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Told off by hotel owner for way I disposed of nappies. Was I in the wrong?

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Heidi3333 · 05/11/2018 23:18

Hi there.

This is my very first post so please be gentle!
I'm just looking for opinions as I'm feeling v annoyed about something and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable by feeling this way.
I'm on holiday in a UK hotel for a few days with my 2 year old daughter. We are still potty training so still have wet or dirty nappies at times.
Late last night - around midnight - she had a dirty nappy. When she's had wet nappies I put them in nappy bags and then put them in the bin in my room. However, I didn't want to do that with a soiled one as it would stink out the room. I decided to put the nappy (wrapped in a nappy bag) in a bin in a communal toilet 2 floors up from as it was the only one I could find.
I never thought anymore of it but this morning the hotel owner pulled me aside and clearly p!ssed off told me off for leaving the nappy where I'd put it. He said I'd stank that floor out and had left on lots of lights behind me. He said he knew it was me as he played back cctv to find out!! I asked where I should have put it and he said outside my room and someone would have collected it. I was raging but apologised and walked off.

The owner has been unfriendly and cold to me and my daughter since we arrived. He has made no effort to chat to me at all and hasn't spoken to my daughter at all. I got the impression right from the start tjT he didn't like me although he seems nice with the other guests.

I rarely leave negative feedback for hotel ratings but seriously contemplating doing just that when I leave tomorrow.

Am I being unreasonable?

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 22:34

Like some normal parent? Sorry but this is the first time I've heard of anyone scraping poo of their babies nappies!

I don't think it's unreasonable to want to remove a smelly nappy from the small room I was in. I don't think putting it in a bin in a communal toilet is a inconsiderate thing to do. It's what people do when they have to change their babies when out shopping or at cafes etc. People are in and out of toilets within minutes and expect smells. No one has to spend any length of time there! To me it just made sense.

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 22:36

Chemenger- yes you may have a point about some rooms sharing bathrooms. They were advertised on the website. That might explain his annoyance. He still should have nappy disposal bins in a supposed
Family friendly hotel though!

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myrtleWilson · 06/11/2018 23:02

So now we've established that it was a B&B rather than a hotel and that rather than a communal bathroom two floors up you quite probably left your bathroom/bedroom because the smell emanating from said nappy would "stink out the room" and searched out not a communal toilet in the sense that most of the thread understood it to be but probably a shared bathroom for rooms, so not a toilet that a guest could "pop in and out of" but likely to be a bathroom that would serve as shower/bathing facilities for at least two rooms....

I can't wait for his response to your review now!

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:14

Yeah true. But he still didn't need to be a twat about it. He still could ha e explained things to me in a more professional gentle manner. He made me feel like a criminal for making a mistake!

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:15

And I haven't posted my review yet as I havent been invited to.

The bathroom door was wide open. I didn't go in and scrutinise it. I just assumed it was communal and got rid of the nappy.

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SoupDragon · 06/11/2018 23:17

Still don't think I was being unreasonable

99% of other posters think otherwise.

JeanPagett · 06/11/2018 23:28

God, the fact that it wasn't actually a public loo at all but rather a private bathroom for the use of specific rooms makes this about a thousand times worse. How would you feel if some stranger had wandered in and left a shitty nappy in the en suite in your room? Because that's basically what you did.

No wonder the owner was being friendly to other guests at breakfast, he was probably apologising profusely for their awful experience.

I cannot believe you still don't feel at all bad about this.

Jungster · 06/11/2018 23:33

well i'm with you OP, it's not like you left it unwrapped in a corridor. I cannot believe that he reprimanded you, a paying guest and told you that he used cctv to solve the crime and that he knew it was you, like you were on trial. I'd ask for my money back.

Fabaunt · 06/11/2018 23:41

You’re gross. Why would anyone else want to smell your two year olds shitty arse when you couldn’t bear the smell yourself? It wasn’t a communal toilet, it was a shared bathroom.

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:42

Exactly Jungster! It was hardly crime of the flipping century. Don't think I'll make the front pages.
If it had be that was in his shoes I probably would have done nothing, or took the guest to one side and gently explained the nappy disposal policy for future reference.

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Fabaunt · 06/11/2018 23:42

Like do you understand how weird it would seem to go in and dump your child’s shit in someone else’s toilet and still want to leave a negative review? A total piece of work

Giantbanger · 06/11/2018 23:47

It was B and B and you traipsed the place to find someone else’s bin to put it in.

Wow.

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:47

I made a mistake!! I'm human.

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:49

I've only just realised that perhaps it was a shared bathroom. But leaving the door wide open was a bit misleading. Still think he over reacted.

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Worriedmummybekind · 06/11/2018 23:51

For what it’s worth i don’t think you were being unreasonable at all.

Worriedmummybekind · 06/11/2018 23:53

I also think the hotel owner sounds like a nutter.

Giantbanger · 06/11/2018 23:54

You are actually supposed to flush shit from a babies nappy. You aren’t supposed to just him it.

Giantbanger · 06/11/2018 23:54

*bin

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:54

Thank you worriedmummy. I'm glad someone sees my point of view. Feel under attack 😪

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:55

Giantbanger - really? Nobody has ever told me that. And I've been using nappies for years.

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Giantbanger · 06/11/2018 23:56

Read the back of the nappy packet.

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Heidi3333 · 06/11/2018 23:59

I always do and I've never came across that. Is it just in certain brands perhaps?

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Drogosnextwife · 07/11/2018 00:00

Perhaps one of the other guest will be leaving a bad review because of the shit smell filling the floor they were staying on. In cafes etc bins are changed through the day bit you put that in the bin at 12 at night, no one is emptying that for quite a while.

thegreatbeyond · 07/11/2018 00:07

What a drama over a nappy. Not the best thing to do, sure, but not worthy of all this fuss.

SputnikBear · 07/11/2018 00:17

You are actually supposed to flush shit from a babies nappy. You aren’t supposed to just him it.
I’ve never heard this before. Many baby changing rooms only have bins, no toilets?