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Handhold please - dd in A&E **Content warning** Title edited by MHNHQ

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JackOfGentleman · 03/09/2021 21:48

TRIGGER WARNING - suicide attempt

She's taken an overdose. And it's my fault, I left my medication where she could find it. Shit, shit, shit.

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Indigokitten · 03/09/2021 23:11

It is not your fault. I hope your DD is seen soon

howtodealwithit · 03/09/2021 23:14

Gentle handhold available here Thanks

Queenie6655 · 03/09/2021 23:16

You poor thing

Praying for you both

No way is this your fault

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Bellasorella1 · 03/09/2021 23:18

Sorry to hear this @JackOfGentleman. I was in your shoes 2 weeks ago, daughter took a cocktail of drugs. She was in a&e an awfully long time (about 5 hours) before she saw a doctor but they did take bloods on arrival. There is no making a patient sick or pumping of stomachs these days it seems. My daughter was connected up to 3 sequential drips (1 hour, 4 hour and 16 hour) with blood tests in between to check drug levels. Hoping this practical info is useful and sending love and a handhold. X

RhubarbTea · 03/09/2021 23:20

You poor love, it isn't you fault. You must be so worried but I hope she is getting good care, it's extra tough when you can't be with them. A gentle handhold from me too.

HollowTalk · 03/09/2021 23:20

It's so frightening to think of someone being so low that they can't see a future. I hope she's ok and gets some help. 💐

JackieQueen · 03/09/2021 23:22

So sorry, its not your fault at all, hoping she recovers safely Flowers

oakleaffy · 03/09/2021 23:27

Sincerely hope your DD gets the help she needs.
I hope the drug won’t have any long term effects, but it sounded like you got her to A&E in plenty of time.
Being a young person can be incredibly hard emotionally for many people.

Salaman · 03/09/2021 23:32

About your worry about being contacted, they should have taken details of her next of kin down. You could also ring the ward to give them yourself.

FVFrog · 03/09/2021 23:34

Sending you a handhold. My DD also survived an overdose at 17. It is not your fault. Hopefully this will be the start of her getting appropriate help and looking forward to the future. But for now, just get through tonight. She’ll be ok.

magicjo · 03/09/2021 23:38

Surely you can go in to the desk to check they have your details and while you're there ask how she is? It's the most difficult age.

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JackOfGentleman · 03/09/2021 23:39

Thanks everyone, I do appreciate the messages.

I am worried that they won't have my details and can't contact me. Really worried.

On a different note, there's no inside waiting space here for many people and there are loads of people sitting outside on the cold ground, waiting. Some with little children. I'm lucky, I have my car, but it must be horrible for them :(

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JackOfGentleman · 03/09/2021 23:40

@magicjo

Surely you can go in to the desk to check they have your details and while you're there ask how she is? It's the most difficult age.

There's a security guard on the door!! You can't get past them.

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DowntonCrabby · 03/09/2021 23:42

Handhold OP

She’s in the right place, this is not your fault. Flowers
She’s ill and will hopefully get all the help and support she needs. I’ll be thinking of you both FlowersFlowers

maxbabi · 03/09/2021 23:45

Been in same position with my dd a couple of times.
Massive cry for help.
I don't have words of wisdom for you as its bloody tough watching it all unfold and you can do nothing. Of course it isn't your fault but of course you blame yourself only natural. If she was intent on suicide she would have found something else.
Hopefully she can access some mh help But unfortunately the system is in chaos due to severe underfunding
Sending you strength and try to get some rest.

magicjo · 03/09/2021 23:51

This is so awful for you but she is in the best place - you can't do more for her right now but do ring the ward - no-one can expect you not to want to know what's happening.

Unescorted · 03/09/2021 23:52

My DD went into hospital last week. I called reception and they were able to put me through to the ward for an update.

Hope your DD is ok. Xxx

Sunshinesandice · 03/09/2021 23:53

Can’t you call reception ? X

AutomaticMoon · 03/09/2021 23:54

Wow, I did this when I was 12 and my mother was more worried that I swore at the doctor when I was completely out of it. When I left the hospital she made me go home and clean my room before I could see my friends. Never asked why (sexual abuse in foster care,etc)
Hang in there and talk to her 🧡
Sending you virtual hugs x

AutomaticMoon · 03/09/2021 23:56

@maxbabi

Been in same position with my dd a couple of times. Massive cry for help. I don't have words of wisdom for you as its bloody tough watching it all unfold and you can do nothing. Of course it isn't your fault but of course you blame yourself only natural. If she was intent on suicide she would have found something else. Hopefully she can access some mh help But unfortunately the system is in chaos due to severe underfunding Sending you strength and try to get some rest.
That's not correct, I attempted at 12 and I definitely meant to die, I was extremely upset when I woke up alive. Please don't assume it's a cry for help and assume it's an attempt to complete suicide, it's safer that way. Why do people always like to assume the least dangerous thing?!
diffNameSameMe · 04/09/2021 00:02

I'm so sorry OP. If you go back to the door (if you're still in the car park) and speak to the security guard, explain the situation and ask them to pass on your contact details they should be able to help you. If you're not able to do that call the main switchboard and ask to be put through to the department. With an overdose it's common for PLT (the mental health teams) to not be able to see someone until they're assessed as medically fit so ask them where she's up to, whether they advise you to stay or go home. We can all sit here and say to not blame yourself; it won't make any difference to how you feel. What I will say is that in my experience if she had intended to do this she would have found a way, with or without your medications. It was identified early, medical help sought, you've done all that you can do 🤗

ThreeFlowers · 04/09/2021 00:03

THIS
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“Keep on at the staff, tell them you're extremely worried. Unfortunately from several A&E experiences patiently waiting doesn't get you anywhere”

GiraffeWithSwag · 04/09/2021 00:08

@JackOfGentleman you could call the Samaritans for some support for yourself whilst you’re waiting for info/news. Someone is always available to support you, or your daughter if she needs them, anytime day or night 116123.

SirVixofVixHall · 04/09/2021 00:15

How terrifying for you to have to wait outside not knowing what is going on.
I hope you get some information soon and that your daughter is alright.

Everyone is saying it isn’t your fault, and I am adding my voice to the chorus. It isn’t your fault Op. if she hadn’t found the medicine she would have taken something else, possibly something more toxic.
There is never one reason for suicide attempts , please do not blame yourself, depression is a terrible illness.

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JackOfGentleman · 04/09/2021 00:29

She's basically unresponsive, she's been taken to resus.

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