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OMG...Assaulted Somebody Today

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Momp · 27/08/2004 17:20

Hello All,

Haven't posted for what seems like forever so I hope you are all ok.

Went to Cadbury World today with MIL, DD (4) and DS (18mths). DS started to get crabby.

We waited in a cramped and very full area to see a film, but we missed the first show as there was so many people waiting. During the next wait, DS started screaming. He was obviously tired and he NEVER sleeps in the pushchair.

Our turn came for the show so we went into the small cinema. DS was very upset so we asked one of the staff to show us how to get out. MIL would take him out while I stayed in the show with DD. Staff said go into the cinema and wait for her to come over.

This didn't happen. 5 mins into the show a middle aged chap (on his own with wife) came over to MIL, asked her to leave as we were spoiling the show for everybody. Lady next to MIL said don't you dare leave.

Man goes back to his seat. MIL goes over to him and asks if he has kids. Quite politely I must add.

I go over to him and explain that we asked someone to show us the way out but nobody helped.

I then called him a very rude man, grabbed his glasses and threw them at him! We spotted a fire exit, left the cinema and came straight home.

I am now awaiting a knock on the door from Mr Plod.

What would my fellow MN's do in the same situation?

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Momp · 27/08/2004 18:36

No, never lost it like this before. Only made comments in the past when people have moaned about DD when she was making a noise in a restaurant.

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Branster · 27/08/2004 18:36

there is really not knowing for certain if he did or not complained about you. If he's anything like my FIL (a very decent man by the way, not the kind to complain about noisy kids) he would have complained to the security staff, the police, written an official letter to cadbury's World and local MP by now. So there are people like that. But i'm not saying all this to worry you.
whenever I've done something wrong (even with certainty of not being found out) I always contacted the people who mattered to appologise and sort out the problems I might have caused.

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Momp · 27/08/2004 18:39

Couldn't tell you KS. Don't think I was too far away from him so hoping not too hard.

I'm having visions of this guys lenses smashing and blinding him.

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libb · 27/08/2004 18:40

I doubt he reported you. I think you should just mark it up to experience . . . it could've been worse and it could've been better. You will know next time.

paularat · 27/08/2004 18:40

Did it feel satisfying?

Branster · 27/08/2004 18:40

Hi Beetroot! Nice to see you here.

It's not that difficult to find someone when you have a good description of them. And ther's so much CCTV around these day where it's very easy to recognize number plates etc. I just think it all depends if the police want to find Momp it's very easily done (obviously I have to many friends working as policeman ).

hmb · 27/08/2004 18:41

I honestly don't think that there will be any follow on from this. They would have stopped you leaving CW if he had reported it, IMHO

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Momp · 27/08/2004 18:41

Libb, I think the very honest opinions of my "fellow MN's" (if I can call you all that now) has helped me realise the error of my ways.

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Momp · 27/08/2004 18:42

Not satisfying ... f***g scared to death tbh

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Fairyfly · 27/08/2004 18:43

Errr i would get rid of the blinding him image, you will send yourself nutty, i'd watch it though in the future if he had a dicky heart, or panic attacks you
would be screwed, really screwed

libb · 27/08/2004 18:48

Momp, don't be so hard on yourself. Stuff happens and you will forget about this in time, he will too. We've all done stuff we would rather not think about. Take care.

sunchowder · 27/08/2004 18:48

Can't help myself here. Momp, I never let my children cry anywhere, let alone in a theater. I also would never have approached him if I was feeling that level of rage. It clearly was an overreaction. It would be so good if you could get to the bottom of what really upset you, so that you could learn from it and get healthy around this pattern you may have about getting enraged when you feel "attacked" (or someone is attacking your childre). Whenever I myself have an overreaction to a situation, it is my first indicator that I am not upset about what just happened, but I am very much upset with something that has happened to me the past. This is usually a pattern put in place when I was much younger and could not control or cope with a situation.

I can really hear that you feel like crap about it Momp and I don't want to make it worse, but it would be really good if something positive could come out of it in the end. When you are much calmer, you can speak to your kids about your reaction and how you might want them to react if something like that ever happens to them. (I would not do this in front of your Mom).

All the best and hopefully you will feel better soon and have more compassion for all the other arses that are out there. Clearly the man just wanted to hear the show and he was awkward in his communication to youhe was not attacking youjust wanted to stop the noise. It is so difficult to have any perspective at all once the anger kicks in. He is clearly an uptight person that is not able to "go with the flow" so to speak, and he has to live with being annoyed all the time. He is living in his own hell. For you....try to get to the bottom of it if you can so that you can feel better and react differently if this happens again.

CD and KS you slay me as usual.

Lonelymum · 27/08/2004 18:57

I wouldn't go to the police. I would be very surprised if he had said anything to anyone, but if you want to ease your conscience, you could contact CW and ask if a complaint had been made and see if it is possible to get the man's number and contact him directly. For all you know, he may feel a prat himself. Your outburst may have made him realised how pressurised you were feeling and put his annoyance into perspective.

notthecod · 27/08/2004 18:58

you slay me
lol
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twitcher · 27/08/2004 19:11

Hmm, you might ease your conscience but you might end up with a bill for his (possibly broken) glasses if you give him your address!

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Momp · 27/08/2004 19:22

I really need to do something or I'll go mad! Although I am sure you all think that I am already.

Sunchowder, thank you for your comments. I really appreciate it.

To all MN's who have replied - thanks for your comments too.

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sunchowder · 27/08/2004 19:24

You are welcome Momp and thanks for the acknowledgement. Just want you to feel better.

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Momp · 27/08/2004 19:26

Sunchowder - my father was a very very very violent person!

You wont be suprised to hear that I haven't seen him for about 20 yrs.

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Chandra · 27/08/2004 19:31

A terrible day I guess, but also a learning experience, the man would think twice before complaining about crying children, and you have learned that explodig doen't make you feel better. So I guess this won't happen again, am I right?

The only reason that I would try to trace this man would be that I would feel better if I apologise and could relax in the knowledge that there has been a closure and the police won't be knocking at my door.

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Momp · 27/08/2004 19:33

You're right!

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edam · 27/08/2004 21:02

Momp, I know you are already feeling bad about this, but I don't think you quite understand what an impact losing your glasses is for someone without perfect vision. If someone snatched my glasses off my face and threw them away I'd be terrified. I'd be afraid they were going to hit me, for a start ? it's a very aggressive thing to do.
And then I'd be very, very vulnerable, not being able to see. I assume this room was darkened, right? So he wouldn't be able to find his glasses. Even if they survived, someone may have stepped on them. I literally wouldn't be able to find my way home without my glasses, I'd have to hang onto dh's arm (if he was there). And they may have been his only pair ? as other people have said, glasses are very, very expensive especially if you have strong lenses. It could take a week to get a new pair. I do have an old pair, but it would take some time to find them (and I'd have to get dh to help) and then spend a few days wearing glasses that don't actually correct my vision properly any more (and would make me feel like sh*t because they are very unfashionable now). It would make just getting out of the house very difficult, let alone working. Snatching someone's glasses is not a trivial act, it will cause major disruption and leave them disabled until they can get a new pair. It's just as bad as throwing someone's hearing aid away.

You obviously have 20/20 vision ? be very grateful.

Slinky · 27/08/2004 21:17

Exactly Edam - I'm virtually blind without mine and to be in a darkened room and then lose them, I would have no chance of finding them.

Told DH (also a glasses wearer!) about this post when he got in from work - won't post what he said!!!

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