Going out in pyjamas

[Jolie12345]

I often do the school run or pop to the local shop in the evening in my pyjamas. And I wouldn’t be ashamed to turn up to a friends or families house without putting on proper clothes. I’ve always been more interested in being comfortable than looking my best. I work from home so even if I do get dressed I come back and put pjs back on. Is it just me? Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?

@ShallWeTalkAboutBruno

I’m still bothered about the washing issue. OP do you wash and change your underwear before doing the school run in your pyjamas!??

Why does it matter to you?

Surely, you can't tell how clean other parents knickers are on the school run?

@Happy36

Is this a reverse?

If you want to be comfortable, what's wrong with jogging bottoms?

What the objective difference between jogging bottoms and PJ bottoms? Other than which aisle they're in.

To answer your question, yes I do judge people who head out in their pyjamas, unless it’s in A&E or they’re unwell (physically or mentally). Unless they fall into one of the above categories I would assume they were lazy, a bit weird, unhygienic and probably jobless.

It’s skanky. Wandering round in shops or on the school run in clothes you’ve slept in? Gross. Shows a lack of self respect and respect for those around you.

Interestingly nobody seems to be learning that their assumptions could be wrong. I’ve said I wash, change my underwear, have a good job and nice home. I have self respect to the point that my comfort means more to me than what other people think of me, and what other people think I should feel about myself. Yet more of you are still adding comments to say that you’d assume I was dirty/jobless/ill.

Why does it matter to you?

It matters to me just like any post on Mumsnet about a load of people I don’t know… not a jot. But if no one commented on things that didn’t matter to them personally, MN would be a pretty dull place 🤷🏻‍♀️.

@Bobbins36

It’s skanky. Wandering round in shops or on the school run in clothes you’ve slept in? Gross. Shows a lack of self respect and respect for those around you.

If it’s clean, not smelly, not revealing…how is it disrespectful to you or anyone else?

@NuffSaidSam 👏

I have self respect to the point that my comfort means more to me than what other people think of me, and what other people think I should feel about myself. Yet you posted on Mumsnet asking people about their opinions

I see pyjamas as intimate apparel. Like underwear. I just think it’s lazy, slovenly.

What does strike me as odd is that you say you shower and wear make up. But still wear pyjamas (although freshly cleaned). I think it’s odd. That’s all.

But you do what you like. It’s your choice. But you can see from the majority that you are in the minority. And that wearing pyjamas outside (although freshly cleaned, you showered and made up facially) is just lazy.

My only concern is the effect it might have on your children. They could be embarrassed Mine would be and I would never ever wear pyjamas out and about. It’s lazy, embarrassing, drawing attention to myself in a wrong way

Maybe this is what this is about. Your drawing attention to yourself. That you just don’t give two fucks. At all. Shame really. As I’m sure you’re really nice. But I would avoid you and think, crikey, she’s a bit odd.

@ShallWeTalkAboutBruno

Why does it matter to you?

It matters to me just like any post on Mumsnet about a load of people I don’t know… not a jot. But if no one commented on things that didn’t matter to them personally, MN would be a pretty dull place 🤷🏻‍♀️.

You said the washing issue was bothering you.

Why?

That's what's interesting. Because it doesn't actually affect you does it? Even in real life. Even if the mum stood in the queue next to you on the school run hadn't put clean knickers on that morning....so what?

I asked if anyone else does it and if they judge. Not what they think of me

@Vickles20

I see pyjamas as intimate apparel. Like underwear. I just think it’s lazy, slovenly.

What does strike me as odd is that you say you shower and wear make up. But still wear pyjamas (although freshly cleaned). I think it’s odd. That’s all.

But you do what you like. It’s your choice. But you can see from the majority that you are in the minority. And that wearing pyjamas outside (although freshly cleaned, you showered and made up facially) is just lazy.

My only concern is the effect it might have on your children. They could be embarrassed Mine would be and I would never ever wear pyjamas out and about. It’s lazy, embarrassing, drawing attention to myself in a wrong way

Maybe this is what this is about. Your drawing attention to yourself. That you just don’t give two fucks. At all. Shame really. As I’m sure you’re really nice. But I would avoid you and think, crikey, she’s a bit odd.

Brilliant 😂

And that wearing pyjamas outside (although freshly cleaned, you showered and made up facially) is just lazy.

But it isn't is it?

Objectively, you have to accept that putting trousers and a top on takes the same amount of energy, no matter what department you bought the clothes in? You can't seriously be suggesting that it somehow takes more effort to put jeans on, than PJ bottoms? They're both just trousers. You put them on the same way.

