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right you inept sods ONE MORE potty trainign camp

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FluffyMummy123 · 05/07/2007 10:11

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GreatGooglyMoogly · 26/07/2007 22:02

By the way, how do you go about cleaning up accidents?!

Aefondkiss · 26/07/2007 22:13

good luck googly, it does get easier, though my ds (3.2) seems to have hit a plateau... we were away all day today, after training for 18 days and ds was on my lap at one point watching cbeebies and he started to do a pee... I was horrified, I just feel deflated by it all today, two poos in pants and I am just fed up... I wonder how inept I am and how long can this all take?

t is mt dd's birthday party at the weekend and next week we are going away for a fortnight - I just feel....

GreatGooglyMoogly · 26/07/2007 22:38

Thanks Aefondkiss - I hope so! DS1 woke up from his nap crying as he had done a wee down the side of his bed. He said he didn't know he was going to wee and I believe him. Would he be better in nappies for naps for now?

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Aefondkiss · 26/07/2007 23:17

I would get a bag of the pampers things... like little pads, they are disposable... mentioned on this thread somewhere? (I put ds in pull ups at night)

my ds doesn't nap and is dry at night (s'pose this is a good sign but I am feeling a bit fed up atm, even shock horror thinking of resigning from this thread! I am so despondent about the whole toilet training thing)

sorry for being gloomy, not trying o put you off just think I am not having much success, I know the first few days are hard... most children click with going quicker than my ds...

Wheelybug · 27/07/2007 09:32

sorry to hear you're feeling down about it all Aefondkiss - I can't say I'm feeling too chipper...

Update from day 3 at WEElybug Towers (ha ha) - we went out all morning, out for 3 hours and dd asked for the toilet in B&Q (x2), a petrol station and the supermarket but produced nothing. We got home and she weed all over the floor. We then went out to a friend in the afternoon and she was running around with 5 of her contemporaries and she did sort of try twice at the beginning but then wouldn't again and wet herself twice but to be expected I guess with friends.

So, no hits on target yesterday. Its so frustrating - she knows when she needs to go (much clutching and getting distressed) and tells me if she has gone, says 'nappies are yeeuch' (too much little princess) but at home won't go on the toilet or potty and doesn't manage to produce anything when out.

I guess I just continue until it twigs ??????

AbbyLou · 27/07/2007 10:02

Well it's day 4 here. We've had one wee accident already and no poo anywhere yet. Yesterday we braved it out for a 10 minute walk to the shop and back and he was fine. Both nap times he has been dry too. I keep him in pants but put a Pampers care mat under him just in case. This afternoon is going to be the first real test. I am meeting 3 NCT friends at the park with all our lo's for lunch in the cafe and then a run around the park. It will be the longest and furthest we have been. We have to drive there first so I'm going for a plastic bag and then a towel on the car seat with spares. I will be taking LOADS of spare clothes though as he's not asking to go at all yet. I'm not really bothered about him weeing as that is not so major it's the poos I'm worried about. He hasn't done one on target yet. He has never done a solid poo in his life so cleaning him up afterwards is a total nightmare, especially if it's in a grotty public toilet! I'm going to have to take the potty with me, even though I used to balk with horror at people who did such a thing! My goodness, how times have changed! Will there ever be a day when I don't think about wee and poo all day.....

MrsJohnCusack · 27/07/2007 10:04

conspicuous by absence aren't I....DD inadvertently did a poo in the bath a few days ago and has now developed a phobia of the bath and indeed having a nappy off at all

So until this phase of mega tantrums passes, there is no chance of retrying potty training. I have obviously totally traumatised here . Am completely fecked off with the whole thing and my failure

well done to the rest of you

fishie · 27/07/2007 10:14

well i think we have cracked it, only one accident this week and that was on waking from nap so fair enough. ds now happy to use pot or loo, can hold it in if neccessary and has even been known to wear trousers in the house. i am amazed, never really expected this!

still trying to get smell of wee out of sofa and he is hopelessly addicted to sweeties though.

FlossALump · 27/07/2007 10:16

Yesterday, all morning DS taking himself off to potty as and when he needed to go, missed slightly with one poo. Had a nap, stayed dry. Screamed the house down at being put on potty when he got up. wet the floor three times in three hours.

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 10:48

well at least cod got the thread title right?

