Someone said I stink

[Jen871]

This is more like a rant. When I'm doing the school run I wear the same clothes as I work 12 hour nights 8-8 and my son starts school at 8.45. I wear the same clothes to work because I work in a factory and I don't want to ruin good clothes.

The other day I was waiting for the teacher to open the door with some other parents, when I heard one of the parents say to the other that I stink. This annoyed me but I didn't say anything.

The annoying part is that these women don't work. They drop their kids off to school and then god knows what, they have no idea the 12 hour shift I've just done and how hard me and my husband work to be able to afford the luxuries we have.

I don't want my son picked on at school because parents are going around saying I stink. It's annoying as hell. I can't get changed after work because there just isn't time.

@Marni83 Some people do think that way. It can be to an extent true but of course doesn't usually 100% excuse anyone behaving badly.

I can’t understand all the comments excusing these women - their behaviour is disgusting! Parents like that raise little bullies!

Whether someone smells or not is irrelevant - they’re human.

She doesn’t have time to change - end of! Spraying loads of perfume or spray is vile - it stinks and is unpleasant to be stood next to.

Good job you don't work gutting fish

Sorry not RTFT but I can't deal with idiots suggesting you get ready foe the school gates

You graft for a living
You sweat and you have a smelly job
You look after your child
You drop at school which is lovely
You're a human being who gives to society through your taxes, NI etc

Screw any dippy arse mum who has all the time in the world - you're doing whats best for your family and if you don't get 5 mins to shower and change who gives a fuck

Congratulations on not being 'one of THOSE mums at the school gate' types ....

I used to work nights and take my kids to school and pick them up. I was like a zombie I was that tired. I got comments about about not being all there as I wasn’t chipper and chatty.I really didn’t care as I didn’t respect their opinions because of the type of people they were.
Don’t you worry about bitchy, thoughtless, judgemental mums. They are the ones with the problem not you.
You are doing your best for your family working so hard. Well done you 🌺

Who gives a shit what school run mums have to say, get some headphones in your ears and ignore them. If it really bothers you, keep a change of clothes in your car and get a strong spray even a fabulousa spray.

If you see them again, just say sorry I'm a bit wiffy I've just finished night shift! You know how it is. Then walk away proudly. Cheeky gits.

Put this right out of your head @Jen871 the playground is a vipers nest of parents whose opinions you don’t need. A very good friend of mine was horribly bullied by other women for wearing makeup on the morning school run, it was just her way & culture (Italian). Shrug it off, prioritise your child, only if it is affecting them consider changing your routine to squeeze in a very quick clothes change.

Get some fabulosa clothes spray. Quick spray of that all over and you'll be good to go!

I think you should keep a nice leisure/track suit type 2 piece right by the door and leap out of the car and into it before you leave. Do you wear fresh clothes to work every day or is it an accumulation of a week’s with if smell?
It’s a really awful thing to be said and terrible if your boy is teased about it.
If you are just getting there as the bell goes, couldn’t you just drop him at/near the gate?

How old is your son? Do you need to get out of car.

The smell of meat is probably really noticeable but you're used to it.
I would do a quick change even if it adds 5 minutes to yr day.

Seriously they need a slap 👋

For all those saying get changed, it isn't just clothes, the smell permeates your hair and skin, and only a good shower gets it off. Also spraying perfume etc, will just mix and create an even worse smell.
OP, they are just ignorant knobs, and I wouldn't worry about what those kind of people think. You're doing a hard nights graft, and it can't be helped. Some people haven't got a clue what certain jobs entail.

Get a jacket made
That says “I’ve just worked 12 hours in a demanding, stinking fucking job you morons - go back to your empathy devoid pit and stick your hair straighteners up your arse”

Am I being stupid? How do you clean cooked meat?

They are complete and utter rude idiots.

You are a hardworking mum, doing your best for your family. We'll done you. Don't let them get you down, if they say anything again tell them what you do for your family. You're an awesome mum❤👍🏼⭐

Go and speak to them. Tell them in an even tone you overheard their comments. Your sorry if they're offended but you have come straight from a 12 hour shift in a meat factory and you do not have time to wash or change.

They should be mortified. Good luck. You deserve it.

@Jen871

This is more like a rant. When I'm doing the school run I wear the same clothes as I work 12 hour nights 8-8 and my son starts school at 8.45. I wear the same clothes to work because I work in a factory and I don't want to ruin good clothes.

The other day I was waiting for the teacher to open the door with some other parents, when I heard one of the parents say to the other that I stink. This annoyed me but I didn't say anything.

The annoying part is that these women don't work. They drop their kids off to school and then god knows what, they have no idea the 12 hour shift I've just done and how hard me and my husband work to be able to afford the luxuries we have.

I don't want my son picked on at school because parents are going around saying I stink. It's annoying as hell. I can't get changed after work because there just isn't time.

People are twats, ignore them all!

yanbu, but I’d never do the school run again if I knew I stink and especially after hearing that comment. I don’t think you can ignore them. I’d either ask dh to do the school run instead or let your son be late to school 10 minutes each morning. I’d explain what happened and you’re worried about your son being picked on if school complains about being late.

Don’t worry about these people. I met my best buddy outside the school because we were both hanging back because we both smelled. If you keep livestock, handle deadstock, silage, sheep, slurry, kennels, poultry and have a busy life then hey, that’s life. Don’t let them bully you and hold your head high because you know they wouldn’t last 5 minutes doing your job. I’d come and give you a hug any time but I might stink a bit xxx

Would just changing your clothes help? Is it your own clothes you wear or a uniform ? Could you throw on a black onesie or joggers?

@FreeBritnee

Why not challenge them next time? Say what you’ve put here. That you’re sorry they are offended by your odour but you’ve come straight off a 12 hour shift and have to drop your child off before you can get in the shower?

I’m sure much of this comes from ignorance. If they understood the situation better then hopefully they’d keep their mouths shut.

I agree. Whilst you shouldn't have to justify yourself, they need reminding of their priveledge.

My ex used to own a takeaway and the uniforms smelt....so did he. Garlic and meat. But he put food on the table (no pun intended) and money in the bank so I had to put up with it.
People need to get a grip.