Late October 2020 babies - Support Thread

[Mc3209]

Graduating from Pregnancy forum into Parenting one! I feel almost grown up.

And of course everyone is welcome to join!

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I am sorry if I missed anyone!

Had 16 week jabs yesterday and it completely knocked him about...spent most of the day asleep, hardly fed and when he was awake, was really unsettled and crying...ended up with him in our bed all night as he was just whimpering in his crib and wouldn’t settle. So sad to see :(. Noticed this little spot on his belly yesterday, any ideas what this could be and is it a cause for concern??

@FirstSurprise001 last time I saw HV was in December. I got a phone call from HV last week due to a random rash appearing on DD (gone now) but I'm the same with you, no idea when I will see her again. Must be at the 6 month check since they're half a year old right? Face to Face would be so much better though.

I am at a lost today. Past week DD has been waking up a few times in the night crying with gas until she farts it out. It could last for 5 minutes or for half an hour until she gets it out and then I have to put in a soother to try and get her back to sleep. She's good during the day but it's always night time and it's disturbing her sleep. We're on comfort milk and making sure there's no air in the bottles too. Still a pain for burping but not as bad as before and it eventually comes up. Any tips for night time relief? We used infacol before and it didn't do anything

@Strawberries4days try adding dentinox to the bottles

@1990shopefulftm thanks I'll have a go at that! Mentioned it to DH and he went "her shampoo??"😂

@Strawberries4days I mean their cradle cap shampoo is good but not quite multipurpose

@1990shopefulftm if only it was a bit like sudocream like mum used for everything 😂

@Mc3209 I have a pack of sleep suits, one was in the changing bag as a spare and never worn. Used it yesterday and it drowns her (3-6) so clear I’m just shrinking stuff, as others from the same pack don’t fit. Can’t wait for line drying weather.

@FirstSurprise001 aww glad your feeling better. I have a HV appointment today for her 4month check, then 6month.

@GBA123 hope he’s feeling a little better today, no idea what the spot could be, just keep an eye on it.

@Strawberries4days have you tried giving gripe water before the last feed, IMO it works better than infacol.

I’m feeling like utter s**t at the minute, really down. And cry at least 3 times a day. I just feel like a failure, and that I can’t be both parents. It’s mentally and physically draining me. 4 months old and not a single text, or anything of her dad (not that I expected it). Support / contact with people has started to fizzle out because she is no longer the little baby. 4 month regression is hitting me hard, as is lockdown.

@Strawberries4days I m allergic to lavender so I sneeze when I put sudocrem on baby wish I could use it on myself.

@DressingGown87 you are not a failure, if you need to break lockdown for the sake of your health you should do it. Completely different circumstances but after we lost my dad mum did a brilliant job with me on her own, kids don't need two parents all Paige needs right now is food, love and a safe home and you re giving her that. Always here for a chat if you need one

So I ve just used a 9-12 month t-shirt and it fits

@DressingGown87 don't be too hard on your self, you're not a failure at all. Paige has a loving mum and everyone can understand with these strange circumstances with lockdown and such. I agree with @1990shopefulftm if you need a break or see a friend, sometimes you need that social to break days up a bit. 4 month regression is the hardest but you're doing great, it's not gonna last as well 💖

@DressingGown87 it’s hard enough doing it as a couple so you’re already doing twice as good a job as most people! Just keep going and do whatever you need to make your life easier atm, take naps with Paige if you can for a bit of a mental break or at least just close your eyes for a while! It’s bloody hard but things can only get better can’t they...fingers crossed, hope you feel better soon x

@DressingGown87 you 100% are not a failure it is her dad that is and when Paige gets older she wont be thinking she wishes she had a mum and dad she will just be proud of how amazing her mum is

@DressingGown87 completely agree with what everyone has said- I know you are a fantastic mum. I know this because of everything you say about what you do with Paige and the help you give everyone in this group!

