Don't want to breastfeed.....

[Zaplolly]

Hi everyone!
I'm 25 weeks and have made the decision not to breastfeed when I have my baby. It's my decision but I feel like I'm being to made guilty by not even trying.... did anyone else just go straight to FF? Did you try in the beginning? Is it wrong to not want to?
It's not that I don't want the connection with my baby, just the following reasons-
-they need feeding much more frequently, which can be exhausting through the night
-it is very draining both mentally and physically for Mum
-it hurts
-I don't feel comfortable breastfeeding in public
-can be trying to do it for potentially hours at a time
-no involvement for Dad/freedom for Mum
-can't measure how much baby is drinking on each feed
Would love to hear everyone's thoughts
Thanks x

Unless you have a crippling disability you owe it to your baby to at least try to BF because you can't just have a baby and go half way because you feel like it. You go all the way because mothers make sacrifices.

Why? Because you say so?

I said you need to try rather than decide before you've even given it a go...don't make assumptions that haven't been stated.

Idiot? LMAO name calling because ..?

'I said you need to try rather than decide before you've even given it a go...don't make assumptions that haven't been stated.'

Oh

I think it’s great that formula exists for mothers and babies that need it. But we need to stop denying the importance of breastmilk because some people are tetchy about not feeding.

Unless you have a crippling disability you owe it to your baby to at least try to BF because you can't just have a baby and go half way because you feel like it. '

I thought you'd 'stated' this ^

I did ask what you might class as a 'crippling disability'

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'But we need to stop denying the importance of breastmilk because some people are tetchy about not feeding.'

Who on earth isn't feeding?

I wouldn't try anything because some poster who can barely string a sentence together has said so 😂
That's another 'making a sacrifice' comment I've seen along with 'fighting tooth and nail' further up thread. It shouldn't be this hard. Women shouldn't be putting themselves through something if they have to do it through gritted teeth. It smacks of a small selection of mothers who really struggled and therefore think others should have to as well.
One woman's idea of a sacrifice may be timing errands and shopping trips around feeds which have to be made with a certain temperature, cleaning, sterilising and transporting equipment and getting up through the night to make bottles anyway. 'Sacrifices' are going to going to inevitable anyway.

Maybe im stating the obvious but as you're not capable of googling I will mention a few obvious...Mothers who might have lost their breast to breast cancer ? Breast cancer treatment? A mother with HIV?

What?

Christ, these comments are laughable!

What does it matter to you what I feed my baby! I don't care what you feed yours, so why are you so bothered that I don't want to breastfeed.

Are my boobs that important to your life?

Unfortunately yes my, some people are unhealthily over invested in stranger's boobs!

So if your kids say they don't want to eat something without even trying it, what do you do or think? Most parents are keen on their children to at least try the food once before coming to a conclusion.

There's a difference between giving up without trying at all than someone who at least trys once and gives up afterwards.

The OP already made up her mind that she won't feel comfortable feeding in public. Sorry but she won't know unless she tries.

Incomparable.

I don't care how people feed their babies. However, there are always people on threads like this who wanted to bf but it didn't work for them. I do care about those people. Research from other countries shows that 95% of women can bf if they get the proper help. So what I want is for everyone who wants to bf gets that help. Don't want to? Fine. Try it, don't like it and stop? Fine. Want to but don't manage it because nobody helped you properly? Definitely not fine.

They were pretty much my reasons apart from the not wanting to in public I couldn't give a fuck about that . I was happy with my decision it worked for us. I did get a lot of hassle from people though. You just have to learn to ignore it.

Well the thread has certainly enlightened me.

A BF poster who has cured not one, but two people of cancer by giving them her pumped breastmilk.

Completely Agree Bert

Also for me just not wanting to is enough of a valid reason. We're allowed say that about most other things in life why not this?

It is indeed

That was my reason too

My reason too!

I didn't want to breastfeed either.

When my baby was born and in my arms I changed my mind and decided to try and at least get some colostrum into him as it has great benefits for them. We breastfed for 3 days and then switched to formula.

Honestly, do what works best for you, but realise when baby arrives you might still change your mind either way.

“Also for me just not wanting to is enough of a valid reason.”

Yep.

@BertrandRussell jut because I didn't wan to doesn't mean I'm not heartbroken for women who wanted to and doesn't work out. Funding should be focused on helping them not scaring pregnant women who have made a decision as to what they want to do with their bodies that their babies are going to be fat or thick or that they're going to get breast cancer