Someone said I stink

[Jen871]

This is more like a rant. When I'm doing the school run I wear the same clothes as I work 12 hour nights 8-8 and my son starts school at 8.45. I wear the same clothes to work because I work in a factory and I don't want to ruin good clothes.

The other day I was waiting for the teacher to open the door with some other parents, when I heard one of the parents say to the other that I stink. This annoyed me but I didn't say anything.

The annoying part is that these women don't work. They drop their kids off to school and then god knows what, they have no idea the 12 hour shift I've just done and how hard me and my husband work to be able to afford the luxuries we have.

I don't want my son picked on at school because parents are going around saying I stink. It's annoying as hell. I can't get changed after work because there just isn't time.

The only thing I found was about the mum who suggested her son's friend took a shower.

Never mind.

I did think if this got into mainstream press, anyone who read it and has been unpleasant about the op would show a little more understanding.

@plumtree391.
It was the mirror that picked it up .

They are rude bitches.

If it bothers you or your son, can you not change into a clean tracksuit or even just a clean top in the car at work?

[quote Inthesameboatatmo]@plumtree391.
It was the mirror that picked it up .[/quote]
I found it. It's also in the Express, Liverpool Echo, Edinburgh something and TodayUK.

Flipping cheek, they added nothing, just copied posts from Mumsnet. The op gets nothing out of it - unless the rude mothers read and change their attitudes.

@plumtree, its disgusting isnt it .
Lazy journalists.

Yep.

I hope the op is OK, she hasn't been back for a while.

If you do work these hours then you probably do present a fragrance that is stronger than the norm. Just take "you stink" as an untactful statement of truth, and don't take it personally. Its like, "you are wearing a red hat". So what? You need to do what you need to do to bring in income and still get your kid(s) to school on time. These 2 big priorities are more important than the judgements of others. Well done for your diligence of duties!!!

What is your start time if your working 12 hours and collecting after school. Must be around 2/3am start??... My ex used to work in an abattoir and I'm sorry to say but he effing reeked!

@trunumber

Where is your husband in this? Can he help in some way?

What?!🙈 Op, I am sorry you’ve been the subject of rudeness. It is horrible. There are things you can try, but equally it’s awful to hear people discussing you nastily. 😢

@Kitchendrama1

Wash in the morning, with soap, arm pits, ass, neck, face…. Put on CLEAN CLOTHES.

Do this at night as well.

You won’t stink.

Read the thread 🙄

I’m sorry that you feel guilty and the comments you received were rude indeed… you must work very hard and I understand and respect that fully. I’m saying that though I used to work beside someone who absolutely stank (office job) and I had no choice but to report him to HR as I was literally feeling sick every day. I felt bad in doing that but trust me I had no other option. It was either that I would quit- it was that bad. Look you can’t do the school run like this, it’s just basic hygiene and I understand you don’t have time to shower, I do… but I also understand the other mums commenting :( . Can your husband/partner not do the morning run? Or can you just have a cheap clean track suit in your car and literally jump in it? It takes about 12 seconds + a good bit of perfume etc.

I'm wondering if the op realises this story has got into the mainstream newspapers and if anybody has changed in attitude towards her as a result.

It's just so sad. Op is obviously a hard working woman, I'm impressed with her doing such a rotten job at night, makes me feel pretty useless by comparison.

She could always change jobs, I mean come on this one is rotten, surely she can do something better. I commented above anyway but it’s unfair on others…

She could change jobs, yes, but maybe this job is convenient regarding hours, childcare, etc. I presume while the op is working, her husband/partner is at home with the children.

We cannot judge other people's circumstances.

I think the op is quite remarkable in being prepared to do a dirty job at night to help support her family. I wouldn't have been so brave, frankly.

If they are the kind to make that kind of comment they are the kind to say to generally not be very nice people .. but if it bothers you in case it bothers DS .. Febreze on clothes and dry shampoo on hair .. go for neutralisers - as these are- not masking sweet perfumes. Also if DS is hopping in the car and you can keep a fresh T-shirt and joggers by the door you can change quickly . But honestly you're the one working all night to provide for the family so should be salutes not judged xx

Gosh those first few sentences make no sense sorry.. meant if they are the kind to make those kind of comments they are the kind to generally be mean .. but febreze and dry shampoo parked by the door with clean clothes could be your solution

Guys a “journalist” for metro started this thread and I think it’s fake! It’s now in the news - just google it. Always knew metro is a scum but god what a horrible way to write their so called “articles”

@Elisemum

She could always change jobs, I mean come on this one is rotten, surely she can do something better. I commented above anyway but it’s unfair on others…

Someone has to do the job so you can eat your convenient ready to cook food. Or should the lesser people that do it be locked away. What a daft comment. OP, I'd approach them and explain. Politely call them out on their shitty comments

Defo a job for the lesser people, but no one wants to see them at school runs come on 🤢 anyway this thread is fake done by a guy from metro!

I think from what you say you obviously do smell. For others it seems to be quite noticeable. You have two choices - accepts and ignore or make a joke of it with them or change your clothes. You are upset that people are noticing you smell - but you do. I would absolutely get changed and spray myself but having worked in a burger van I don't think that would be enough. It's the hair that's the worst

@Elisemum

Guys a “journalist” for metro started this thread and I think it’s fake! It’s now in the news - just google it. Always knew metro is a scum but god what a horrible way to write their so called “articles”

Why do you say that?

@Elisemum

Defo a job for the lesser people, but no one wants to see them at school runs come on 🤢 anyway this thread is fake done by a guy from metro!

FS 🤣🤣

Fwiw posts from mumsnet get picked up and 'written' by lazy journalists on a daily basis. Same happens with posts from Facebook. I saw about 5 in total from both on my newsfeed yesterday alone. Doesn't mean the op is fake

@liveforsummer oh really, I didn’t know that.. but then why would OP just disappear? Anyway provocation or not I’m sure those people doing these jobs do exists so the conversation is somehow valid. I feel bad for those people but come on… when mums drop of their kids to school in their nice clothes, having a nice cup of coffee and ready to start their day do they really want to be around someone that stinks of old meat???🤢sorry to be blunt but I don’t! Of course it’s nice to be nice and respectful to everyone absolutely but come on there are boundaries! I suppose only way around to us to have kids in a nice private school so you can avoid such situations- that’s what I’d do.

Maybe disappeared in a panic when realising their anonymous query was public news. That's common. Maybe disappeared, upset, when people started saying her job was for 'lesser people' and the likes. Understandable!

@GreenWillow

Do none of you see the irony of wearing a mask for the school run/dousing yourself in hand sanitiser etc, yet rocking up covered with decomposing meat all over your body?

Have you even read the thread?! 😂