My ex hasn’t invited me to his wedding, do I have a right to be hurt?

[Rebeccajf]

I know this might sounds crazy to most people out there but I just need other peoples advice on this!
My ex and I split up almost four years ago, he was cheating and left me for another woman. I was distraught and it took nearly a year but I’m now safely over him. No romantic feelings at all.
Looking back out relationship was quite unhealthy and probably should have ended sooner (together ten years) anyway he’s had many girlfriends/ sexual partners over the last few years and I’ve always been fine with them all.
He met his most recent woman just before Xmas, they are already buying a house together and planning their lives, I’m happy for him although I know him well and think it’s very quick but he says he’s happy so I keep quiet.
Now, since we split up we have become incredibly close as friends. We have children together so we see each other a lot for that but although I have best friends already, I do consider him a close friend. We talk constantly, go on days out with the children, even without them. We have supported each other financially when each other of us have needed help. He always tells me and his family/ friends that I’m his best friend and we even go away and stay at his family’s home together (his parents live near the seaside). He came to me last week and said he’s going to propose to his new girlfriend, I think it’s too quick but didn’t tell him that. I said I’d support him whatever he chooses to do. Today he came over to tell our children he is going to get married and they were talking about the wedding/ seating plan and my oldest said ‘but where does mum sit’ and he replied ‘I’d imagine at home’
I have to admit this really cut me up, not much normally does but this really quite hurts me. We are so close there’s nothing we don’t know about each other and he’s open about his closeness to me so I guess I’m hurt that he wouldn’t invite me to his wedding. Even just the evening but nothing. Apparently it’s just my job to make sure the kids get there on time and picked up in the evening.
I know this must sound mad but our relationship is history I don’t consider him an ex I just consider him a friend, guess I just wonder other people opinions on this?
Thanks

We talk constantly, go on days out with the children, even without them. We have supported each other financially when each other of us have needed help. He always tells me and his family/ friends that I’m his best friend and we even go away and stay at his family’s home together

I can’t imagine you’ll be doing much of that any more though, now he’s getting married to someone else.

Very normal to not go to your ex’s wedding.

Poor new wife to be. She will be competing with the inlaws because you are very much embedded in there. And she doesn't know about the vasectomy. You're part of the engagement ring even!

@ElderMillennial

I think it's actually a bit strange that you're such close friends when you have children together and he is getting married again. I don't think it's appropriate for you to go to the wedding and seemingly he agrees.

When out like that. I know of actual marriages which have that level of relationship. And some good marriages where that's not even the case

Sorry @3CCC I don't understand your post

Not a chance in hell I’d want an ex at my wedding, especially an ex wife/husband. As for the rest, just not normal. You need to move on with your life and leave your ex to his.

It is not appropriate for you to be there as his ex. YABU

I am friendly with Exdh and there's no animosity but like hell would it be appropriate for him to be there when I marry DP. In fairness I also wouldn't ask him to manage the DC drop off because they will be with me anyway. I do think that's a bit off to ask you to bring them.

No absolutely not an expectation that you should be there. Unless you have been friends with both of them for years in end and even then I would completely understand not being at the wedding.

Its hard for someone when they know they are a second marriage. DP is brilliant but of course it is a bit crap when he knows I have already been through the wedding process (not that he says it but I know him well). Having my ex there ? No.

Not to mention ot would be incredibly confusing and off for the DC.