I am seriously wavering with the prospect of long car journeys and lots of visiting friends and family, driving hundreds of miles to Ireland... not sure my sanity can take it

mazzystar · 27/07/2007 11:00

well i am proud to announce that ds has been awarded his duplo fire engine for Achievements in Potty Usage. we are averaging one wee accident per day if at nursery, but none usually at home, still having to suggest he goes but occasionally asking. is now doing standing up wees at the loo or - to great delight - in the bushes, and can even get him to sit on the big loo.

afk, don't despair, i bet if ds was all snuggly and comfy on your lap and watching cbeebies he was a tired and weary little chap

mrsjc, you so haven't traumatised her, my ds was furious about the whole thing at first, and maybe its best to wait until she's completely over poorliness?

floss, wheely and googly, stick at it, the penny will drop, it gets better, honest.

mazzystar · 27/07/2007 11:05

i'd be tempted to use a pullup for long journeys/visiting so everyone can relax a bit but still take him to the loo anyway. we got some with cars on the front and call them ds's "travelling pants". he hasn't wet a pair yet, but at least didn't even have to contemplatethe vile possiblity that dd would get peed upon in the phil and ted's.

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 11:49

congrats to your ds, really sounds like he has mastered the toilet thing, mazzy!

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 11:51

wheellybug - it is great your dd is asking to go! your dd is trying!

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 11:59

a lot of my ds reluctance is partly stubbornness but he also has a language delay, we are waiting to see paed... so I suppose we should be happy he will go to the loo... I was reading last night that children with developmental delays can take at least three months to get there... so I should maybe start my own reluctant toilet training thread, because I could be here a long time...

I am now considering buying a throne style toilet chair and some other incentives? Oh I so fit the inept description

mazzystar · 27/07/2007 12:06

afk in that case you are both doing brilliantly.

i suppose what i was meaning to say before is that i still would put it past my ds to have himself a sneaky little wee if dozy and comfy and distracted.

re incentives - the thing that got him to sit happily on the loo was the lastest lego catalogue - he hasn't twigged yet that these are things that can be bought but loves the pictures. i know if he needs a poo because he asks for "my catalogue"! are you doing stickers too?

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 13:17

I love the sound of the lego mag being asked for! that is fab, no stickers yet... was reading last night about letting them stick them on the loo/potty... not sure, but anything is worth a try, we haven't tried stickers or charts yet... he never looks for a sweet if he goes, so I am wondering if it will be the same?

MrsCoops · 27/07/2007 15:34

Ds (3.1) announced yesterday that he is going to wear nappies for the rest of his life!
He has just moved up a room at nursery which I thought was going to help but doesn't seem to have made any difference as yet.

jambomum · 27/07/2007 15:54

Please help me !!!.
We started training DS (2.3)last weekend, so now on day 7. He seemed really ready.
Lots of accidents and prompting from us last weekend on days 1 and 2.
DS is full time at nursery.
He has developed very runny poo at nursery this week and they have put him back in pull ups !! (not very amused with them).
He's not ill. I think it might be nerves. Is becoming increasingly stubborn not to go on potty or toilet (despite sticker chart)
Anyone else had a child who has developed upset tummy with this?
Shall I persevere over the weekend, or just give up and go back to nappies?

GreatGooglyMoogly · 27/07/2007 16:24

Well we might be getting somewhere! Just before dinner last night DS1 told me he was weeing so I put the potty down for him and he did a wee in it! DH got home at that moment so there was much praise and a smartie. DS1 grinned all through dinner. This morning he has again done a wee in the potty!

For naps I do have two washable waterproof covers for his bed (one is in the wash from yesterday) but I wasn't sure whether it is too much to ask for him to be dry at naptime - isn't it the same as nighttime?

Biglips · 27/07/2007 20:10

no problems on day two so far.

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 20:54

Googly - I think i would put a pull up on for naps, he could get a smartie if they are dry when he wakes up?

Jambo - any holidays planned? time off on your part might be the way to get your ds off to a good start, it takes real determination and vigilence and huuuge amounts of encouragement to start with, the nursery just might not have the energy?

missgiggles · 27/07/2007 20:57

hi anyone know of something that works VERY WELL for getting the smell of wee out of the carpit? PLEASE!!!

Aefondkiss · 27/07/2007 20:59

sprinkle bicarb on the spot, let it dry then hoover it up, the bicarb should soak uop the smell... if that doesn't work... try dried lavender in bicarb leave it over night, then hoover it up....

missgiggles · 28/07/2007 12:40

Thanks aefondkiss the situation was getting desprit