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What do i do about this drawing from 7yo son?

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 16:50

NC for this

My son has only just turned 7.
I was tidying up earlier and noticed a picture he'd drawn in his book.

He is at his grandparents at the moment which gives me time to think about what to say or do.

I have no idea where he's got this from. But I'm also worried that he's drawn it infront of his 5yo sister as she's usually with him colouring at the table. Or worse, tried to do it.

What do i say to him? Is this type of behaviour normal at his age?

He isn't a rude child.. never did the show off boy part that i know a lot of boys that age do. He is aware of the PANTs talk, they did it at school last year and I've been over it a few times since.

We're careful with what he watches. He isn't allowed on youtube, but does like to watch Stampy Minecraft videos.
He's never walked in us either so I'm racking my brains trying to figure out where he's got it from.

What do i do about this drawing from 7yo son?

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anitagreen · 08/02/2019 17:14

Does he go to any older children's houses etc where this could of been drawn? Or copied I don't know I'm clutching at straws even if he had seen this act he wouldn't know to put the punctuation there

Bryjam · 08/02/2019 17:14

The handwriting in the spelling book and on the picture is not the same child.

Very obviously not.

OP why do you think your 7yo did this?

IfNotNowThenWhy · 08/02/2019 17:15

I didn't know it's called an interrobang but my son at 7 would definitely have used that. He loved his punctuation (and he's not academically exceptional)
OP I think you need to talk to him. Ask questions...and listen, don't feed him answers.

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llangennith · 08/02/2019 17:16

This could very easily have been drawn and written by a 7 yo. Stick to the point of the thread.
I think you need to think out your questions very carefully to find out why he drew it and what it means in his opinion. Reassure him you won't be telling him off, you're just curious as it's an unusual picture.

KindnessCrusader · 08/02/2019 17:16

I think it's probably best not to indulge this. Mumsnet guidelines are really clear about how to deal with these posts.

IfNotNowThenWhy · 08/02/2019 17:16

X post-I also have drawings of people using perspective from that age. It depends on the kid. I'm just saying, for balance.

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 17:17

He is back now.

It went like this..
Me: can you explain this picture
He threw himself into a ball, crying.
I was already on the floor with him, so i gave him a cuddle and said i wasn't mad, i just needed to know.
He has said he doesn't know why he drew it, and he hasn't heard or seen it anywhere.

He asked me not to show anyone, i told him that Daddy knew. He said his sister wasn't up the table when he drew it.

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Bryjam · 08/02/2019 17:17

This could very easily have been drawn and written by a 7 yo. Stick to the point of the thread.

Questioning WHO drew the picture IS sticking to the point of the thread. If the OPDS did not do it then someone else did and it's vital the OP realises the possibilities.

Bryjam · 08/02/2019 17:20

So what will you do now OP?

You seem to have more concern for your DD than your DS. His reaction could be a clue. You need to find out more.

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 17:21

He is in year 2 and has been doing cursive since reception, and now does joined up at school.
His writing at home is different to school because he doesn't have to do cursive.
I uploaded that just to show he has neat writing.

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LovingLola · 08/02/2019 17:21

I’d look into internet use in friends houses

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 08/02/2019 17:23

He threw himself into a ball, crying.

He has said he doesn't know why he drew it, and he hasn't heard or seen it anywhere.

This would worry me a great deal. Why if he supposedly hadn't seen or heard it would he draw it, imaginations at 7 are not developed in that way. I could maybe understand drawing the picture but to label it in that way is very odd.

Its also strange that he immediately reacted as though the drawing was a bad thing surely if he didn't know what it was then why would he react this way. The fact he wants to keep it a secret is also a huge red flag!

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 08/02/2019 17:24

He has two different styles of handwriting?

ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay · 08/02/2019 17:26

His reaction and defensiveness is certainly worrying. I would try talking to him again. Let him know that he isn't in trouble.

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 17:26

I am worried about DD, as she is very easily led and will do whatever he says.

I have younger sisters (9 & 12). The 9 year old does watch youtube all the time.. but when they're together DS is usually playing a racing game or subway surfers on her tablet!
I did ask if he'd heard/seen it from something related to at my mum's house, and he looked totally baffled as to why i would ask that.

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JoanneMumsnet · 08/02/2019 17:28

Hi, we've had a few reports about this thread (which we'd only expect when the subject matter is a sensitive one, like this).

We just want to confirm that the OP's a long-term member of the site and has indeed changed her username for this thread. So while we can never truly vouch for anyone, we're happy to let this thread run so the OP can hopefully get some advice.

Many thanks (and sorry for the interruption, OP).

Bryjam · 08/02/2019 17:30

I am worried about DD, as she is very easily led and will do whatever he says.

You should be worried about him first and foremost in this situation.

strawberryredhead · 08/02/2019 17:31

Hmm I’d be worried. Why did he get so upset?
When I was little (about four or five), I saw porn at my sister’s friend’s house. I came home and drew lots of interesting pictures. My parents saw them and found out what happened - I don’t think either of us went back to that girls house ever again!! But I wasn’t upset - troubled by what I’d seen but not upset by my pictures which were just me trying to innocently process it.
I guess you just need to keep trying to gently coax it out of him, telling him you’re not mad at him.

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gemmaxyz · 08/02/2019 17:32

He has two different styles of handwriting?

Most kids did at my primary school. Teachers got fed up that most of us didn't carry over what was taught in handwriting lessons to other work.

Mabelface · 08/02/2019 17:33

If say his reaction is pure embarrassment at you finding it. He'll have picked up little snippets of information here and there from friends, TV etc. I wouldn't automatically assume he's seen something he shouldn't. I'd chat to him again when things are calmer.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 08/02/2019 17:34

You should be worried about him first and foremost in this situation.

This ^^ Your son has drawn a very disturbing picture of which he has added a even more disturbing label and he claims to have never seen or heard of the things he has drawn. I think you need to be working out where he has accessed this information from. He obviously knows he shouldn't be drawing and writing these things so who has told him it is not appropriate if he has supposedly never seen or heard it.

I think your concern over your daughter is very misplaced.

Tinyteatime · 08/02/2019 17:35

I would assume an older child has shown him porn or some inappropriate images. Would this be possible?

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 17:38

Other handwriting from his book at home.. i thought it was fairly normal for different writing at home/school.

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Kitkatkittykins · 08/02/2019 17:41

He was embarrassed and upset. Hiding his face and he said he didn't want me to tell him off.

I made sure when talking to him that i was at his level and i repeatedly told him that I'm not mad.

He doesn't have the use of internet at home (no tablet here). He's only allowed on youtube under supervision.

The only older children he's around are my younger sisters.. but i can't see them saying anything. DS seemed confused why i would think it had anything to do with them.

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