What age did you stop staying in DC's room until they fell asleep?

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As the title says, usually we stay with DD until she falls asleep. What age did you move to "night night" and just leave them to it?

3 years old and still doing it! I don’t mind. It’s lovely x

About 2

DS is 10. Have to lie with him every night, I inevitably fall asleep and wake up last midnight.

He's always been tricky. Some phases of self settling, but super anxious and it's a habit we don't know how to break.

If we go out for the night he stays up till we get back. Can't go away and leave him. Hoping the move into year 6 helps!

3 years old and still doing it! I don’t mind. It’s lovely

Imagine still doing it in 10 years tine? My friend is in that position 😱

I leave the room but say I am just pottering about. Then go and wash my face etc. They like hearing me wander around while they drift off. I love imagining how safe and lovely they feel snuggled up listening to mummy wandering around. I’m fairly unconfident as a mum but I love doing that for them!

Nope I have never done this either. We’ve done all sorts of weird and wonderful things to try and encourage them to sleep but never laid with them or held their hand unless of course they were ill!

5

To all the posters pointing out we are not in the savannah any more, maybe not but you can undo evolution overnight.
And yes I do judge people who leave babies to cry. You're a parent, they need you, stop being so selfish and self centred.

Nope never, single parent and I didn't have time/patience for hanging around at bedtime.

Bath, milk, cuddles, story and then would leave dd warm and comfy in her bed to go to sleep.

I think me hanging about would have just kept dd awake longer tbh.

I haven’t seen one post saying they left theirs to cry, some children will lie awake without being unhappy.

I never did it either

Never done it either 🤷🏼‍♀️

Never did it. She went in her own room the day we brought her home. She never slept in our bed and never created at bed time. She was a great sleeper, just waking to feed. These toddlers refusing to sleep without mums in the room with them are taking the piss.

It never occurred to me to do so. I think at that time (25 years ago), we were told to put them down & leave them. Of course if they cried we went back to them, but did try to get them to self settle. But then ours never slept in our room either as I couldn't sleep, but this is against current advice.

Seven! We liked it - DP and I work long hours so bedtime with ds is important. We take turns and spend a good hour winding down, chatting, colouring and reading. Lying next to him while he fell asleep was lovely.

He's 8 now and we still spend the big chunk of time reading etc but he falls asleep himself now. I sometimes jump back in for a cuddle when he's asleep though.

@AlternativePerspective

Never.

IMO most sleep problems are caused by parents teaching their children not to sleep without them.

This!

I had friends that did this and decided while I was pregnant with my first that I wasn't having any of that palava.

Still do with a 9 yo. And no, she isn't clingy. And yes, she's fine with sleepovers. Guess I won't be when she's 19.

my DD is now 10 but she was always contented apart from a 3 week stretch from 6-9 weeks when she had colic, generally from birth after feeding changing playing I put her in cot and she went to sleep, I'm lucky she has always loved her bed and sleep, and when she moved to own bed, it was 1-2 stories, then a kiss and cuddle goo night darling leave room switch out light and it was the last I heard till morning, she is still like it today she never went to bed super early 7.30 from age3-6 then 8, now its 9.- 9.30 om school nights and 10pm weekends and holidays she wakes about 7,30-8am
Most of it is due to tempermkent of child but I do think over reassuarance is counter productive

When I worked as a dentist I found that the parents that kept reassuring the child that the mirror was fine it wouldn't hurt etc created nervousness when there was none before as it had never occured to child that a object that basically looks like a spoon with long handle was going to hurt and keep telling them it won't raises doubt because you never say anything like a spoon or fork won't hurt; so I think that constant reassuring about dark etc makes it more worrying not less

Some of you are creating really bad sleeping habits from the get go with your kids. Remember what you teach them, they take through life. I have a friend who has to wait until her 5yr old is asleep before she can leave the room and that can go on for up to an hour! She's exhausted and it impacts her relationship as it's eating into her adult time with her DH when the kids are in bed. Some people have zero common sense when it comes to parenting.

Dd1, never once she was in her own room from 6 months. Dts - sitting in with them now.... they are 8 . Tbf they have ASD and alot of sleep problems, but also them sharing a room is not optional but also not helpful as one will drop off and if I'm not in here the other one will wake them up again.

@WatermelonSugarHigh

I'm amazed by the sheer number of people saying 'never'. The guidance for preventing SIDS says you should always be in the room with them while sleeping until at least six months. So if you have the kind of baby (unlike mine LOL) who goes to bed earlier than you do, you have them sleep in the living room with you and then transfer them up to bed when you go (either having them in bed with you, or in bedside cot, or in separate cot but in your room).

Did you all seriously leave a newborn, 24 hours or so old, alone in a cot and shut the door and head downstairs?

Well yes I mean from when they went into their own rooms at 5/6 months. But I suppose I never saw it as them sleeping in the same room as us because they wanted us with them, more that they were in the same room because we needed to keep an eye on them. Once they went into their own rooms it was bath, teeth, pyjamas, story, (milk when little) cuddles, into bed and leave the room. We always made a point of putting them into the cot when still awake from as early as possible though so they had already learned to fall asleep by themselves before they went into their own rooms.

Still lying with my 6 year old. I did try to sleep train her gently when she was younger but it never worked.
We now turn this into special time together and I find it very relaxing to lie next to her as she drifts off to sleep after we go through her little rituals like story, songs and hug.
Yes it takes time out of my evening and sometimes I wish the whole thing would only take ten minutes. But on the other hand it is relaxing time for me as well and I can read my phone once we have said goodnight. She won't do this forever and I enjoy the closeness with her whilst she needs it.

Never

Never

She won't do this forever

What would be your cut off point though? Like I mentioned earlier my friend is still doing this with her teenage child.