OMG...Assaulted Somebody Today

[Momp]

Hello All,

Haven't posted for what seems like forever so I hope you are all ok.

Went to Cadbury World today with MIL, DD (4) and DS (18mths). DS started to get crabby.

We waited in a cramped and very full area to see a film, but we missed the first show as there was so many people waiting. During the next wait, DS started screaming. He was obviously tired and he NEVER sleeps in the pushchair.

Our turn came for the show so we went into the small cinema. DS was very upset so we asked one of the staff to show us how to get out. MIL would take him out while I stayed in the show with DD. Staff said go into the cinema and wait for her to come over.

This didn't happen. 5 mins into the show a middle aged chap (on his own with wife) came over to MIL, asked her to leave as we were spoiling the show for everybody. Lady next to MIL said don't you dare leave.

Man goes back to his seat. MIL goes over to him and asks if he has kids. Quite politely I must add.

I go over to him and explain that we asked someone to show us the way out but nobody helped.

I then called him a very rude man, grabbed his glasses and threw them at him! We spotted a fire exit, left the cinema and came straight home.

I am now awaiting a knock on the door from Mr Plod.

What would my fellow MN's do in the same situation?

momp even

you physically attacked him, how can that be 'control'?

Sorry, don't think that you did. You said that you were so angry that you can't remember what you did. That isn't a good idea. Anger managment may be OTT but so was your response.

The man was an idiot and rude but that doesn't excuse you responing in the way you did.

can totally understand the rage that you feel when someone does something that you feel is against your children but I really think that throwing his glasses at him was a bit mad.

I don't think being annoyed with someone gives you the right to assault them, tbh. He's obviously an arsehole, but how would you feel if he'd come over to you and assaulted you because you'd annoyed him? Do you think he would have been justified?

Have to say I would be SERIOUSLY p*ed off at you if you ripped my £200 pair of glasses off my face and threw them!!

And from reading your post, he wasn't "having a go" at your kids, - he was a prat for moaning but then he didn't deserve to have that sort of behaviour directed at him.

Many people piss me off when I'm out and about, but I just learn to walk away!

Yep anger management, everyone of us is challenged daily by stress and rude people, you never touch anyone, otherwise glasses would go flying at schools supermarkets parks...

Points all taken. We are all different and cope with these things in many different ways.

The bloke was an arsehole. I didn't attack him. I grabbed his glasses.

your lucky it didn't escalate, he could have been so wound up with you that he did something back, it is a viscous circle and it never works

the point still stands though momp - what if we all reacted in that way, world would be one big scrap.

I'm not sure how the assault was justified. Yes, he was annoying but didnt deserve this. YOu must have been right in his face literally to be able to pull his glasses off.
Iiwh I would def pursue it and report you to the police.
Is this really the example you want to set to your kids? What if we all reacted in this way everytime someone said something we didnt like to us?
You asked what we would have done, well, I would have either ignored him or said what you said and left it at that.
I am a little shocked that other people would have done more than you did. Is it really worth assualting someone for?

Absolutely agree krocket. If I didn't have any guilt feelings I wouldn't have posted though.

From my original post though, I asked what other MN's would do in these circumstances. I did not ask what I should have done.

I'm sorry that is an assault. Even you knew that when you wrote the thread title.

momp you say 'I didn't attack him' but title of this thread is 'assaulted someone today' - isn't that the same thing?

My glasses cost £300 :(

Your thread title says you did assault someone today.

To answer your question I'd have told him what I thought of him and walked away.

Momp, my sympathies entirely and despite what everyone says I am sure that CW have better things to do than go back through the CCTV for the day, get your car reg and check that through the police records (or DVLC or whoever) so as to find your address and issue a warning or something worse.
However, given that you obviously feel guilty now I would say try and be a bit more verbal and less physical in the future. Oh, that came our wrong but I hope you know what I mean.
Don't worry!

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Mine cost me £150 and that is with the cheepest frames I can buy.

snap hmb!! sorry Momp in answer to your question I would have walked away. I hate confrontation of any kind.

I understand your anger, but it also annoys me when you pay a huge price to go somewhere and a crying child screams during your visit. (And I do have an 18 month old boy myself, so I do sympathise with you). Why couldn't you have just walked out without waiting for the staff to show you out? Blame lacksadaisical Cadbury World staff!

I would have said sorry if my child is ruining the film, i am trying, and left

What would you have done momp had he hit you back?

if i were you i'd have told him what I thought of him and walked away

if i were him, then i'd pursue it. my glasses were nearly £500 (complicated prescription) and i can't manage withiout them

i know you didn't ask for that side of it but that's what you get on here, opinions from all sides.

That is a good point, IME it is the one who starts it who is blamed in court. A friend of mine served a prison sentence for a bar brawl because she couldn't prove the other woman hit first.