Sleepless mums thread #2 come and join us! zZzZz

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Other one is nearly full so thought I'd get this one ready!
@ayylauren
@Ijustneedtosleep21
@JammyRedRooo
@LemonElephant
@LCF2021
@MintGreenLife
@Mytigerhasstripyfeet
@Sneezymcsneezy
@mummabubs
@jmj90

(Apologies if I haven't tagged you it won't show any other usernames on my phone )

I think the wee man is reading my posts because he was so much better last night and only clingy and sucky once the whole night... let's hope we're on the way out the other side of this shitshow 🤞🏻

Fingers crossed xx

I spent from 2-2.30 back and forth to the twins room, gave up at 2.30 and "slept" on the floor so I could pat whichever one woke up. Was not a good night sleep all round but I did get them through to 7 when DH was getting up with eldest anyway. I went back to bed.

Glad to hear a bit more sleep happening for some. We started omeprazol. Yet to see a difference (although she is def windier). Last night I had to resort to holding her in a chair because she wouldn’t lie down after 2am.

I can’t quite believe that I have seen every hour of the night and day in some form in the past 7 weeks.

@SleepingStandingUp @notpsychic have you tried / considered co-sleeping?

Yeah we co sleep but still wakes every 45 mins. Things seem to have gotten worse where I can’t lay her on her back any longer. She screams and is really wheezy.

[quote Sneezymcsneezy]**@SleepingStandingUp* @notpsychic* have you tried / considered co-sleeping?[/quote]
Too many babies.

If one is really unsettled I bring them to my bed but it's hit and miss if they sleep or not. T1 in particular loves holding the bed frame and jumping / emptying the adjacent shelves.

Even if one settles, I'm then screwed if the other one wakes up as they're usually asleep in my arm. I have to wake up DH

Argh! I thought things were getting better as he has settled himself a couple of times during the night recently, but decided last night that he would wake frequently again and not settle.. couldn't even feed him to sleep! To make matters worse the last week or so his naps (which are all in a sling) have become increasingly difficult. He knows what's coming and fights it so much! No idea how to get him drowsy now, nothing works anymore! 😩😭

Sending Frazzled. Is he going through a regression do you think?

My two decided to get naked once Daddy left them. He redressed them, came down for dinner. Heard banging. I went up and redressed them again. I stayed with them whilst DH ate tea then helped settle one then went for my tea. DH eventually ended up on a 30 minute walk around the estate at 9 o clock to get t 1 down
Oy woke twice in the night tho and largely went down easily (t2 in our bed fro m 5)

Hi all. Inly just found this thread again. Sorry to hear everyone's having such a rough time. Our minor improvements have totally gone out the window and I've now got an even heavier, wriggling non sleeper who just will never ever settle or nap longer than 30 minutes. I'm getting between one to 4 false starts on a night-time followed by multiple waking needing feeding back to sleep and even then it takes an hour to get him back in his cot meaning I'm getting about 90 mind sleep before he wakes again. I know others have it worse and my heart goes out to you because I'm feeling utterly broken and I'm not sure how long this can continue before I lose it.
Couple this with his new desire to hit his head on my shoulder if I try and hold him up yo sleep or the need to gran at my clothing and pull it towards his mouth, but then get annoyed that he can't eat it....I'm getting so easily irritated with him I'm hating myself.
DH can't (wont) help as his job "is so high pressured" and he works away two nights a week (and has blissful uninterrupted sleep - yes I'm jealous) and I have noone else to help, no family in the same county and all friends are working.

@Blabbyoak this sounds horrid. Do you get a break at weekends.

The only way I’m surviving is my partner has the baby from 7-9pm whilst I sleep.

@notpsychic no not really. He'll take him down after 6am on a Saturday and let me sleep till 8am bit that's my lot.
I can't nap either, makes me feel sick so catching up on the weekend is another go. Have an older daughter too so going to bed early isn't an option

@SleepingStandingUp not sure, hes nearly 3 months so seems a bit early for a regression? Not that he's ever been a good sleeper to regress from! 😂

Last night even worse, waking after 90 mins not resetting, then having to feed. Even after feeding couldn't resettle so I've been sst up holding him since 3am...something I've not had to do since he was much younger, just would not go back in the basket. 😭

@Blabbyoak I feel for you. Sounds like we're in similar situations with the nights, and I also can't nap (LO is in sling fir them and if I sit he wakes.) DH will take LO about 6am-8am on weekends sometimes but I'm normally too wired to sleep by then anyway.

