What age did you stop staying in DC's room until they fell asleep?

[Cosypyjamaface]

As the title says, usually we stay with DD until she falls asleep. What age did you move to "night night" and just leave them to it?

I’m not judging... if anything jealous. 7-7 is my dream!!

About 11 months. My being there was just a distraction. I still have to pop in every so often to rearrange the blanket and retrieve a teddy from the the other side of the room.

Both my babies fell asleep on their own after about 1 year BUT now they need us to stay with them. They need the connection after a busy day. 6&3 yrs

Never did it with DS1 who is 4. We brush teeth, go to the toilet, have a quick "what was your favourite part of today?", a story or two then I leave. He's been like that since maybe 18 months old.

Currently sat in the room with 10 month old DS2, ready to crawl out now that he's asleep but also knowing he sleeps with one eye open until he's really really asleep. I'll wait for the snoring.

@blusteryshowers
Well said.

If you have a kid who sleeps, don't just assume it's because you have done things right. You may have but you may simply have been lucky.

@NoParticularPattern actually laughed out loud.
I'm also with you , iv got to many rods for my own back. Just one of them things

Never. The cat used to stay with ds2 until he'd gone off.

When my daughter was 2 and a half we decided we wanted to try this. I was 3 months off of giving birth to number 2 and my husband works away so settling her every night with a newborn in tow wasn’t appealing!
It took a while, basically spending less and less time in the room until eventually I was telling one story at her bedroom door and then leaving her with some lullaby music on. She’s now almost 3 and a half and you can just leave her after settling her and popping on the music for 15 mins but she needs to be tired enough to sleep or she will be up before you’ve gotten down the stairs.
I know a lot of people teach self settling very young - ie when they are in their cots and can’t follow you! But I think a lot of kids go through a phase where they get up and follow you at some point.
It can be done but it takes time!

I'm amazed by the sheer number of people saying 'never'. The guidance for preventing SIDS says you should always be in the room with them while sleeping until at least six months. So if you have the kind of baby (unlike mine LOL) who goes to bed earlier than you do, you have them sleep in the living room with you and then transfer them up to bed when you go (either having them in bed with you, or in bedside cot, or in separate cot but in your room).

Did you all seriously leave a newborn, 24 hours or so old, alone in a cot and shut the door and head downstairs?

Have never done that, bath, story, cosy up cuddles, bed! Night night 😃

@WatermelonSugarHigh

I'm amazed by the sheer number of people saying 'never'. The guidance for preventing SIDS says you should always be in the room with them while sleeping until at least six months. So if you have the kind of baby (unlike mine LOL) who goes to bed earlier than you do, you have them sleep in the living room with you and then transfer them up to bed when you go (either having them in bed with you, or in bedside cot, or in separate cot but in your room).

Did you all seriously leave a newborn, 24 hours or so old, alone in a cot and shut the door and head downstairs?

To be honest I said ‘never’ but I didn’t consider them staying with me downstairs until we went to bed as ‘sitting with them until they fall asleep’ in the sense of the OP. So I will revise my answer to ‘from when they went into their own rooms at 6 months, I didn’t ever sit with them until they fell asleep’.

My 3yo still needs cuddles. If we try to leave the room he simply follows! Still prone to waking, didn't sleep through consistently til 2yo, refused to go in a cot so co-slept until he transitioned straight to a bed, never slept 12 hours straight in his life. 9mo can be left to go to sleep himself. Pretty much sleeps through now, although sometimes wakes for a feed and did recently go through a spate of 5am wake ups but now back to 7am. Self settles. Content to babble / play with his hands or feet in his cot til he drops off. Naps well. Hasn't fed to sleep since he was a newborn. We did the exact same with both of them. Good sleepers are born, not made. No one will ever convince me otherwise after my two!

7 months when they moved into their own room. Baby perfectly happy with this. Sometimes they cry when put into cot but as soon as shut door and leave they are perfectly fine.

@cosycatsocks

God I could never sleep train, these are babies, they need their mum. They wouldn't have survived long in the savannah going to sleep left on their own. You can't undo evolution, poor babies must feel abandoned.

In fairness, many of them wouldn't survive long in he savannah anyway. Isn't progress great.

4 1/2 and am still doing it! I can't face the drama of stopping, have totally made a massive rod for my back. But, on a good night it's 20 mins snuggle with story then i look at my phone while she drifts of. On a bad night it takes ages and is a pain in the arse.

Nearly 9 and nearly 7

Occasionally it gets me grumpy when I would rather be relaxing on the sofa, but normally a nice chat all together and then I Mumsnet whilst they drift to sleep

They are totally fine on sleepovers etc

@WatermelonSugarHigh

I'm amazed by the sheer number of people saying 'never'. The guidance for preventing SIDS says you should always be in the room with them while sleeping until at least six months. So if you have the kind of baby (unlike mine LOL) who goes to bed earlier than you do, you have them sleep in the living room with you and then transfer them up to bed when you go (either having them in bed with you, or in bedside cot, or in separate cot but in your room).

Did you all seriously leave a newborn, 24 hours or so old, alone in a cot and shut the door and head downstairs?

I think you're being quite disingenuous here - the majority of parents keep their newborns with them until bedtime, i think it's pretty clear we're all talking about putting babies to bed and leaving, which is obviously not something you do with a newborn.

Literally never , other than I guess when were in my room when newborn When I’d watch a film or something in bed rather than downstairs but I still wouldn’t Do that every night I had some nights downstairs untill my bedtime

And surely having them downstairs with you doesn’t actually count as ‘sitting with them until they fall asleep’? As that implies you leave after they fall asleep.
If they’re sleeping in the room with you you’re not sitting with them until they fall asleep. They just happen to be sleeping in the room that you’re in.

2.5 yrs old and we still cuddle to sleep. If we leave the room she just screams or comes after us. I've not worked out how we change that. But neither of us mind the cuddles with her but I would like more time in the evening.

6

Yes, I did put my newborn to bed and leave him, (in our room but didn't stay with him) ... maybe the guidelines were different then - 19 years ago? . I know I was sleeping I a nursery 'attic' when I was born, my mother three stories away from me until she came up to bed - no nanny on duty.

Currently sat at the end of my 4 yr olds bed waiting for her to go to effing sleep 😴

3 as soon as she turned 3 I just told her a i had a few little jobs to do and would come back and check on her
Sometimes she calls me back most nights she goes to sleep pretty quickly I think I was beginning it be more of a distraction staying in her room

DD1 is nearly 8 and I still stay with her most nights till asleep or very nearly.

DD2 is 5 and has been going to sleep by herself since a baby (can’t remember exact age)

Did the same with both; it isn’t because we tried something different with DD2.

DD1 just finds it very very hard to wind down by herself so I’d rather spend 10 mins helping her nod off than have her awake for hours and tired the next day.