trying to hold down a detailed and dangerous/stressful job with limited sleep. This must be a nightmare. Driving fast, dealing with people and knives if you arent on your top game doesnt bear thinking about.
Talk to each other to find a solution. This might be moving to a bigger place, or you going back to work so you can earn more money to enable this Ignore the knee jerk idiot suggestions made by some on here
beefinthetrifle · 08/08/2022 09:57
I don't sleep with DC on the sofa, I sleep on sofa and he sleeps in bassinet. We do have plans to rent a two bed when DC is one, so this will probably help a lot jn terms of sleeping arrangements. I guess what's hit home and I know this is something I should have realised earlier and very naive of me, is that it's unlikely he will help me with housework, cooking and with baby because he doesn't that much now.
His days off are his days off, he won't even come for a walk with us.
I don't want to leave but keep hoping it will get better. I'm not sure what the best thing to do is.
Ellie56 · 08/08/2022 10:29
I don't want to leave but keep hoping it will get better. I'm not sure what the best thing to do is.
It's not going to get better. He's a lazy selfish twat and you deserve better. I would dump him now. As PP said then you will only have one child to deal with.
Tanith · 08/08/2022 08:49
"To the poster asking about male police officers. I know one fairly decent one but the rest tend not to be a nice bunch. It attracts some awful people."
The police officers I've known have all been decent, considerate men, too. Sorry to be NAMALT.
However, this one definitely needs a rocket up his backside!
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Aquamarine1029 · 08/08/2022 02:56
If I were you, I would go to my parents for a good long while, and tell my husband that if he doesn't grow up, I will be filing for divorce. Your husband is being completely unreasonable.
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