I will grant you that it takes more effort to put tights on, so maybe tight wearers are the true hard workers. But anyone in trousers/leggings has put in the same physical effort to getting dressed.

Try maternity clothes @Jolie12345 if you have a very bloated belly that hasn't yet been sorted the maternity clothes can be quite comfy.

@NuffSaidSam

And that wearing pyjamas outside (although freshly cleaned, you showered and made up facially) is just lazy.

But it isn't is it?

Objectively, you have to accept that putting trousers and a top on takes the same amount of energy, no matter what department you bought the clothes in? You can't seriously be suggesting that it somehow takes more effort to put jeans on, than PJ bottoms? They're both just trousers. You put them on the same way.

I will grant you that it takes more effort to put tights on, so maybe tight wearers are the true hard workers. But anyone in trousers/leggings has put in the same physical effort to getting dressed.

@paname

Try maternity clothes *@Jolie12345* if you have a very bloated belly that hasn't yet been sorted the maternity clothes can be quite comfy.

Thank you. I’ve considered it, but it almost draws more attention to the bloat. Maybe I need to try some different styles

I think it's unhygienic to come home and go to bed in clothes you've been out shopping in and likewise to go out in clothes you've been to bed in. That's what really bothers me not so much the look (which I don't like personally but doesn't impact me).

A floaty maternity top that's fitted through the bust over maternity jeans won't show the elastic band at all. I bet you'd look great. JoJo Maman and Gap both so lovely things. You can usually pick up them up gently used and second hand for pennies on Facebook marketplace or the like. But also you really ought to see the GP if you're bloated to that extent.

@paname

A floaty maternity top that's fitted through the bust over maternity jeans won't show the elastic band at all. I bet you'd look great. JoJo Maman and Gap both so lovely things. You can usually pick up them up gently used and second hand for pennies on Facebook marketplace or the like. But also you really ought to see the GP if you're bloated to that extent.

It’s a long term problem (PCOS). Comes and goes but even on a good day I’m very much apple shaped which is typically not catered for in the “less offensive” jeans and nice top territory

It really depends on the style. If it's actually proper fluffy/flannel pj's yes the people on this thread would judge.

The real funny thing is that they pass a lot more people during the day that haven't washed, slept in their jeans, just woke up and pulled on whatever they found on the floor , wear loungewear etc. But they have no idea because it's "real" clothes.

I don't wear pyjamas but I have "house" clothes. Mostly oversized tshirts and tracksuit bottoms,yoga bottoms,leggings.
I could get up ,pull them on spend the whole day in them and then go out or spend all day in bed miserable for a week and somehow be "better" than someone else because I'm wearing "real" clothes.

I wear leggings and jumpers/hoodies. I don't even own pjs as I sleep in the buff. I don't see why you can't chuck something like that on for the school run. You look as if you're not coping with life if you can't get up 5min earlier to shove some comfy clothes on.

@ldontWanna

It really depends on the style. If it's actually proper fluffy/flannel pj's yes the people on this thread would judge.

The real funny thing is that they pass a lot more people during the day that haven't washed, slept in their jeans, just woke up and pulled on whatever they found on the floor , wear loungewear etc. But they have no idea because it's "real" clothes.

I don't wear pyjamas but I have "house" clothes. Mostly oversized tshirts and tracksuit bottoms,yoga bottoms,leggings.
I could get up ,pull them on spend the whole day in them and then go out or spend all day in bed miserable for a week and somehow be "better" than someone else because I'm wearing "real" clothes.

I was thinking about this. If people suggesting it’s disrespectful to wear clean pyjamas, would they think it is disrespectful to wear a suit with a coffee spill? Or jeans that hadn’t been washed for three wears?

I'm With you OP but unfortunately the world is filled with people who judge for pathetic reasons. It's not hurting anyone so don't see why people feel superior and look down on this

You said the washing issue was bothering you

In a ‘I’m vaguely interested, it’s pissing it down with rain outside and I’m bored’ kind of way, not a ‘I must know if the OP has a fresh smelling vagina right now’ kind of way.
I don’t know the OP (I’m 100% certain of that as I don’t know anyone who wears pyjamas on the school run). I don’t really give a shit how she smells. I’m just whiling away some time on an internet forum, like everyone else on here.
There are various degrees of being ‘bothered’. I am bothered to a pretty low degree. It’s a chat forum.