May babies no. 5 - crikey!

[libb]

Wouldn't we all be a nightmare on a rare ladies only night out?!

Blimey! i only missed one day (i couldn't see through my streaming cold filled eyes )

DD STILL hasn't caught the cold properly! a little snuffly, and and coughy, but not waking at night or anything like last time. which is fab.

Susi-Are you still having problems with ds naping the daytime? DD will not go down without a fight now. So strange it started all of a sudden!

Planning to get my hair cut today, get this, FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE DD WAS BORN!!!!! can't believe it's been so long, but she is beginning to swing from it now so it cannot wait a moment longer, and also seeing my granparents at the weekend and must look my best and not frazzled shell, with drippy scabby nose, drooling and not being able to string a sentence together.

We entered the exciting world of pear puree yesterday but dd was none too impressed, some very funny faces though

Egypt- The washing didn't seem toooo bad when it came out, except maye a little crispier than usual, i re washed, and it seems fine. Dp is still teasing me about that one. 50% brain loss for me i think.

Hope everyone is okay!

xxxx

on the subject of hair, is anyone's falling out in clumps when brushing or washing? Mine is and my mum says its quite normal when baby is 4/5 months.

V.bad night last. Probably the worst since he allegedly started sleeping thro at 12 weeks. He had a dream feed at 11.0. Then he woke at 2 and stayed awake until 5...Aggggghhhh. He then woke at 7.30. I don't know what to do about it other than just hope its a phase and i'll just have to put up with it. I'm sure with time things will get better. (but it looks like in my case with time its getting worse!)

the oats breakfast sounds great. I'm going to give it a try. My mum used to mix an egg with oats porridge and feed it to me, when i was 3 months. She said i loved it. Yuk!

I am hopeless. My hairdresser has scalped me, no housework has been done despite lack of DS, I should on my way to Cambridge right now to meet friend and I have just looked in the fridge to see that I have 7 Muller Corners to eat before tomorrow . . . .

I dreading going back to work - I need a strict regime! all ideas gratefully received. Thank you very much.

Sandi .. your mum's right ... its just all the hair that didn't fall out whilst you were pregnant (that's why pregnant women look like they've got really good hair )

glad I'm not the only one not weaning yet .. it feels so strange

yes cat: ds still a bit weird with going down for napping! nights no prob at all; he just falls asleep - but just now, after only one hour (instead 2) he woke up and wouldnt go back to sleep. although i knew he was tired. so we played for 20 min and big eyerubbing!!! so back to bed and he is whinging now - if he whinges too long i have a look and put dummy back - mostly does the trick - glad you are feeling better

re weaning: i am all confused now? oats no/yes?? banana no/yes? well, i guess i keep doing my trial/error thing and find out what he likes/can handle - pfffff, had some weird looking poo after broccoli

patting spots back for expressing!! well done! - i never managed - took me hours for one oz

egypt: try diff. shaped dummy! ds wouldn't have the flat ones but he loves the round ones!

and yes: hair is falling out!!! considering to get it cut!! also because ds has just discovered that you can pull it

allright libb: plan for today: leave list for dh what to do around house! go now (!) and visit friends; don't forget to take 7 muellers and have them as a present for them - oh and put hat on

ds still not asleep - just had a major scream and i held myself back of having a look! seems to settling down now; he's gone quiet!!

dont start on about haircuts. havent had mine done since dd was born either. or maybe 2 months b4 she was born! dont q know how to negotiate that one either - take her with me? wait until mum comes to stay? i know, i'm going to stay with her in a couple of weeks so will have it done then.

i must get round to packing for paris. cant be bothered though. done all dd's things. squashed in her m&p bag. i must travel light. forgot the muslims necessities though, they'll have to go in my bag. now wishing i had indulged and bought a maclaren quest or techno xt. the pushchair mil gave us is officially crap. can't even get it to fold. it is covered in dust again after being washed (in the garage) and despite me asking mil twice, she hasnt got the raincover or cosey toes to go with it, from her neighbour. so dd is going to have to be cold, or sweaty betty in her vest, tshirt, cardigan, snowsuit and a blanket! dunno what paris is like. like here i guess. i dont even have a trendy coat. i feel like such a frump its unbelievable. there'll be all these trendy parisians with their maclaren's zipping around and me with a purple and pink checked mothercare buggy from 10 years ago.

you are good leaving him to whinge susi. i always give in. ooo dear.

i have tried the nuki dummies with the bent bit, the teensy newborn ones and the big cherry teat tommee tippee ones to no avail. she used to love sucking my little finger but not anymore. nothing but her thumb will do, but unless she is about to drop off she doesnt find it.

Here's what i got from my pamper's subscription re: sleep for those of you still suffering!

"Some parents have babies that sleep through the night within the first 3 months, others are still struggling at the end of the first year or beyond. So when should your baby be able to sleep through the night?

The baby's sleep structure, that is how sleep is regulated in the brain, is similar to that of the adult by about 6 months of age. Potentially, babies can be taught to sleep through the night from 6 months onwards. It is unrealistic to expect sleeping through the night before six months.

The average 4-month-old baby sleeps about 9 to 11 hours each night and takes about two one- to three-hour naps each day. This is a time of gradual transition towards two regular daily naps. On days when your baby has just two naps, he'll probably sleep more or less through the night.

Your baby is now capable of doing a lot more to settle himself to sleep. It's time to establish a pattern of putting him to sleep that will work for him during the night and at naps. Routine is very important to your 4-month-old, so try to make sure things like naps and bedtime happen at more or less the same time and in the same way every day. You don't have to be rigid, just as consistent as possible. "

oh, so me swinging her in her carseat and taking her for walks in the pram somedays, car other days is a bad idea. blimey. and whats the bit about them sleeping through the night when they graduate to having 2 naps a day? she has always had to naps a day!!!!

chuffed from april babies found this:

sleep

definitely scroll down to bottom and take a look at 'sleeping through the night' and 'comfort feeding'.

oh my what a lot of messages.

