What are the hardest years?

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As a parent of a 14 mo, I wonder what would you say are the hardest year(s) of raising a kiddo?

Teens, when they're bullied.

You may as well have ripped out my heart and broken it in front of me.

I’m finding 18/19 the hardest yet. They have independence but no wisdom or awareness. And there’s very little you can do…

Teenage years without a shadow of doubt . I have more than one child and was the case for all of them

The toddler years but they make up for it by being hilarious!

Mine are currently 14 and 11 (they're easy peasy right now) but we roar with laughter when I tell them their antics as toddlers.

DD2 was particularly difficult. Her tantrums were EPIC, she was so strong willed and bossy! She's so placid and lovely now though. I mean she was lovely then but I was almost bald .

With both my dds definitely 13-14. Obviously physically easier and more time to yourself but emotionally the toughest years by far. Looking back it was all part of them becoming their own people and hard for me to let go . Also they were arseholes

With my eldest, I’d say 16-19 were by far the worst. He was incredibly easy til 15. And then he was just impossible - wouldn’t do things and there was no way to compel him.

Teens/young adulthood.

1-17

Only joking... I think the worst bits are when they are ill, whatever age.

But personally I found 10, the top of primary, felt very dramatic with all of them.

14-18 is hard. They think they know fucking everything 🙄

In this order-
12-17
2-4
0-1
4-12

3-4 IMO - they are so stubborn and argumentative but have no sense.

(My eldest is 13 so I may change my mind!)

Teens. You can't fix their problems like you can with a little kid and it's heartbreaking.

Girls 9-12 because of the bullying , back biting and general meanness.
Boys for us 14-16 but that was mainly down to choice of school .

Oh dear my DD is 12, and us still largely delightful..... but it sounds like storms are a'comin'

DS was hard work when he was a toddler. Then he was easy from 4 to 14. The last year he's been very difficult (he's 15 now.) Like a pp said I can't compel him to do anything and he just won't talk to us about anything.

Teens..specifically 16-19. Now 21 almost 22 and an absolute delight!

Everything else was a breeze in comparison!

Teens. And my dd is only 13

Toddlers and teens....can't decide which is worse

I adore tiny babies and the primary years are lovely!

Either 0-3 or 13-18 depending on the child.

Teens. It usually kicks off around year 9 I find.

0-1 and 16/17.

First 6 months - hideous
Toddler years - draining because they need a lot of supervision
5-10/11 Generally easier though lots of running around to different activities/parties etc.
12 - only reached here but already finding it tough. Lots more emotions and attitude. I'm much more worried about my DD than I have been in the past and don't seem to be able to sort things out for her as easily as I did when she was younger. Also, there is so much advice for when they are babies and toddlers but there seems to be much less around for older children. I am approaching the early teen years with trepidation.

Teens

14 was the worst for my girls, 16-17 for my ds.

They were typical babies, toddlers etc. Quite strong willed throughout but we expected that, the combination of mine and dh's genes was always going to produce strong willed kids!

They each had a difficult time, with dd1 she was borderline anorexic and looked after by camhs, with ds he was running away and being brought home by the police, and was seeing a psychologist via camhs, and with dd2 it was school refusal which was dealt with by ... you guessed it .... camhs! We were fairly well known by the end of it all. Now dd1 is at art school, thriving, ds has, after a couple of years out, been accepted to train as a nurse, and dd2 never refuses to go to college where she's training to be a beauty therapist. It all works out in the end!

Teens. 14- 18 particularly so