Late October 2020 babies - Support Thread

[Mc3209]

Graduating from Pregnancy forum into Parenting one! I feel almost grown up.

And of course everyone is welcome to join!

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I am sorry if I missed anyone!

Thank you. We are having a lovely time being away, and it’s been so refreshing. Paige has loved spending time with other people too. We have explored caves, done lots of walks / hills, and eating out. She has been really good and just gone with the flow.

Nightime is still up and down. She seems to be cutting 4 teeth. One came through on Saturday, so Sunday was a lot better. The next looks like it will cut anyday.

@GhostWorld I completely understand your post too, I miss my freedom sometimes or ability to live loosely. Especially evening meals. I would leave that group too. I’ve left Paige quite a few times now, I’ve had to for my own sanity. I’ve found I feel more like “me” when I’m doing work, so hopefully as the months go by things will get easier.

@Strawberries4days finger foods we do, toast, carrot, banana, sweet potato, rice cakes, broccoli, wafers, melon. Her favorites are pear and cucumber. I also do spoon BLW, so I will load the spoon and give it her, she will eat stew, mash etc.

@Sls668 I am pretty much the same as you. 7-8 wake time, 7.30-8.00pm bedtime. With around 3 naps in the day. These can be between 30mins-2hours with a 2.5-3hr wake windows. I make sure the last nap doesn’t go past 6pm, but only do this nap if the previous naps have been short / overtired. If I skip that last nap I just do a slightly earlier bed. Tonight she napped until 17.50, but went to bed at 7.30 with no issue.

Is anyone due back to work soon after MAT leave. At the minute I’m working flexible hours, mainly self employed. But due to go back to the office soon, I am dreading it.

@DressingGown87 awww that's amazing you had a good holiday with Paige. It must be so new to her! Such a good way to explore and do things I think.
we have tried carrots for the first finger food plus Ella's melty sticks last night. The panic was real when she was able to get a bit of carrot and rolling around in her mouth but she seemed to know what to do. Not a fan of the melty sticks, I think it's the texture she didn't like. We're gonna try carrot again along with broccoli. I do the spoon feeding too, mostly because she grabs it before I can get it to her mouth. She's good with water, more excited for her water than any food tbh haha I got Quaker oats porridge in for her because I feel that the baby porridge is too soft plus doesn't last long when opened which is a pain for weaning and price.
I'm looking for work atm, thanks to this Pandemic. My only concern is child care so would prefer to put DD in a nursery than a child minders for a peace of mind. Is it the thought of working close with other people that's making you dread a bit? Or just being away from home for a bit longer?

Told my manager I won't be returning after mat leave. I m starting part-time study again in October. They were relocating and I can't drive so would have been quite the commute even if I switched to part-time it just wouldn't have made sense financially for us as a family.
Whether it's the best idea doing a degree with a not quite one year old, we'll see what happens.

With weaning at the moment, still no luck with convincing him to swallow much water but he's trying nearly everything put in front of him, no signs of reducing his milk at all yet.

@1990shopefulftm have faith I went to uni and now work with a woman who started our full time course when her son was 3 months old

@krissy12 thank you, it's distance learning so hoping the flexibility of it will be enough to do well and graduate by the time he d be starting school.

With other people I know who have babies slightly older than ours they will have a nap at say 10 and then 3, I'm wondering when we'll move to times in the day rather than just 2 hours after he last woke. Would be handy for making plans ha.
My DS only lasts about an hour after he wakes up (around 7) (although I probably should start to try and stretch that) and then it's wake windows of about 2 hours but I just wait until he looks sleepy. Still on 4 naps a day most days. Do you wake yours if they sleep in late?

@Strawberries4days water is a hit here too. Hope she is still enjoy foods. We tried scrambled egg today and she hated it. But weetabix yesterday was a hit.
I think my main concerns with RTW, is the struggle to get things done. Working from home, self employed I can be flexible, do jobs around the house, prepare meals between jobs. I’m worried about leaving at 8am, not being home til after 6pm, and having everything to do when I get home. Then having the stress of deadlines out of my control. I could just go self employed FT, but then I worry about not having a regular income for us, holidays, sick pay, or company. Good luck job hunting, fingers crossed you find something. Paige is with a childminder, I was very set on a nursery, but as she was so young when she started she couldn’t go. She absolutely loves her childminder and other children, and they do so much with her.

@1990shopefulftm Have faith, hopefully it will be manageable and best for you as a family. I finished the last year of my final degree, with 3 step children FT (all under 4), whilst work a full time in practice. It resulted in a lot of late nights, but it was manageable for long term gain. They are usually very supportive of people with young children.

