Going out in pyjamas

[Jolie12345]

I often do the school run or pop to the local shop in the evening in my pyjamas. And I wouldn’t be ashamed to turn up to a friends or families house without putting on proper clothes. I’ve always been more interested in being comfortable than looking my best. I work from home so even if I do get dressed I come back and put pjs back on. Is it just me? Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?

I think it's lazy and I hate seeing people out in pyjamas.

[quote cultkid]@Jolie12345 I would probably stand beside you in the playground

Seriously though eye opening what everyone thinks isn't it? I only judge people in belly tops and their bums hanging out on the school run. Just awful! [/quote]
It really is fascinating. I am genuinely surprised that more people aren’t admitting that they’d happily wear pjs for life if it weren’t for fear of judgment. Before I had kids I was fashion obsessed. I knew a girl who went out in pjs and I actually respected her for not caring what people though. I do not expect that respect myself but I’m still surprised how much it offends other people 🤷‍♀️

I think it would depend.
Does it look like you've slept in it? Has it been the same ones all week? Do you otherwise like you're struggling day to day with basic stuff? I'd be worried you were depressed or struggling

If you looked clean, I'd just think it an odd choice, lots of slouchy teashirts and bottoms that aren't pajamas but you'd only be given a passing thought.

Oh I definitely do. But not based on appearance. I judge based on how people treat others.

Of course you do whether you realise it or not, it’s primal.

I don’t even like answering my own front door if I’m still in nightie and dressing gown. It just looks slovenly.

@NuffSaidSam

It doesn't matter OP, you're absolutely right. But that kind of out of the box thinking hurts people's brains. It's easier to just think in line with everyone else.

Objectively, it makes absolutely no difference. Clothes are to keep you covered, for decency and warmth. Whether those clothes come form the PJ section or not, clearly doesn't actually matter. It's a similar problem with gendered clothing. Or as a PP said the difference between wearing a bra and knickers on the beach v a bikini. There's no actual difference, but we've been so conditioned to believe that there is, that it matters, it's almost painful to think otherwise.

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I knew a girl who went out in pjs and I actually respected her for not caring what people though

There you go, you made a judgment on her appearance, you ‘respected’ her for her choice.

@AmberLynn1536

I knew a girl who went out in pjs and I actually respected her for not caring what people though

There you go, you made a judgment on her appearance, you ‘respected’ her for her choice.

Accepted.

Its mind blowing isn't it?

I was as well, before kids. Now it's less important but I do wear some pretty strange combinations and that's partly because I'm socially secure in myself

I went to a private high school and the outfits we wore left a lot to be desired. Free t shirts, broken flip flops, old shorts, jumpers that we found in lost property etc. We were so privileged that the way we looked was NOT important. It wasn't a school of kids wearing a huge Moncler badged coat. I mean we all had really nice things too, but we were not flashy at all. Because we all were so lucky, stuff wasn't a thing for us. We also wore slippers in the school or went barefoot. We were very chilled out.

I think it's a privilege to be able to not give a monkey about wearing some pyjama bottoms to school but 100% there is a "type" who stereotypically wear pyjamas in the playground and I would not put myself in with them. However I wouldn't bat an eyelid at jumping out of the car with crocs and socks on to grab my son from school. Someone in a dressing robe and cat pyjamas would be stared at by me because I would assume they hadn't washed etc or gotten ready for the day.

So do we think that people who are particularly worried about pyjamas are insecure and maybe less socially secure in where they sit in society or what is it? It is a privilege in a way to not give a crap isn't it?

Do you think you're secretly a bit arrogant, like me 😂

I don't go out in actual pj bottoms. But I do in lounge wear type trousers.

I never 'get dressed' now I'm working from home. Just clean lounge wear. I don't wear a bra anymore either. Even if I leave the house

It's about showing respect for other people. Whether or not it's a conscious thing, as I've come to understand it, not wearing 'proper' clothes indicates to other people that they aren't worthy of any effort on your part.
It's becoming an increasingly outdated concept, but societies form around these norms and accepted standards. People will instinctively react to anyone who isn't following the rules, because it threatens the status quo. Rightly or wrongly. There have always been rebellious statements made via fashion; I'm still trying to decide if pyjamas during the day is actually a political statement and a big FU to society, or just grim...

@sleepymum50

I don’t even like answering my own front door if I’m still in nightie and dressing gown. It just looks slovenly.

Still in suggests you've worn it to bed though. If you got up, had a shower, did your hair etc and then put on clean, ironed nightie or pajamas, would you still feel slovenly?

Maybe I have lead a sheltered life but I have only ever read about people going out in pyjamas, never actually seen anyone do it. And yes, I would judge you - and not in a positive way.

I had a neighbour,70,who never got dressed, always PJs, going shopping on the bus. I raised concerns with someone who was quite friendly with her, said it wasn't normal behaviour. Was she depressed,or I'll. Was told I was being ridiculous. A few weeks later,she died. In fact she had a form of dementia. So yes, going to make some kind of judgement

I wouldn't judge you for it but I wouldn't go out in PJs myself. That said I do often change out of jeans, skirts etc into jogging bottoms or PJ bottoms when I'm at home just because they are more comfortable. I recently got some Alexa trousers from Lucy and Yak and they are so comfy it feels like I'm wearing pjs in them anyway lol

I have these in various colours (search jersey tapered trousers) and they're really comfy. I WFH in them with a plain t shirt

https://www.marksandspencer.com/jersey-printed-relaxed-tapered-trousers/p/clp60528429?color=NATURALMIX&prevPage=srp#intid=prodColourId-60528434

Saw a lady in a onesie on a dog walk! Jolly chilly as well .She had her coat over it .Just thought maybe she had been ill /not sleeping well or done a night shift!

You can't tell what are pj bottoms and a lot of lounge wear or patterned trousers anyway.

So everyone saying how slovenly people are, chances are you wouldn't even know!

Have you tried wearing magic pants? They are truly magic, and fit even if you feel bloated. Expensive, but worth it because they are the only ones that are actually more comfortable than my pyjamas. 😂

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I dont care what I look like. Not fussed by what other people are wearing but pjs outside? day or night. No. Not unless its an emergency trip to hospital or you've run outside because your house is burning down.

I’m still bothered about the washing issue. OP do you wash and change your underwear before doing the school run in your pyjamas!??

You’ve asked so I’ll answer.

I think it’s lazy and common to be honest. Or, it would raise an amber flag for me that you weren't coping.

It might prompt unwanted discussion in the playground and more importantly in the school.

I think it would be embarrassing for your children too.

@dmb91

I work in a shop and we do judge people who come in wearing pjs. There's no need for it. Had someone maybe early 20s the other day in a short dressing gown and no sign of any bottoms. I just don't feel like it's appropriate.

I wonder if you work in my local post office?!

I popped in the other day and a young woman in a short dressing gown and slippers was at the till😂

Is this a reverse?

If you want to be comfortable, what's wrong with jogging bottoms?

I think it's idle and shows a real lack of pride