What do i do about this drawing from 7yo son?

[Kitkatkittykins]

NC for this

My son has only just turned 7.
I was tidying up earlier and noticed a picture he'd drawn in his book.

He is at his grandparents at the moment which gives me time to think about what to say or do.

I have no idea where he's got this from. But I'm also worried that he's drawn it infront of his 5yo sister as she's usually with him colouring at the table. Or worse, tried to do it.

What do i say to him? Is this type of behaviour normal at his age?

He isn't a rude child.. never did the show off boy part that i know a lot of boys that age do. He is aware of the PANTs talk, they did it at school last year and I've been over it a few times since.

We're careful with what he watches. He isn't allowed on youtube, but does like to watch Stampy Minecraft videos.
He's never walked in us either so I'm racking my brains trying to figure out where he's got it from.

The handwriting in the spelling book and on the picture is not the same child.

The children in my class (nearly always) use the school cursive style in their school exercise books. When they bring in writing that they've done at home it often bears absolutely no resemblance to the handwriting that I'm used to seeing from them.

I've just looked at it again and it seems that the ?! are indeed different to the writing. The dots are perfectly aligned where in the beginning the writing is slanty.

I don't know what to think of this.
I have a 7yr old too, a dd.
I wouldn't rest until I got to the bottom of this ( no pun intended ) as it's quite disturbing.

Also the word "kissing" is on an even line except the bottom of the first S which slightly dips past the rest but its still controlled. There's something up with this.

@Maddiii56 kind of colossal missing of the point there...

I'm glad Maddiii is finding this funny, the OPs child could have been exposed to some pretty messed up videos / information, or perhaps even sexual abuse... but keep laughing Maddiii because being internet famous as a result is just oh so funny.

Have you asked his dad if he has seen something when looking at his phone?

He is fully aware of how inappropriate it is and that he's not supposed to draw things like that.. hence his reaction. He apologised for drawing it.

in regards to the ?! he most definitely did write it. He loves punctuation so I'm thinking he added them randomly.

He said "i wish i hadn't written that"
I asked what he wishes he had written
He said "nothing" and the picture is of a boy crawling under her legs (like a bridge)

I have to be careful how i word things anyway because he's a sensitive soul. But he's a total Mummy's boy so i will send DH downstairs with DD and the baby so we can have a cuddle in bed where I'll talk to him again.

Nah

But how does he know what it is to know it's inappropriate? That's what's important. I would be alarmed he knew what it was and more so that he knew it was inappropriate. If it was accidental silliness he would readily give an explanation be baffled by the thought of it being inappropriate. He knows too much and you need to find out who from/how.

He doesn't use either mine or DH phone so he hasn't been exposed to anything through us.

No tablets here.

Ignore Maddiii56, they are making many ridiculous posts this evening.

I'm not sure how he knows it's inappropriate, i guess from when we've said things in the past? PANTs talk maybe.

Has it occured to any of you doubting the writing, that he could have used a ruler? Me and DH are hardly going to write ?! so that leaves him or DD. Since DD is younger, why would she.

I would be alarmed he knew what it was and more so that he knew it was inappropriate.

This is what has me worried as well, if he'd copied a picture he stumbled across he wouldn't know it was wrong. It's the extreme reaction he had when you casually asked him, and him knowing it's not appropriate that are serious red flags.

I don't doubt the writing but maybe some people are desperately hoping this is some sort of unfunny prank.
But he seems to know what it is and that, together with his lack of explanation and unwillingness to talk about it (he's 7, not 13) is really alarming. I would be talking to the school and nspcc or similar for advice pronto.

I wish it was a prank. Unfortunately it's not. I'm really hoping there's a reasonable explanation for the drawing but i don't see what it could be.

He could know it was wrong because of the pants talk actually.. the whole privates are private thing.

That wouldn't explain such an extreme reaction to his mum asking him about it, and him not wanting to explain it. It's just... off. Him even knowing about it, and you can't explain how. Not at 7. Big red flags. I'm sorry OP.
And if it does come out that there's a less alarming explanation then he needs to have the pants talked done again but where he knows you are the one person he can actually talk about things like that. Being evasive to you about such a topic, at 7, means he's rather missed the point of the talk.

Have you told him that whatever he tells you, he won't get into trouble.
Also, have you had, in the past, the conversation about which secrets can be kept, (e.g. birthday surprise), and which definitely can't/ shouldn't be kept (anything that means you feel uncomfortable). Now would be a good time to remind him of that conversation, (or have it). If he's seen/done something and been sworn to secrecy, he must feel that it's ok and safe to tell you.
I might be tempted to ask him what made him think about kissing a front bum... It's such an age inappropriate thing to think of.

Make sure he knows he is not in trouble and you aren’t cross with him. My worry is that someone has shown him things and told him not to say.

As an aside ?! is not an interrobang. ‽ is.

I’m sorry if I’ve misread your responses and reactions but I think you are massively down playing this. You boy could have been sexually abused or made to carry out this sexual act. You don’t seem to ge even considering this?

but I think you are massively down playing this.

I have to say i'm beginning to agree with this, it's 10pm, over 5 hours since you posted and you're still thinking there's likely to be a reasonable explanation.

It went like this..
Me: can you explain this picture
He threw himself into a ball, crying.
I was already on the floor with him, so i gave him a cuddle and said i wasn't mad, i just needed to know.
He has said he doesn't know why he drew it, and he hasn't heard or seen it anywhere.

He asked me not to show anyone,

From this post alone I would have been looking for external support, NSPCC or similar. So many red flags, and the very real possibility of sexual abuse:

• His extreme and over the top reaction to a simple question
• Pretending he hasn't seen or heard it. (Which is clearly incorrect as 7 year olds don't just think this stuff up)
• Him asking you not to show anyone

I'd be really concerned with this. Not sure on advice though, sorry.