Going out in pyjamas

[Jolie12345]

I often do the school run or pop to the local shop in the evening in my pyjamas. And I wouldn’t be ashamed to turn up to a friends or families house without putting on proper clothes. I’ve always been more interested in being comfortable than looking my best. I work from home so even if I do get dressed I come back and put pjs back on. Is it just me? Do you judge people who step out in pj bottoms with trainers?

Oh, no way! You can't go out in your pjs! And especially not to school how embarrassing for the children.

Even if you put jogging bottoms on it's better than pyjamas. You can be comfortable in normal clothes. Get dressed!

I honestly would assume that some was depressed or not coping in some way if they were going out in their night clothes.

Everyone makes snap judgements every minute of the day. It’s what keeps us safe. Anyone who says they don’t is ridiculous, in denial about basic human behaviour, lying.

We make instant decisions about everyone we encounter. You can’t change it even if you pretend it’s not true or you’re somehow an elevated type of human who’s above all that.

But the reality is I have a great job, a lovely home, a happy family etc. Just goes to show that you can’t judge a book by its cover

Out of interest OP, what do you wear on your feet?

I'd assume that if you are wearing PJs out you are either mentally or physically ill.

If you don't mind other people thinking this then that's your prerogative.

Trainers mostly

Bone idle , slovenly and setting a poor example. Seeing people out in their PJ's but sporting a full face of makeup, tidy hair and jewellery makes me roll my eyes. If you can be bothered doing all that, how hard would it have been to put clothes on? I also think it is a bit attention seeking- 'ooh, look at me, I'm so casual and don't care what anyone thinks of me' - if that was the case you wouldn't have bothered with the full face of makeup etc....

I'd think you were lazy.

Too cold and I only wear them when going to bed or after a bath in evening.

Surely they are indoor wear and I don't like the idea of going to bed in something I have been wearing in the house anyway

I think it’s lazy and disgusting (if people just roll out of bed without showering) and it’s disrespectful somehow to others or you can’t even be bothered to shove on some jogging bottoms to greet someone else.
Assuming that you’re not going to be judged is stupid, humans automatically judge on appearance. I do often look a bit of a scruff or not my best (and probably get judged) but I think there is a minimum level of effort needed for leaving the house, which is not wearing pyjamas.
I also think it sets a bad example to kids! As you can see it’s something I’m not keen on

Yes I do care enough to want to look bright skinned and have my hair washed. That is true.

Setting a bad example who who? By the time our kids are my age they’ll probably be wearing something that looks completely alien to us now. And it will almost definitely be driven by comfort and sustainability

@Thethreecs

NO, NO, NO just NO!!!!!

I actually roll my eyes when I see grown ass people in pj's while out. I do be shocked that some put clean ones on to go out? WTF is that all about, for the same amount of time putting on pj's you'd be dressed in actual clothes.

There is no need to wear pj's outdoors, I don't care how comfortable you find them, they look ridiculous. Pj's fine sitting at home doing nothing, in bed, sick.. But shopping, visiting, school, jesus 🙈🙈

This

I wouldn't wear pj's out of the house, except for maybe running down to our gate to collect the post! Certainly not to a shop or someone else's home. To be comfy or laze around the house I wear leggings with a long jumper, or yoga pants.

Thank you for all the different (but mostly the same) perspectives. Given me a lot to think about.

Can't you buy trousers and tops that fit like pyjamas
I think it's important to be presentable and send your children the message that you take care of yourself

I appreciate you're saying that they are comfortable/ fit better but you can sort that by wearing some wide legged cropped trousers and a buttoned or lose top, couldn't you?

Is your other argument to save time you wear them? It's just sloppy tbh. I would be upset if my mum went out in pyjamas or picked my children up from school in pyjamas.

Or do you mean you're wearing like oatmeal coloured matching trousers and tops more like a yoga outfit? Can you show us a pic of one of the outfits you wear of your pyjamas?

I wouldn't want my children to think I didn't care about my appearance and I also get dressed every day no matter how sick I am because it does affect my mood in the end. Even at hospital I wake up and shower and dress myself.

Aren't pyjamas a bit revealing in public and flimsy and do you out a bra and kickers on underneath?

Tracksuit bottom is better but only wear those at home apart from in lockdown with outdoor walk before work

@AnneLovesGilbert

Everyone makes snap judgements every minute of the day. It’s what keeps us safe. Anyone who says they don’t is ridiculous, in denial about basic human behaviour, lying.

We make instant decisions about everyone we encounter. You can’t change it even if you pretend it’s not true or you’re somehow an elevated type of human who’s above all that.

I agree with Anne and my snap judgement would be that you are lazy

I hate uncomfortable clothes too OP. I wear alot of soft leggings with loose fitted soft jumpers or cardigans with t shirts - wouldn't leave the house in pyjamas or lounge wear myself as I would feel like I was out in my underwear 😅

I wouldn't judge someone for wearing lounge wear but proper pyjamas I would assume the person didn't wash or was too lazy to dress or hungover - even though its not always the case but that would still be my snap judgement

I always wear knickers and bra 😂

Why don't you wear something like this instead?

www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/morton-knitted-joggers-milkshake/sty-k0397-lpk

Never come across this in my friendship circles but one mum does this at school. It’s part of a bigger picture of issues with ss involvement. Realistically I think most people would be concerned about someone if it was a one off but just them if they just lived in pjs. Just get dressed!

I absolutely would. In fact I might just order some now. But, IMO, these look like pyjamas

It’s probably not part of the bigger picture with ss at all 😂

CanI understand you wear pj's to bed,get up, shower, put on makeup sabd then put on fresh pair of pj's?

If that's the case you can find enough pj's that are comfortable but can't find suitable relaxed clothes? I don't think that's correct.

There are lots of comfortable relaxed clothes. Pj's look like pj's and signals you have got out of bed very recently. You of course can dress how you like, given there isn't a law against it but you will create a perception of not coping with life. This might be very tough for your children to deal with.

I imagine these posts in 20 years- my mum was never conventional she would go out in her pj's and we were told to accept it.
However it did reflect on us and we were often asked if our mum was OK. It stopped us bringing friends home because she was always in pj's. I wanted to be proud of my mum but she felt her comfort was more important.

I struggle to see the difference between pyjama bottoms and patterned trousers?

None of my clothes are actually uncomfortable. All natural fibres, comfort fit etc. some smarter than others.

However, if am going out, I would get up, shower, do my teeth and put on clean clothes. Anything I wore in bed last night goes into the laundry basket.

No judgement from me about the shape and fabric of your clothes. I would not go out without the wash and clean clothes routine.

Going out in my PJs to me means ass I was when I got out of bed. Not lovely. More about the musty smell than the look TBH.