Sleepless mums thread #2 come and join us! zZzZz

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Other one is nearly full so thought I'd get this one ready!
@ayylauren
@Ijustneedtosleep21
@JammyRedRooo
@LemonElephant
@LCF2021
@MintGreenLife
@Mytigerhasstripyfeet
@Sneezymcsneezy
@mummabubs
@jmj90

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@LCF2021 can you explain controlled crying to me? I have tried leaving my DD to cry for max 3 mins at a time but she won't settle when I return so how does it work?
Only settles once picked up and rocked/fed

I've given up trying to predict anything 🤦🏻‍♀️😅 two days ago she actually napped in the day and then she only woke once that night, and old numpty here felt that might be a sign that things were on the up. She's been up every 40 minutes since putting her down at 7:30. I'm ready to leave now 🤣 (Laughing emoji because I'm past crying at this point (!)) Hope others are getting more sleep x

@TooManyAnimals94 Both of my kids have been the same in that they haven’t necessarily settled when I’ve gone in to them but it’s more just of a reassurance check for them and you. We go up in increments of time too and ultimately how long you leave it depends on your comfort level. Personally we leave up to 20 mins which sounds (and feels) like an awfully long time but to be honest I’ve had car journeys with DD where she’s screaming for longer than that but I can’t pull over. You can either just verbally reassure at the door and say “time to sleep now, night night. I’ll be back in a minute” or go in and give them a tummy or back stroke for leave the room after a minute or two even if they’re still crying. We go in after 2 mins, 5 mins, 10, 15, 20. We’ve only made it to 20 mins once or twice. You also apply the same approach to naps.

Hi all, new to this thread but think I'm going through the dreaded 4 month sleep regression. Brought my baby to bed at 10pm, got him sleeping in his crib at 23:05. He woke crying at 23:15 so I got him up, quick Feed and back down again for 23:45. I actually managed to grab some sleep then but he woke again at 00:30 so I'm back trying to put him down again. The night feels so long right now.

Will I ever have a full nights sleep again? Honestly it's exhausting. I'm fed up with seeing every hour on the clock every night!

Hiya, I'm joining with my 5 day old newborn. My first DD was awful sleeper so I'm nervous about how the next year is looking.

@thingymaboob

Hiya, I'm joining with my 5 day old newborn. My first DD was awful sleeper so I'm nervous about how the next year is looking.

Welcome. I will hope for a great sleeper for you 🤞

Well, I got 2 x 2 hour sleeps last night which actually makes it one of the best nights in a while.

@shivawn

Well, I got 2 x 2 hour sleeps last night which actually makes it one of the best nights in a while.

That's what I did too. I tried swaddling and white noise - not sure whether it made a difference. Was awake 1-4 which is normal for a newborn.

Had a sleep 11pm-12 and have been awake cluster feeding ever since

Weaning and teething, it's getting difficult 😴

Also new to this thread!! Wish I had found it sooner, on my third wake up of the night so far so not too bad, why do they refuse sleep?! Sleep is great babies please learn that. DH really suffering with Covid as well so I'm on my own with my gorgeous but sleepless baby

Hi all! I’ve got a 10 day old and the feeding is feeling truly punishing. I’ve had about 2hrs broken sleep since trying to settle him last night, and the last two hours he’s been cluster feeding. I put him down and he immediately wakes and wants food.

I’m furious at my DP who is happily asleep, and barely stirs when baby cries. She listens to rain noise to help her sleep, so apparently can’t hear him. I’ll try and wake her on occasion to help with a nappy change (I’m still recovering from an emergency C section), and it’s like trying to raise the dead. She’ll fall back asleep/take ages to get up, all while baby is crying and fussing.

@notpsychic that sounds just like my little one! Only sleeps 30 to 45 minutes, as soon as I pick him up he falls asleep immediately 😩 im breastfeeding, what dietary changes have you made? Did it make any difference? He has the odd bottle and finds it harder to latch then, plus i keep the room super dark at night so its hard to tell how his latch is through the night. Havr you spoken to GP or HV about reflux?

