Would you stop visiting a friend who had a dirty house?

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As the title says really!
Friend is a lovely person - so are the children but the dirt!!!
I can't bear it kitchen, bathroom and car are particularly bad.
I don't want to visit the house anymore

Anyone else had similar experience?

No I wouldn't stop visiting.

Depends how bad, my dads house is pretty bad and I don’t like going, you could always meet outside park etc?

How old are the DC? If very young (and crawling) then definitely yes.

I wouldn't stop overnight but I wouldn't stop short visits.

Yes. My parents house is terrible. I won’t go in there now after many years trying to help. We stay in air B and B and visit outside or a restaurants/ zoo/ national trusts

No.
I had a friend who was a hoarder.
The house was indescribably horrific.
Full to the rafters and filthy.
My friend was just the most loveliest person though
Thoroughly enjoyed her company.
Tried to avoid going to the house and meet out instead..

My ex-step-MIL's house is absolutely disgusting and falling apart. She makes an effort to clean up when we come round, but last time we stayed over the sheets on the bed were so filthy I couldn't sleep from the smell. We don't stop overnight any more.

Yep, more of an acquaintance than a friend, we did the same self employed job and there was a group of us who used to meet up as part of a networking thing in each other’s homes.

Her home always smelt unclean, smokey and stale (And she smelt like her home). The house although tidy never seemed clean. She would hoover and the kitchen sides were clean, but sofa cushions were stained and paint work dirty. Kitchen floor not swept and bathroom not clean. the curtains were always closed and the lights on, meaning you could never see the sunshine and always sat in artificial light. Windows were never opened even on the warmest days. As I went in, I always used to try and leave the door open as long as I could- I’d forget something On purpose and leave the door open as I ran back to the car to fetch it to try to let some fresh air in or start a conversation with her as I stood on the doorstep, things like that. We would go home and be able to smell the house on our clothes as it was so strong. In spring/summer/warm days, We used to hint about opening the windows or patio doors to let the fresh air in, but it always fell on deaf ears.
It got to the point that when it was her turn to host, Everyone would make excuses and no one would go which was a bit sad. I don’t do that job anymore but imagine it’s still the same now. The

I stopped taking my children to my parents who were heavy smokers and very dirty but would pick them up and bring them to mine with the proviso that they smoked outside away from grandchildren. I couldn't have eaten there so always arranged meals out for birthdays. Perhaps meeting somewhere neutral will enable you to stay friends.

I wouldn't be able to visit her. I despise dirt.

Sadly I’ve had to stop visiting the house of a good, kind friend due to the fact that it’s filthy, smells and she is happy to live with it. I am not fussy at all, but the kitchen and bathroom in particular are so bad I can’t drink a cuppa there or use the toilet.
I meet her in town or invite her and her big do to mine instead. She is such a kind person but her house is the stuff of nightmares.

I guess it depends on your definition of dirty.

It wouldn’t unless I felt it was a risk to mine or my DC health to go there. As my PIL unfortunately is. A bit of grime then I can cope with that. Many of my friends have spotless houses and I’m sure some of them would think mine was grubby.

Dog not do!

Meet elsewhere.

There's no need not to see your friend but meet at parks, cafes, your house etc instead.

Would not be visiting. She can come to mine.

Addendum is that depending on what level of 'dirty' it is I would offer help and if other concerns/not taking up offer of help, contact SS if there are children living there.

Yes I would stop going. I cant stand filth.

Yes, I can't bear it, nothing as bad as a filthy bathroom or kitchen. Untidy is different to dirt though. I can do untidy but I cannot do filth.

I don't think I would stop going, but it depends on if I had a crawling baby and how dirty it really was.

I would try and meet up outside/softplay/our house

I would stop going. It would make me unwell physically.

I had a friend like this. The house was revolving. Dog shit everywhere and the garden stunk so bad of it. The kids would do crazy shit like empty a box of cereal on the floor and pou milk and sugar on top like it was normal. I couldn't have her at my house because the kids were so feral, 6 of them. I tried meeting her in parks etc and she would offer me a lift home which i had to refuse as the car was stomach churning. We drifted apart.

Yes. I met a seemingly nice woman at a baby group. Her house and the inside of her car were absolutely filthy, and she didn't try to stop her kids from ruining things at my house - smearing sticky, chocolatey hands on the walls, wiping their dirty faces on sofa cushions, pouring juice all over toys. No thank you! We are no longer friends.

I still visit my friends house. She's a really good friend whose house is dirty and untidy because both her and her partner have poor mental health and have let things get to the point that it overwhelms them. They've recently hired a cleaner to help them get on top of things and I hope it helps.

I'd never stay overnight though

Yes, I would meet outside or invite them to mine