@ghostworld do you follow Talkingcarababies on insta? Her story today is about the 2-3 nap transition. I try and get Paige up within a 1hr window window (should do 30mins), to get some regularity. But some days (usually when I’ve made plans) she wakes early, or today I let her sleep in until 8.45 because I was up late. Then I just go with the flow. I’m trying to stretch her wake window to 3hrs, as I’ve found she will nap longer and reduce naps. So today we’ve had 2 naps (2.45hr sleep) and 7pm bed.

@DressingGown87 thank you, I know the Flexibility will be there to drop my course to less hours if I needed to but if I can do it I know it's best for our family in the long run so I can get the work I want to do once he starts school.

have any of you moved babies into their own room yet? we're thinking of moving him next weekend, he's used to his cot so it'll be the sleeping alone in his room for him to adjust to.
We're going to trial settling him in our room as usual for a week then leaving him sleep with the monitor on and seeing what happens to make it a more gradual change and see how we go from there.

@1990shopefulftm not yet but also thinking imminently! His sleeping has been terrible again and I'm at my wits end. All these people telling me he will sleep when he is weaned are wrong. He is waking every 1-2 hours again, getting most of his milk in the night. He's not crying, just wriggling and leg thumping and awake, taking forever to resettle. Naps are crap too, 30 mins max after a fight. I wish there was some obvious reason but there isn't. I'm hoping he will be better in his own room, although I'm quite anxious about him being alone!

@BlueLilyLilyBlue I hope the sleep situation gets better for you soon. Weaning hasn't changed my babies milk amounts yet either

@1990shopefulftm Paige is in her own room. I didn’t really do any gradual transition. It helped us both as she didn’t wake to me coming to bed and I didn’t wake to her snoring.

@BlueLilyLilyBlue hope it gets better soon. We are teething, which I think is the explanation to the unsettled night. Had my COVID vaccine yesterday, she said to have a good nights sleep to help side effects. No chance of that! I’m a zombie.

@BlueLilyLilyBlue solidarity. I'm co-sleeping a lot more for the same reason. He sleeps a lot better in our bed. I can't imagine getting him into his own room at present. I would die if I have to not only get out of bed every 2 hours, but go to a different room.

@Mc3209 usually cosleeping helps him to settle but at the moment he just wriggles and grabs me instead . I'm glad it's working for you both though, I'd hesitate to move him if it works!

We haven’t moved baby to her own room yet, mostly because I’m not brave enough!

@DressingGown87 he sleeps through a lot of noise bit does wake me up sometimes so I may get better sleep when we move him.

we've not moved either but might need to soon he's outgrowing the snuzpod and I think if I move the cot in I'll never move him into his own room

I think we're waiting until she's dropped her night bottles to do it but I'm thinking of doing it soon cause we keep waking her climbing into bed and she wakes me up when she's turning in her sleep

Yep no sign of mine moving into a different room, or even different bed haha. He kicks off so much if I put him in the cot, I honestly don't know how he knows the difference cause it feels the same as the bed and I've slept with the bed sheet so I should smell the same but he immediately wakes up.

If baby is in their own room how do you know if they've filled their nappy? I only know when I need to change DSs nappy because I hear him (it's a lovely sound to wake up to haha)

@GhostWorld I guess smell when you check or sound on the monitor? We definitely used to know by smell with comfort milk but since we changed to normal milk, I can't smell a thing!
I guess if they're fussing, probably be the first thing to check before comforting them

Anyone else's periods still a bit heavier after baby? I was going to give it one more cycle then speak to my GP, but the only contraceptive I was wanting to try was the copper coil, now I m concerned I shouldn't get one incase they make it worse as last thing I want to do is need to go to the bathroom more often with a 6 month old.

We re certain that he will be an only child, pity our bodies don't have an easy off option when you ve made that decision.

@1990shopefulftm I am pretty much the opposite 😬 Was convinced we were only having one, had it all planned out career wise and all, but I've changed my mind since having my baby! Now I would love a second one, it's a pity DH still wants only one... But I am hoping he will come around.
Still no periods for me, but I suspect it's the courtesy of the mirena coil.

@GhostWorld I usually do the smell test first if she’s woke up, when I go in the room (however it usually hits you in the face). She generally waits until morning now for a dirty nappy.

The only thing I’ve found moving Paige, is that it’s not as dark in that room, as the sunrises on that side. Hopefully the blinds I’ve order (which have cost me an absolute fortune due to the size of window) help.

@1990shopefulftm I’ve not noticed any difference in my periods. But it does take awhile for things to go back to normal, I would speak to the GP if your concerned.

@Mc3209 A few weeks after he was born we realised that one baby is the right thing for us.
I haven't been sure about getting a minera coil, a friend had a stroke last year on the mini pill so on top of already not wanting to deal with the side effects I ve gotten from hormones before that's really solidified my not wanting that as an option.

@DressingGown87 is the window too big for one of those blackout groblinds? I think I ll be ringing the GP next month, I won't ever be allowed to be prescribed the combined pill again so any contraception they d offer me could make the situation worse rather than guarantying it would be better.