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Feeling annoyed about school and need to rant!

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november90 · 06/10/2021 18:54

I'm sure most will read this and think I'm being unreasonable... maybe I am but I just need to vent!
My son is 4 and just started reception. Like most his age, suffered a lot due to the lockdowns etc and is having some difficulty adjusting to school. He is finding his uniform very difficult to wear as he doesn't feel comfy. It's mainly the pants. I put his issues with certain textures on his nursery transition form, i mentioned it on the pre school meeting, the home visit and also the phonics meeting 2 weeks ago. I just want assurance he's ok to wear his shorts which they have always told me he is. Anyway, dropped him off today and the teacher was really abrupt with me about wearing his pe shorts and not joggers... they way them to go into school wearing both at the same time. I felt so embarrassed and also annoyed.... why tell me one minute he's ok tk wear shorts but the next she wants the joggers and shorts?!
Also, the reading book annoys me. I made ds feel so proud about himself last week for doing a reading session everyday and he watched me fill the book out and when it got send home after being reviewed not so much a sticker or well done comment! Completely blank!
I've spoke to my family about this who say I'm expecting too much from school... but I just feel sad that we're like 6 weeks into school and o feel so distant from it all!
Anyone else have a new school child and feel the same? I know teachers are stressed and restricted due to Covid, but as a parent I'm finding it hard!

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Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 21:53

@Hercisback

As they get older it keeps a record of pages. It means you avoid the same book going home twice. It means you can see your child's reading progress.

So it’s for the parents’ records?

Hercisback · 06/10/2021 21:54

Are you suggesting they wouldn’t read to the children without a diary?

I think plenty wouldn't. The structure of the diary is a tangible reminder to read. If you (as a parent) think someone will check it, you're more likely to read and fill it in.

Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 21:55

@toocold54

But to what end though? What does the teacher use that information for?

@Pumperthepumper
Honestly don’t worry about it.

If you’re struggling to grasp the concept of a reading record and it’s purpose then there’s no way you’d understand how the information is used.

I think maybe it’s something only parents would understand as they’ve seen them or you’re just really tired.

I’m sure I’ll manage to keep up. How do you use the information in a reading record that not everyone fills in because not everyone is read to?

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Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 21:55

@Hercisback

Are you suggesting they wouldn’t read to the children without a diary?

I think plenty wouldn't. The structure of the diary is a tangible reminder to read. If you (as a parent) think someone will check it, you're more likely to read and fill it in.

Really, even though you’ve no evidence that anyone is checking it?

Hercisback · 06/10/2021 21:55

And the teachers records. Most children get a session with the teacher every 1-2 weeks.

IlsaLund · 06/10/2021 21:55

Accountability? Creating a habit?

It also keeps a record of what they have read
It's also a great home school link

Evesgarden · 06/10/2021 21:55

Maybe some of you are just used to the least amount of effort off a teacher.

My kids always get their reading book commented on.

And for a lot of kids (and parents) this has been a real struggle starting reception after 18 months of restrictions and lockdowns. Maybe try and show some empathy??

Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 21:55

@Hercisback

And the teachers records. Most children get a session with the teacher every 1-2 weeks.

To do what?

TheGrumpyGoat · 06/10/2021 21:56

But just knowing a child isn’t read with is information in itself. It means they can ensure they’re read with at school.

Hercisback · 06/10/2021 21:56

They are checked when the teacher hears the student read. They then add their comment about the student.

Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 21:56

@IlsaLund

Accountability? Creating a habit?

It also keeps a record of what they have read
It's also a great home school link

But that only works for the kids who’s parents are reading to them. What accountability, if they’ve no evidence it’s being looked at?

Hercisback · 06/10/2021 21:57

To read to the teacher ffs.

I'm tapping out, this is ridiculous.

toocold54 · 06/10/2021 21:58

I’m sure I’ll manage to keep up. How do you use the information in a reading record that not everyone fills in because not everyone is read to?

So for example if my child is reading Thomas the Tank Engine I would write in the book read pages 1-3. So when the teacher looks at it they won’t start at page 1 because they can see that’s already been read.