My sister has two children (a two year old and a baby) and she is a single parent where the father has literally ran off and has no contact. The children are doing really well and my sister has only got me for support as our mum died just over a year ago and my father also died a few years ago. She has just hired a childminder for a couple hours on Saturday and Sunday. I know that this will help her to just have a little break. Maybe you can get someone to give you a bit of a break (not to do work or house work by the way 😊 Or, maybe try directly asking those in your bubble for more help- of us need a break

Anyway big hugs to you xxx

Thank you so much everyone, everyone on this group is always so supportive. Feeling a lot better than I did this morning, although reading these posts have brought a tear to my eye. just got Paige down so I can have a few hours to myself. We’ve been on a long walk today to get out. I just feel like I’m constantly fighting over-tiredness and naps, and it’s just so draining, as I feel there is no time to enjoy. I keep reminding myself it will pass.

@parks11 sorry to hear about your sister I hope she is ok, and glad the DC are doing ok. You sound like an amazing support. Paige was due to start with her childminder this week for one day, but she’s having to isolate, so it’s been delayed. It is so I can do a full days work. But will possibly increase hours to get some me time, depending on how she settles. I think part of the problem is that as soon as Paige goes down (night or day) I work or sort out the house. My sister has a 7 week old and 3yo, and my other sister a 2day old 3 and 5yo, so they are unable to help anymore. But going to see if I can ask a friend to come and help.

@DressingGown87 Sending ((((Hugs)))) and a big glass of wine. You are doing fantastic, you are a super mum to Paige and she will appreciate it. I'd say ditch the housework for a week, do just the bare minimum to get by. House will not fall apart and you will have some time for you during her naps. Hopefully childminder will make a difference too. You are doing so well, keep swimming, lovely. 😘

@Strawberries4days agree that gripe water is miles better than infacol. Can recommend Dr Brown's bottles too.

@DressingGown87 I'm really struggling with lockdown and regression too so you're an absolute superhero for doing it alone! You're being a fantastic mum to Paige. The only way I'm getting through this is by sleeping or just having time to myself during naps (as @Mc3209 suggested) and my house is a bombsite, but needs must. Don't be too hard on yourself.

My baby has been so cranky the last few days and was getting slightly manic with rocking last night after he'd woken up at dream feed time and he still wasn't back asleep at 2am . Napping continues to be a battle of wills. This morning when he woke up though I actually just said "no, this nap is not over for me!" and amazingly he went back to sleep . He is teething so badly as well, hand in mouth constantly and he keeps making himself gag. Roll on his jabs tomorrow to add that into the mix.

Baby had an hour of naps yesterday, two weeks ago it was 4 hours a day and has gradually decreased, HV wasn't bothered when I asked but without much break in the day it's feeling very repetitive doing the same things all the time to entertain him.

@1990shopefulftm I hear you on the nap front. My two have been ridiculously awake the last week, they are 15 weeks today. My smaller twin has just been awake for the last 4 hours and the day has yet again nearly disappeared!

This is when baby groups are so good ☹️

@ChampooPapi he's 15 weeks on Friday, maybe it's something about this age.
You have my admiration juggling two no napping babies.

I can't drive so will be a while before we go to baby groups as I wouldn't want to get on a bus until things calm down a lot more.

@1990shopefulftm I can't drive either, it's rubbish isn't it!

I’ve had my first disaster with baby today, I was carrying her facing forward up my mums drive and tripped over the dog falling forwards. I think I managed to slow the fall down somehow (it’s all a bit of a blur) so she didn’t go down hard at all but she had a little red mark on her forehead, it seems to have gone now. My mum opened the door to us both crying 🙈 we’ve recovered now though!

@Sls668 glad you've both recovered now, i have to shout at the cat a lot as she hasn't learnt i can't see her as well carrying a baby.

Anyone else feel like getting anywhere near to their pre-baby weight is going to be a long slog? I know i won't ever look like i did again but it feels so slow to lose 1lb a week when you feel hungry a fair bit of the time.

@Sls668 ah no, that must have been scary! Glad both of you are OK in the end.

@1990shopefulftm I am just glad my weight is going down after it plateaued for a while. I am just hoping it will get there by the time I need to get back to work.

@Mc3209 how did you get past the plateau?