Sleepless mums thread #2 come and join us! zZzZz

[pinkgin1]

Other one is nearly full so thought I'd get this one ready!
@ayylauren
@Ijustneedtosleep21
@JammyRedRooo
@LemonElephant
@LCF2021
@MintGreenLife
@Mytigerhasstripyfeet
@Sneezymcsneezy
@mummabubs
@jmj90

(Apologies if I haven't tagged you it won't show any other usernames on my phone )

Thank you. I only got woke up twice last night so long may it continue 🤞

@Ijustneedtosleep21 long may it continue!

That's really good! I hope it continues for you! Did you do anything different?

Hopping on as allthough things have improved a lot for us (DD 5 months now) I have a tendency to say things like this and it seems to jinx it and it goes to shite again!

@pinkgin1 thanks for setting this up ☺️ Hope everyone had a good night! X

Sending all the sleepy vibes to the babies tonight 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Thank you! After I posted about the fourth wake up last night she then slept through till 7. Poor thing is teething and rather constipated at the moment so I'd imagine both are impacting on her sleep. She's been so sad and grumpy today which really isn't like her 😩 Hoping she's more settled tonight...

Hi 👋🏻 please can I join? So desperate for some sleep tonight but some solidarity might be the next best thing. My boy is 4.5months and is currently enjoying multiple wake ups through the night. Although last night I did get a 1hr 45min break in between feeds so that’s something 😂

I'll join if that's ok!
Have a 9 week old who doesn't sleep more than 2 hours at a time and hates being put down to sleep!

Oh so glad to hear some positivity! Are those who are getting less wake ups doing anything differently?! Hope needed over here. In our 7th week of this and now I’m worried the feed to sleep sssucistionid becoming really strong and I’m a human dummy!

Fellow human dummy here @notpsychic would love to hear if/how others have moved away from this. I have some ideas but yet to execute them. The problem is that feeding to sleep is so very convenient, just slightly unsustainable sometimes 😬

Hourly wake ups between 9pm-midnight, then up at 3am for 30 minutes. Imagine my horror when at 5:55 we woke up to realise that our 4 year old had gone into his little sister's room, turned on her lights and thrown a load of toys into her cot because he wanted her to wake up. Which she did 😩 She was then wide awake so hasn't gone back to sleep and I'm doing my best not to continuously snap at my eldest for disobeying the sacred GroClock and depriving us all of sleep.

Hey found all my sleep deprived mumsnet friends 👋🏻 how we all doing?
I've not posted for a few days. DS 10 months now, is still stuck in his routine of a 3 hour stretch once he goes down followed by his hourly unsettled episodes.. he just comes in with me though and then sleeps like a log til morning so not bad!

I am dreading next week. I start uni and I'm staying away in hotel Tue-Fri! 😩 some might be grateful of the break but I just don't think I'll sleep well through worrying about him even though I know he will be absolutely fine, I just don't think I'll settle without him because I'll worry he won't settle without me 😕

I don't know what possessed me to take up a degree after becoming a first time mum and going back to being a full time area manager all at once. I'm clearly fucking crackers 🤪 but hey ho I'll give it a go 🤷🏼‍♀️

@notpsychic and @Lemongrass9 hope you’re ok. We were stuck in a cycle of hourly wake ups for 2 months from 3.5-5.5 months and it was total hell. I’m sure it would have sorted itself out at some point but as I have a toddler too I was barely functioning on so little sleep so in the last 10 days we’ve been sleep training which I know isn’t for everyone but it’s been life changing. She doesn’t sleep through yet as I do a dream feed due to issues with blocked ducts so I daren’t go a whole night without feeding and plan to wean off the dreamfeed. Last night I slept through my 11.30pm alarm to feed her so she slept from 7.30pm-4am, she moaned a few mins and settled, I fed her once back asleep. She woke at 6am but again moaned for about 7 mins and went back to sleep until 7.45am. 2 weeks ago I was feeding her 5 of 6 times a night to get her back to sleep.

@LCF2021 glad you are starting to get a bit of respite. DS has always fed to sleep and it’s never been an issue, but 2 weeks ago he gave up the dummy which used to work for settling back to sleep. No idea why he doesn’t want the dummy anymore but it now means that he not only feeds to sleep but wants to remain latched while he is asleep.

This means that I am the only one who can get him to sleep, the only one who can hold him while napping and he is currently in bed with us overnight to facilitate this and DH is practically falling out the bed as we are running out of room.

We are going out for a play date today and it’s a 45min drive each way so hoping he’ll nap in the car. I’m finding it quite mentally draining but then again I’m also on my period this week so that’s adding an extra layer of grumpiness to me 😂

Hello, hope I can join. I have a wee boy of 3.5 months and we were doing really well until the last couple of weeks. Before he was waking maybe twice a night to feed, settled back down fairly easily too. But now all hell has broken loose and I'm a human dummy. He goes to bed at 7ish fine, but wakes about 10 when we go to bed (he's in a next to me, used to sleep through until 1am 😭), then from midnight until 4-5am it's constant pick ups and put downs.

I am really starting to resent BF because his comfort sucking can really hurt and it's starting to gross me out. I know he's too young to sleep train or night wean but I am so done already and I just can't face the thought of this going on for months! Lots of people have suggested co sleeping but I really don't want to do that either. I just want a bit of my own space and more than 90 minutes sleep at a time!

@Lemongrass9 it’s totally draining, you just have to do what you can. We only decided to sleep train as feeding to sleep, co-sleeping, rocking, stroking wasn’t working anymore so we felt we had no other choice. If co-sleeping was working for us I think I’d have stuck with that for a while longer but here we are 🤷‍♀️

Thanks @LCF2021 for sharing your experience. I’m glad things have been made easier. I read sooo many scare stories of this going on for months and months.

@Kate105 sounds like we’re in the same boat. It’s a lonely abs exhausting place to be. I also didn’t want to co sleep but it’s the only way I might be able to drop off for a bit now. Does your baby take a bottle at all? Mine doesn’t.

Ladies of the night! I wondered who is breast feeding vs bottle feeding ?

I EBF for 8m them combi till 10m then bottle then on. She's never slept. She's 1 now.

I have quite a lot of friends with kids. All of them good sleepers. All of them Formula fed since day 1.

Honestly I think I kinda wanna hear of those who Formula fed and still have poo sleepers...

@TreaclePlum I’m a BFeeder and often blame the BF. How do you settle your bub once weaned. I just feed to sleep now.

Omg can I start?? My twins are two hours. That's also roughly the no of hours between wake ups 😂

@SleepingStandingUp - so much solidarity to you. You are truly amazing.

Can I ask- has anyone tried medications for silent reflux?

@notpsychic she just one day didn't feed to sleep haha. She'd finish on the boob and still be awake. The first few times that happened I was like OH HELL NO MY MAGIC POWER.

So then it was cuddling and patting to sleep

Now she does just get put in cot and falls asleep herself. Still night wakes though. A good night is 7.30pm to 4am. Then she has a bottle and then sleeps with me. Sometimes she wakes up 11pm and that's that til she's next to me in my bed. Even then she wakes up a lot and whinges or starts playing with my face...

@TreaclePlum ah I see. She did it herself. My worry about not using boobs is that I would be standing rocking all night. But I also hate being used as a dummy. Especially when she won’t take an actual dummy

@notpsychic

When my son was newborn we all thought he had that and he had baby gaviscon
Did make a difference! Then one day I stopped using it and he never needed it again x