Feeling annoyed about school and need to rant!

[november90]

I'm sure most will read this and think I'm being unreasonable... maybe I am but I just need to vent!
My son is 4 and just started reception. Like most his age, suffered a lot due to the lockdowns etc and is having some difficulty adjusting to school. He is finding his uniform very difficult to wear as he doesn't feel comfy. It's mainly the pants. I put his issues with certain textures on his nursery transition form, i mentioned it on the pre school meeting, the home visit and also the phonics meeting 2 weeks ago. I just want assurance he's ok to wear his shorts which they have always told me he is. Anyway, dropped him off today and the teacher was really abrupt with me about wearing his pe shorts and not joggers... they way them to go into school wearing both at the same time. I felt so embarrassed and also annoyed.... why tell me one minute he's ok tk wear shorts but the next she wants the joggers and shorts?!
Also, the reading book annoys me. I made ds feel so proud about himself last week for doing a reading session everyday and he watched me fill the book out and when it got send home after being reviewed not so much a sticker or well done comment! Completely blank!
I've spoke to my family about this who say I'm expecting too much from school... but I just feel sad that we're like 6 weeks into school and o feel so distant from it all!
Anyone else have a new school child and feel the same? I know teachers are stressed and restricted due to Covid, but as a parent I'm finding it hard!

Your family are right. These are absolute none issues.

I also agree with your family.

Ask? Joggers may be because some are moaning they are cold for example.
Reading diaries are rarely commented on in my experience, unless a teaching assistant etc also listens to them read and fills it in.

The weather is getting colder so I’m not surprised school suggested joggers. Instant verbal feedback is much more important than a written comment. The comment in the book is so the teacher knows how he has handled the book. It’s what the person who listened to your son read says to him after he has finished the book which is important.

Hello molehill, ever wanted to be a mountain?

The teacher is up to their eyeballs I'd imagine, they don't have time to be commenting on every piece of work.

As for the uniform, talk to the teacher. Maybe he's giving out about being cold. I know in my classroom under the Covid guidelines we've to have the door open. Kids constantly complaining atm while refusing to wear their jumpers

No one has every commented on any of my 3 children’s reading diary, ever. It’s not a dialogue.

These are very much none issues. You need to relax & get a grip or you’re in for a tough few years!

Complete non issues, you are definitely expecting too much!

My youngest is still wearing shorts on PE days (and at weekends). If he's warm enough, and it is part of the uniform (ie only PE shorts on PE days), ignore any comments.
Dont expect comments in the reading book. Fill it in, use it as a record of how much he's done /how much progress hes made.

Agree - all non issues but I can see why you feel they matter as a mum.

Teachers scan over reading comments before adding their own log - it is a log and expectation to note down which page you are up to or any tricky words so you can come back to them or teacher is aware, not a piece of work to be marked. He will have got lots of lovely verbal praise and comments as he read out loud to the teacher/TA.

While the joggers being itchy makes sense, you need to gradually work with your DS to get him to wear them with winter coming. Try different brands and washing them with softeners to help.

It will get easier!

If the teacher was commenting on 30 children's reAding records that would be a lot of time away from actually teaching the children ! I don't think you realise how much teachers have to do in a day. When children come into school in inappropriate clothing when it's cold or hot it is quite irritating as it's common sense !

You need to pick your battles. Joggers are less harsh than most regular trousers, reading records in Reception may get eyeballed but it is a bit early to expect comments each day. Focus on one thing at a time, a child's school career is long and full of ups and downs.

It the point…. but I’m a little surprised at the children being allowed to wear jogging trousers instead of normal school trousers (I assume you meant this when you wrote pants). Is this just on gym days?
Reading record is an absolute non issue.

Oh and I understand about the sensory issue…..joggers may be their compromise to this.

DD used to wear Jersey school trousers from next or sainsburys. Smart but feel like joggers, I don't know if they do a 'boys' version but you could just cut off the little butterfly/heart charm they come with, nobody will know they are from the girls section.

Make a reading chart for home. Stick it on the fridge & buy some fun stickers.

We are all chronically short staffed and doing our best. We can't cover everything we normally would but appreciate you are reading with your child. Re the shorts some crossed wires and different opinions exist. Did you say you'd been told it was ok and by who?

Aww well it's nice that a lot of you think these are none issues but at the same time it's not your child that is having sensory issues with their uniform so my child not feeling comfortable wearing his trousers and screaming about it for an hour in the morning is an issue for me. More so of an issue when the teacher told me on 3 occasions that it's fine for him to wear his shorts only for her to humiliate me in front of the other parents today by speaking to me extremely abruptly. Why say it's ok to then make out it isn't I front of everyone else?
She's aware of the issue, never ever told me what they can do as a school to support him, just told me to send him in his shorts and it will be ok!

Also regarding the reading, I didn't know the book was acknowledged. This is my first child in school. They made such a. Big deal about the reading book at the meeting so we tried so hard and did a reading every night (which we do anyway) so I was disappointed that they were almost threatening parents with meetings in they missed a reading but then nothing when you do well.
I know I sound really picky, like I said first child, but I feel like my son has missed out on so much due to lockdown and now he's in school and I feel like I know nothing!

I don’t know why you keep referring to missing out because of lockdown - your child is 4, so probably the age group that has been least effected… they get to start school more or less as normal, don’t have to catch up on missed learning and especially during the first lockdown, nearly two years ago, would have been completely oblivious to what was going on.

What did she actually say about the shorts? Is it because it is getting colder now?

The reading book is a non issue.

Be more Elsa and let it go.

@november90

Aww well it's nice that a lot of you think these are none issues but at the same time it's not your child that is having sensory issues with their uniform so my child not feeling comfortable wearing his trousers and screaming about it for an hour in the morning is an issue for me. More so of an issue when the teacher told me on 3 occasions that it's fine for him to wear his shorts only for her to humiliate me in front of the other parents today by speaking to me extremely abruptly. Why say it's ok to then make out it isn't I front of everyone else? She's aware of the issue, never ever told me what they can do as a school to support him, just told me to send him in his shorts and it will be ok!

Honestly the other parents don’t care what the teacher says to you. They are too busy thinking about if their child going to be OK, what work is going to be like, will their toddler ever sleep, what they need from the shop and is it going to rain on them on the way home.

Our school make them wear shorts under joggers on PE days too, I think it’s a bit odd! Mine don’t have any sensory issues but shorts under jogging bottoms isn’t particularly comfortable for anyone.
It’s perfectly normal not to have the reading diary commented on. I have two at school (year 3 and 2), both have read daily since they started school, which I have always recorded in their diary, and it has never been acknowledged. The only time the teacher writes in their reading diary is when she reads with them. I think you’re expecting too much there… they have a lot of children in their class and don’t have time to acknowledge every time a child reads at home (which should happen daily as standard).

Roses the current kids starting reception have missed out on socialising, meeting up with family and friends, playgroups, nursery, parties. They have rarely been away from their parents/siblings. They gave spend half their life in a pandemic world, and wont remember "normal" life.
Yes, they may not have missed out on the reading and writing and 'rithmetic, but they have missed out on masses of the socialising, and ground work that leads to being school ready. To dismiss them as having nothing to catch up on is missing the point somewhat (I dont have a child of that age).

Try being a teacher for week then come back to report what you found out.
In the meantime get a grip.