It’s also a good indicator on how well they enjoyed the book/reading. If they’re only wanting to read small amounts then the teacher needs to think of what can be improved - maybe a different type of book, or something more or less challenging.

Hulkynothunky · 06/10/2021 21:58

It could say ‘Simon needs to pay attention to -ou words’.

How could the teacher write this comment based on the reading that took place at HOME?

I don't understand what your point is - you think the reading log should be marked? Or it's a pointless exercise and should be scrapped?

Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 21:58

@Hercisback

To read to the teacher ffs.

I'm tapping out, this is ridiculous.

They read with their teacher every 1-2 weeks?! That’s probably doing more damage to the kids who aren’t being read to at home then, that’s insane!

Zilla1 · 06/10/2021 21:59

HNRTT OP, genuinely trying to be helpful. Hopefully you well settle in but you might want to try and rebase your expectations and your emotional level.

PPs have commented on the normality of not having a recognition for the reading record.

If you felt 'embarrassed' and 'humiliated' because you felt a teacher was 'abrupt' then it might be in your interests to rebase your expectations or at least try and think what having responsibility for 30-odd? children at the start of the day and throughout the day. I realise if someone being abrupt has made you feel humiliated then you might have led a relatively protected life.

If your mindset it how much your DC has missed out on COVID when arguably their age is the one that has missed out less than most then you will probably be filtering their experience through quite a negtive mindset and facing lots of upset. Try and be positive and base your expectations around what a teacher and TA? can do for a class of 30 when their priority will be the children rather than meeting the different communication expectations of the parents.

Good luck.

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Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 22:00

@toocold54

I’m sure I’ll manage to keep up. How do you use the information in a reading record that not everyone fills in because not everyone is read to?

But then what happens with the kids who are never read to?

Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 22:00

@toocold54

To read to the teacher ffs.

I'm tapping out, this is ridiculous.

Don’t let the troll annoy you. They obviously know what the purpose of a reading diary is - no one is that thick.

They go on loads of threads and try and act stupid. I don’t really see what the point is but I guess it’s something to do in the evenings.

You are more than welcome to advance search my username for a lovely surprise.

IlsaLund · 06/10/2021 22:00

Sorry @Pumperthepumper

I'm bowing out of this discussion as I really don't understand what you are trying to say - I'm not being deliberately obtuse.

A reading record is a record for the teacher of any additional reading that has been done at home
Schools can't force parents to use them - they can encourage it
Yes, some parents may sign when they haven't read - such is life
The teacher doesn't need to add comments on a regular basis as they are teaching the child to read in a systematic way as part of planned learning - some teachers may choose to comment, some may not.
Some parents won't hear their child read - they will have their reasons

The bottom line is if you don't want to use the diary, don't. But that's a shame as the process is designed to support your child

toocold54 · 06/10/2021 22:01

But then what happens with the kids who are never read to?

They’re made to sit in the corner with a dunce hat on and everyone points and laughs at them.

Pumperthepumper · 06/10/2021 22:01

@IlsaLund

Sorry *@Pumperthepumper*

I'm bowing out of this discussion as I really don't understand what you are trying to say - I'm not being deliberately obtuse.

The bottom line is if you don't want to use the diary, don't. But that's a shame as the process is designed to support your child

My point it: if the information isn’t being used for anything, if not everyone is filling in a reading record, if it doesn’t provide targeted feedback or reading support, why do it?

Hercisback · 06/10/2021 22:02

But then what happens with the kids who are never read to?

They read more often to the teacher to try and narrow the gap. The teacher can't hear kids read every day, so they prioritise.

Evanna13 · 06/10/2021 22:02

I feel for you with your sons sensory issues in terms of the uniform. You have mentioned it to the school many times and come to an agreement so I imagine it was very upsetting to be spoken to so abruptly by the teacher this morning.

It's also clear that you worked very hard with your son on his reading and some acknowledgment of this would be nice. A tick or a star just to show that the teacher has seen it.
A first child starting school is always a big transition and it's even harder now since covid.
However it is very clear that you love your son very much, you seem like a great mum and he is benefiting greatly from your time and encouragement.

Hercisback · 06/10/2021 22:02

@toocold54

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