Feeling annoyed about school and need to rant!

[november90]

I'm sure most will read this and think I'm being unreasonable... maybe I am but I just need to vent!
My son is 4 and just started reception. Like most his age, suffered a lot due to the lockdowns etc and is having some difficulty adjusting to school. He is finding his uniform very difficult to wear as he doesn't feel comfy. It's mainly the pants. I put his issues with certain textures on his nursery transition form, i mentioned it on the pre school meeting, the home visit and also the phonics meeting 2 weeks ago. I just want assurance he's ok to wear his shorts which they have always told me he is. Anyway, dropped him off today and the teacher was really abrupt with me about wearing his pe shorts and not joggers... they way them to go into school wearing both at the same time. I felt so embarrassed and also annoyed.... why tell me one minute he's ok tk wear shorts but the next she wants the joggers and shorts?!
Also, the reading book annoys me. I made ds feel so proud about himself last week for doing a reading session everyday and he watched me fill the book out and when it got send home after being reviewed not so much a sticker or well done comment! Completely blank!
I've spoke to my family about this who say I'm expecting too much from school... but I just feel sad that we're like 6 weeks into school and o feel so distant from it all!
Anyone else have a new school child and feel the same? I know teachers are stressed and restricted due to Covid, but as a parent I'm finding it hard!

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I think you should leave tbh, you sound like you have give up. Why are you not in school now?

@Evesgarden I’m not supporting anything this poster has said, but that’s unfair. Plenty of teachers are part time so don’t work Thursdays…

I'm also only a handful of weeks into school with my eldest and it is a real adjustment from pre school. My eldest has medical issues so that makes me more anxious about it as I don't always feel I'm aware of any issues when she's at school.

The stuff about reading diaries though - you're definitely expecting too much. They have 30 of them to teach to read! You just need to the well dones yourself

@Rosesareyellow

I think you should leave tbh, you sound like you have give up. Why are you not in school now?

@Evesgarden I’m not supporting anything this poster has said, but that’s unfair. Plenty of teachers are part time so don’t work Thursdays…

I don't think it is unfair. The state school system is dreadful, there are still thousands of kids leaving primary school who can not read properly and apparently there teacher on here with an attitude of 'does it matter'?

Well yes it does. And it shows an unwillingness to engage with the parents at the very least.

[quote Evesgarden]@Pumperthepumper

We don’t have reading diaries - Thats really shit. What the fuck is your school doing to record engagement with reading/if kids are struggling?

And your opinion on this whole thread has been irrelevant then hasn't it, OP does have a ready diary. You feel like teachers don't need to engage with parents on their Childs reading because your school has cut back so much they wont even supply reading diaries.

I’m asking you, since you think I’m ‘shite’ what I should do instead in that scenario you think makes them a better reader

I think you should leave tbh, you sound like you have give up. Why are you not in school now?[/quote]
I’m asking for how you suggest I teach reading.

Do you want to calm down a bit? Why are you so defensive of reading diaries?

@Evesgarden at no point have I said reading doesn’t matter, I’ve said exactly the opposite. I’m saying reading diaries are not a good way to do that, that’s all. Absolutely bizarre behaviour on here.

If you are upset at these little issues you will be spitting fire by secondary.

[quote Pumperthepumper]@Evesgarden at no point have I said reading doesn’t matter, I’ve said exactly the opposite. I’m saying reading diaries are not a good way to do that, that’s all. Absolutely bizarre behaviour on here.[/quote]
Yes you did actually - up thread. You had a very nonchalant attitude to it which bothered posters then you back track. Maybe you are unaware of how your coming across to myself and others.

And yes reading diaries are a good way for comms/engagement/encouragement.

But I'm starting agree with other posters and wont be engaging with you anymore.

@Evesgarden can you quote where I said reading doesn’t matter?

I think your feeling like, and I'm sure all of us parents feel this way that your child is the most important but in all honesty teachers have a classroom full of children with different needs, incidents throughout the day, children who need more help with certain things, etc etc and at the age of 4 I wouldn't be expecting a huge amount of feedback on reading etc unless there was a worry not to mention they haven't been at school long yet so just getting to know the children. Regarding the trouser situation your probably being a bit to sensitive. Just move on, or your going to have a long few years while your sons at school because teachers often are a little abrupt delivering messages if they have 3/4 parents they need to catch for a chat in a busy playground at the end of the day, and 30 reading journals to look over.

I definitely feel that a lot of parents have felt like this before.

It’s definitely harder these past couple years as you have even less communication than normal. Most parents find the first days of school hard but I can only imagine how hard it is doing it under these circumstances.

Evesgarden have you never heard of non fiction books? Not all books have a 'start' and an 'end'. Some children prefer non fiction and would rather 'read' My Big Book of Vehicles than Biff and Boring Chip. But they don't need to read from page 1 and in order. They want to read about just the buses, or just the blue vehicles or just giant JCBs so they will jump back and forth with pages.
It's very important to teach children that reading a book doesn't always mean by reading a story.

Completely agree previous poster. Essential to offer non fiction. Not all children are into stories.