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What do i do about this drawing from 7yo son?

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 16:50

NC for this

My son has only just turned 7.
I was tidying up earlier and noticed a picture he'd drawn in his book.

He is at his grandparents at the moment which gives me time to think about what to say or do.

I have no idea where he's got this from. But I'm also worried that he's drawn it infront of his 5yo sister as she's usually with him colouring at the table. Or worse, tried to do it.

What do i say to him? Is this type of behaviour normal at his age?

He isn't a rude child.. never did the show off boy part that i know a lot of boys that age do. He is aware of the PANTs talk, they did it at school last year and I've been over it a few times since.

We're careful with what he watches. He isn't allowed on youtube, but does like to watch Stampy Minecraft videos.
He's never walked in us either so I'm racking my brains trying to figure out where he's got it from.

What do i do about this drawing from 7yo son?
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ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/02/2019 18:21

Agree TSS. Also it looks like the woman either has blonde hair or is wearing a veil. This is something he has seen.

LuckyLou7 · 08/02/2019 18:25

I would assume that he copied the picture. Some magazines have very graphic articles about sexual positions - could he have inadvertently been exposed to something like this? It is very concerning.

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 18:26

Called him through into the kitchen away from DD and he's getting fed up with me asking him stuff now.

He said it's a woman standing up, and a man on the floor. Still adamant nothing is going on.

He's a very cuddly boy so i have been giving lots.

He knows how a baby is born - thanks to Nativity. But he's never asked any other questions.

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deadsexy · 08/02/2019 18:30

My 7yo was searching was inappropriate stuff on YouTube, her reaction was exactly the same. I spoke to school nothing going on there

deadsexy · 08/02/2019 18:33

I ended up getting quite stern when my daughter opened up, said that if she didn't explain it to me then she wouldn't be allowed on iPad or computer.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 08/02/2019 18:33

Still adamant nothing is going on.

That's clearly not true or he wouldn't have reacted in the way he did when you asked him about the drawing initially. He obviously knows its something inappropriate or 'naughty' or he wouldn't have cried, curled up in a ball and asked you not to show anyone. Hmm

cfmagnet · 08/02/2019 18:38

CaptainKirk
And because of your assumption you expect no one to make sure it actually is, and to avoid any questions which indicate the possibility it's not?
Is this correct?
I didn't make an assumption. OP clearly stated it was drawn/written by her DS. I don't understand why anyone would think the OP wouldn't recognise her own sons handwriting or why they would continue to question it even after OP had confirmed that it was recognisable to her as her DS's.

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 08/02/2019 18:42

I don't understand why anyone would think the OP wouldn't recognise her own sons handwriting

Because in a panic if you see something in your child's book you assume they've put it there, that isn't always the case though is it?
The idea it might not be his drawing, or that an older child labled his drawing to be funny not have occurred.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/02/2019 18:43

Still adamant nothing is going on.

Confused what does that even mean? How does he even know what you suspect to be able to tell you that “nothing” is going on. He is 7! OP have you asked him why he drew it, where he saw it/heard about it/who is in the picture etc?

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 08/02/2019 18:43

We now know it's his, so this little argument we are having is derailing and pointless to the thread.

BifsWif · 08/02/2019 18:45

I think you need to call NSPCC for advice.

If you keep questioning him there’s a chance you’ll do more harm than good. They’ll be able to guide you so you ask the right questions and can take it from there.

It is a red flag for sexual abuse or it could be something he’s overheard from older children at school, but don’t let it lie until you’re satisfied that he’s safe.

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 08/02/2019 18:45

Can you arrange to see his teacher urgently and discuss it?
They may provide a class talk about bodies and the pants rule.

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 18:46

I will speak to him again tomorrow, see if he'll open up any more than today.

Also going to speak to my mum about younger sisters. 12yo I'm not concerned at all, she is usually holed up in her room on the ps4.
But i also don't want to be accusing 9yo, as i know my mum would get defensive (understandable).

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CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 08/02/2019 18:47

It might be better to leave thing now until you've phoned the NSPCC or informed his teacher.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 08/02/2019 18:48

Why would you be accusing her? What of? Surely you would be letting your mum know that DS drew this and it’s possible he and your sister have seen something inappropriate. As in letting her know she might need chat with her DD and to keep an eye on her internet use.

GenericHamster · 08/02/2019 18:53

I'd tell his teacher as it may come from someone at school with an elder sibling or who has otherwise inappropriately been introduced to the term. Especially if you're reasonably confident he could not have heard it at home.

whatsleep · 08/02/2019 18:55

Speak to safeguard lead at school, they are there to help and will be able to support you in what happens next. Please don’t leave it here, it is beyond unusual for a child of this age to be able to draw such an explicit image without seeing it or asked to do it (rather than being told about it).

LovingLola · 08/02/2019 18:55

Is your 12 year sister gaming online on her PS4?

Bryjam · 08/02/2019 19:00

Also going to speak to my mum about younger sisters.

You should, but not in a 'who did it' way, you need to warn your mum that your DS is at risk and your sisters may also be.

12yo I'm not concerned at all, she is usually holed up in her room on the ps4.

On or offline?

But i also don't want to be accusing 9yo

Why would you be accusing? It's important to get to the source and if it came from the 9yo she is clearly not the source and further investigation would be required.

, as i know my mum would get defensive (understandable).

Why would she be defensive rather than concerned for her grandson?

LovingLola · 08/02/2019 19:04

Why would she be defensive rather than concerned for her grandson?

Not forgetting her own young daughters ...

CallMeRachel · 08/02/2019 20:25

Can you not ask him who the lady is in the picture and who's the man?

The way he's drawn it is more like a male looking up a females skirt.

Haha a couple of teddy's/dolls with you when you talk to him so he can role play with them if need be. Hopefully there's an innocent explanation but it's such a red flag.

The concerning thing to me would be what's happened to the female who calls her privates a front bum and does he know about it??

You need to stay calm and have the big no secrets talk and reassure that no matter if anyone tells him something bad will happen if he tells it's not true etc etc.

CallMeRachel · 08/02/2019 20:26

Have a couple of teddy's not haha ffs bloody phone

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 08/02/2019 20:42

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IceRebel · 08/02/2019 21:00

I think you need to be working out where he has accessed this information from. He obviously knows he shouldn't be drawing and writing these things so who has told him it is not appropriate if he has supposedly never seen or heard it.

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This!! Seriously OP there's someone else who has allowed him to access this information. It's not normal playground chat, it's a very graphic and worrying picture with a detailed caption. Also his reaction is very typical of someone who has been told to keep the information a secret / not tell anyone. If he has just stumbled across the picture and copied it, he wouldn't know that it was wrong and have such an extreme reaction.

Whisky2014 · 08/02/2019 21:10

Nomdejeur

He used a ?!

Quite.

Zoom in on the punctuation. It's clearly written by someone else.

And if he has drawn this and said that he doesnt want you to give him in to trouble then he clearly knows it's wrong...

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