Not a good night in the kbaby household. I'm beginning to cave in on the waiting to wean ting. Last night I fed 6.00,9.00,11.30,1.30,3.15,5.20,7.15. Thats every 2 hrs!!!!!!!!!!! Tonight im going to bf and give formula, just to see if that will stop her being so hungry. Weve got some cow and gate in the cupboard for emergencies and I think this might class as a emergency. MIL sugessted a rusk in the bottle again. Does that women ever give in.

Nice to see you back AMFS. [SMILE]

DD difficult again last night at bedtime. She slept on dps lap but then woke when we put her in the cot. After about 3 times going upstairs to give dummy etc we just left her. She didnt cry and after about 1hr fell asleep.

Im going to try and follow the gina book as I dont have a clue about weaning. Because it starts at 4 months though im following it from the start but missing bits out e.g follow 4-5 months all the way through but then only half of the 5-6 months and then ill move on to the 6-9 months.

Okay, I am admittedly quite glad that there are other babies who don't settle for anything less than b/feed at night... but it's a bastard isn't it?

and consistency during the day? that means don't go out, as far as i'm concerned! not on your nelly, I'll take sanity please!

Someone tell me I'm doing the right thing again delaying weaning

Ds2 consistently waking up again at 4am after sleeping through for ages. Yes, I know I don't have much to complain about in comparison, but I've managed to convince myself I'm starving him

Problem is, I think I'm going to feel I've let him down either way.

we had 2 or 3 nights of sleeping through .. but normally she's awake at 12.30 then again around 4 or 5 when she comes in the bed with us and sleeps till 8.30

and we have (well I have) nights where she's up every 2 - 3 hours

I'm still not going to wean until that magical 26 week stage .. if there's anything I can do to stop her developing asthma later in life, I will do it .. and a couple more weeks (well 5) of doing this won't kill me

so, yes Georgina I think you're doing the right thing

K baby, I'm doing the gf weaning, as i also have no idea about it! so far it's been good DD not keen on pear tho, so i've switched to banana.

Libb-Susi's advice is probably the best, especialy about the muller corners as a present for your freind! lol

Susi-dd is exactly the same- she won't sleep more than 40 minutes in the afternoon when she's supposed to be asleep for 2 hours, but gets really tired! At night, she's out like a light by 7.00pm. So weird.

My hair is also falling out in clumps! but hard to tell weather it's becuase dd has taken to practising tug of war with it, or becuase it just is!

xxx

Thank you amfs. Now if I can just keep reminding myself of that at 4am!

Incidentally, it doesn't help when the HV keeps saying that weaning should be "baby led" and "you shouldn't get too hung up on a particular date". When I mentioned allergies she just said "oh, make sure you don't give him anything he's likely to react to for a while" . Doesn't really fill you with confidence on your decisions.

When did you start listening to HVs?

I don't normally ... must have a weakened resistance to them at the moment or something

georginA I know exactly how you feel, about thinking they're starving in the night if they wake. I too feel awful, but now i know ds just wants cuddles. I try and make sure he has most of his milk intake in the day, though he's never a great amount 28 max and now that he's on solids his intake is between 23-27oz.

my FIL and MIL think i put ds down too early (between 7-7.30) and that's the reason for waking in the night. But he only naps for 1 hour morning, afternoon and then 30min at 4pm. they want me to put him down after 8pm. Am i going to? No chance! I need my time and space too and that's only when i've put ds down for the night at 7.

thinking of getting a radical hair cut. My hair hasn't been this long since i was at primary school, and i want to go short and choppy layered.

Was directed here by libb - I'm trying to get hold of SusiS, so if any if you "chat" to her, can you please direct her to the E Berks thread in Meet-ups as we've arranged one and she said she'd like to come.

Thank you - btw your babies sound scrumptious!

Georgina you are doing the right thing. I to would like to wait until I wean DD. Mostly because whenever my MIL mentioned weaning her ive given her a huge lecture on the recommendations to wait until 6 months. I feel a bit of a fraud giving in now. Im going to try and hang on as long as I can. Im hoping the formula or ebm may work tonight. I only have 2 more weeks until I strat at work anyway and that was when I was going to start so ill try and wait until then. DD will be 21 weeks then. Although if we have another restless night I may change my mind.
I know DD is waking due to hunger as normally if she does wake I give her the dummy and she falls back asleep but that didnt work last night only a feed would do.

is anyone else going back to work in a couple of weeks? How do you think you'll feel? I remember with ds1 it was just awful and as soon as i got into work at 9am i wanted to go back home. ds2 will be going to nursery 2 days and 3 days with MIL.

I know HV are now recommending to wean from 6 months, i personally think it should be led by your baby. Of course if there are allergies in the family then wait, but i've been having so much fun and ds pciked up on solids very quickly. i think it was because he's never been keen on milk. Takes him an hour to feed 5-7 oz.

Sandi, that sounds very much how dd feed on milk. Did your ds pick up eating from a spoon quickly then? how did you temp him?

Georgina-not it certainly isn't confidence building. But i think you are doing the right thing, i would have liked to wait with dd, but she wasn't taking very much milk, so we tried baby rice first, and suddenly, she started eating the milk!

xx

Okay, DS clearly has a particular palate - he guzzled his expressed milk today so it is express city for me for the next 4 days until I go back to weurk! 4 days . . . . oh pants on a laundry line, and my hair is just as horrible!

anyone for a Muller corner?