@Sleeplesschristmas yes exactly same situation. So we’re trying some medicine for reflux. What does you baby do when they wake? Mine arches their back abs moves head side to side which is in response to the acid I think. It’s been getting progressively worse abs she screams at night now.

@notpsychic when he wakes up hes very fidgety, but he doesn't wake to feed if its only been half an hour or hour. As soon as you pick him up and put his head on your shoulder its like he is instantly soothed snd falls to sleep straight away, snoring even!
The other morning he was coughing and spluttering even though he hadnt fed for a couple of hours ☹️

@Sleeplesschristmas exactly the same as my girl. Sounds like silent reflux to me. Coughing and spluttering due to acid regurgitation. Is your bub also congested a lot? How old are they?
My girl wakes rubbing her face.
Been on the medication 10 days now and yet to see impact.

@notpsychic he isnt too bad congestion wise though he has got a wheezy cough at the moment.
Hes almost 11 weeks, and is pretty content during the day just absolutely hates being put on his back!

@notpsychic its a shame thatr medication isnt helping your little one. Mine seems to have good days and bad days with the possible reflux, not got meds for it just had some advice from HVt. I know my friends daughter had gaviscon for silent reflux and it made a huge difference, so hopefully when it kicks in she will improve.
At this point, I feel like im the only one who thinks anything is wrong. When I say to DH or grandparents they all say he's fine which makes me question myself. Hes not a sicky baby and he's definitely putting weight on/growing. How old is your little one? When did you decide to go to the GP with it?

Heeeeey just seen this thread and well, I need it 😢. Even if it’s just solidarity.

Our 19.5 month old is awake what feels like all the time 😭he’s teething and snotty and awake from 5:45-20:30, he does nap for 1-2 hours at lunch but we can’t nap with him because there’s other stuff to do. Our 4.5 month old wakes every 2-3 hours through the night😢. It’s getting beyond exhausting now.

We tried to stay in the room with her to settle but it made her worse
Our first was like that, everyone sold me the idea you’re meant to stay with them, it’s what you do as a parent to help them get to sleep. Yeah right, it used to take 3 hours for him to drop off with a cycle of feeding, singing, rocking, cuddling.. repeat a few times. Then we tried leaving him alone to drop off and he did it on the first night after 12 minutes. All that time we stayed with him and it was us that was the problem 😂. There’s probably many more like him except parents are told it’s the right thing to do.

Luckily our second has settled on his own since birth, I couldn’t believe my luck when he arrived after everything we went through with DS1🤭

@Eumy

Hi all! I’ve got a 10 day old and the feeding is feeling truly punishing. I’ve had about 2hrs broken sleep since trying to settle him last night, and the last two hours he’s been cluster feeding. I put him down and he immediately wakes and wants food.

I’m furious at my DP who is happily asleep, and barely stirs when baby cries. She listens to rain noise to help her sleep, so apparently can’t hear him. I’ll try and wake her on occasion to help with a nappy change (I’m still recovering from an emergency C section), and it’s like trying to raise the dead. She’ll fall back asleep/take ages to get up, all while baby is crying and fussing.

Mine is 7 days old, I'm recovering from c section too and the feeding at night is awful. I forgot how tough cluster feeding is

@ijustneedtosleep21 I know the feeling!! Which hour do you reckon is the worst to br awake? I think 4 am is the horror hour. I was up from 315 to 530 this morning trying to settle baby to sleep 😴

Slept 11:30 until 12:45. No sign of getting back to me sleep. She's wide awake. She's had breastfeed and a formula top up.

@thingymaboob that’s SO TOUGH

I’ve been up ever 1 hour to 1.5 hours again. And she sleeps on me.

@Sleeplesschristmas I know what you mean about questioning yourself. I do all the time. But I can’t lie my daughter down now. Everyone just says I’m making bad habits. My daughter is 5mo. We went to go and HV as d have a paeds referral pending. I’m not convinced the meds are helping. Gavinscon can cause wind which we had so stopped it

We've had 50 minutes sleep at midnight, (after nap finished at 3.45pm)not gone down since.