It's horrendous and I everyone on here gets better sleep soon! 😴

I'm at my wits end. Dh just keeps telling they're not little for long and it won't be this way forever but it's not him suffering and these comments just guilt me for feeling how I do.
Ds has woken after 2.5 hrs and is now up for the day at 5.15am.
Oh and it's my birthday today which will be spent alone with a grumpy overtired baby all day who hates the car and his seat so I can't even go anywhere to cheer myself up as its too stressful going anywhere with him in the car. Even the school runs a nightmare every day. I need help buy there's no way dh would let me hire a consultant to help and my own attempts at training have not made any difference.

Happy Birthday @Blabbyoak! I remember my 30th birthday was spent by myself at home with a grumpy 8 month old, you have my empathy. My current 8 month old was a lot less grumpy until she decided that sleep was for the weak. She's trying to avoid napping at all during the day, which is leading to her being seriously short fused. The best we get at night is waking every 2 hours but it can be more frequent. My logical brain in the day can say it's all temporary and will get better eventually. My emotional brain at 4am when I'm on wake up number 4 and freezing cold with my boob out in the dark says that everything is utterly shit and will never improve, ever. 😅

Hope your little one gives you an OK birthday and more sleep soon! X

@Blabbyoak firstly, happy birthday! When you're in the thick of it, it's really awful. I know you said your husband won't help, have you had a serious conversation with him and told him you're at breaking point? I mean he did want another one too so tell him to pull his ~fucking~ socks up and come to an arrangement that works for you.

@notpsychic not sure if things have gotten better, but mine also refuses to sleep on his back and sleeps on his side now... Have you tried? He's also so snotty right now so he can't breathe on his back anyway!

@SleepingStandingUp I have no idea how hard it is but it sounds so draining 😢 have you joined some twin/multiples mum groups? It's a whole other level of one up to the rest of us xxx

Oh boys why is it when you think it's manageable it isn't any more haha

I had settled on my 1yo going to sleep 7.30 (by herself). Sleeping through to 4am. Bottle. Back to sleep with me in my bed for a few hours and off we go for brekki.

This was a bad night for many of my friends lol but I'm sure everyone here would agree I was on to a good thing here.

Now she's just being a turd. Messing around for like 2 hours in the night awake. I'm not getting more than 2 hours stint of sleep.

I'm back in work next week and I'm like argh.

We've tried I think everything....changing up nap s in day. Bed diff time. Back to Formula instead of cow milk. Blehhhhhhh.

My foot is twitching non stop from sleep deprivation so even when she does sleep thay keeps me up.

Har har.....sob

My phone just popped up saying "get healthier and better sleep by going to bed and getting up the same time each day"

Really.

How's everyone's day been? And night going so far?

@TreaclePlum

My phone just popped up saying "get healthier and better sleep by going to bed and getting up the same time each day"

Really.

If only it was that easy 🤣

Can I join u guys? I have a 7 month old who is EBF (weaning 2 meals a day) and is up every 2 hours and takes ages to go down initially. I've just got him to drift off now and he's been knackered since 7pm 🙄 now for the cot transfer.

Glad to find others also not sleeping, whenever anyone asks and I say he's waking 2 hourly they go 'oh still, ah but your breastfeeding aren't you', I mean yer but I'm so glad I am it's the only thing that resettles him!

Cot transfer failed first time, f*ing cat yoweled and woke him up, another feed and 10 min rocking and he's finally down

We had a pretty tough weekend as DH unexpectedly had to work Saturday and Sunday and then had Monday off but didn’t find that out until Monday morning - at which point I had done 10 nights straight without any support at all (I do agree that DH shouldn’t be up a night when working as
he uses machinery but that doesn’t make it easier!)

I lost it a bit (a lot!) on Monday morning, but DH ordered a McDonald’s breakfast and that really made things feel 100% better!

Last night did seem a little better with DS only waking every 2.5-3hrs. Second attempt at cot transfer seems to have gone well so we’ll see how tonight goes.

Sorry for long post - needed to offload a bit!

Lo has only just gone to sleep 🙃🙂
I give it ten minutes before a wake up again!

Hope you get some sleep PinkGin1. It's been an hour since her last wake up and here I am again 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was quite deeply asleep when she woke up again just now. 😩