Don't want to breastfeed.....

[Zaplolly]

Hi everyone!
I'm 25 weeks and have made the decision not to breastfeed when I have my baby. It's my decision but I feel like I'm being to made guilty by not even trying.... did anyone else just go straight to FF? Did you try in the beginning? Is it wrong to not want to?
It's not that I don't want the connection with my baby, just the following reasons-
-they need feeding much more frequently, which can be exhausting through the night
-it is very draining both mentally and physically for Mum
-it hurts
-I don't feel comfortable breastfeeding in public
-can be trying to do it for potentially hours at a time
-no involvement for Dad/freedom for Mum
-can't measure how much baby is drinking on each feed
Would love to hear everyone's thoughts
Thanks x

Oh i see the witches are still out in force. How about the poor women who fight tooth and nail to breastfeed, and people like you come on here and say your effort went in vain as no real benefits to bf. Now i am being accused of being cruel too.

Jesus @Pornstarlips get a fucking grip!

Ladygarga i nearly pissed my panties. It will take alot more then that to break me. Do u want a star for your effort

What about the women who persevered with breastfeeding thanks to outside pressure even though it was a hellish struggle before finally switching to FF but feel like failures leading or contributing to PND, then reading comments like yours that FF mothers are jealous and guilty?

I'm also pregnant. I happily breastfed previously and honestly have been thinking about both options this time.

It's easier to breastfeed in the first couple of days that's for sure, at a time when you're at home, you're resting anyway, don't need to be anywhere etc. Also bottles are a hassle to make up!

On the other hand, I'm running around after my current children and could do with the extra help with feeds this time! I also had awful mastitis with my second.

However, I enjoyed breastfeeding and the peaceful, middle-of-the-night moments together. It also meant taking less stuff out when we left the house! Although I was self-conscious feeding in public.

I can see both sides, but say have a go and see how you get on. If it's not for you, that's fine.

People need to do what's best for them. Advanced Science is no way showing us there is no difference between a breast fed child versus a formula fed one. Not liking that fact doesn't change it. Shouting you don't believe it doesn't change it. Nothing changes it.

So all this "my choice is bestest" is nothing short of crazy. A crazy attempt to appear superior. Feeding your baby is about what works for you, your child and your family.

It's really that simple.

Is now showing us,,😁

@TheSpottedZebra

But Cosmoa - why should your emotions dictate what someone else does wih their body?

I don't think that my emotions should dictate anything. I'm just saying it makes me sad that people won't even try when it's best for the baby. Especially if they have no good reason why they don't want to. I'm allowed to have an opinion and emotions about something. Doesn't mean anyone has to listen. I doubt they would if they were that determined.

Spot on Bluntness. The suggestion that we should all ignore what science is now showing us, in case it upsets women who have worked hard to breastfeed, is patronising and insulting to those women and others trying to make an informed choice. Every woman who chooses to breastfeed will do so for her own reasons but to suggest that we should all pretend there are massive benefits that science is now disproving, purely to avoid upsetting anyone, is ridiculous. Facts are facts, like it or not. None of this means people shouldn't breastfeed, I am all for it for many reasons, but let's call it like it is and stop pretending it makes any difference to how the child turns out!

I just want women to make an informed choice. And there is so much bullshit and misinformation around breastfeeding, and such a vociferous anti lobby, and so much advertising that an informed decision is very hard to make.

I'm allowed to have an opinion and emotions about something.

Let me rephrase that:

I'm allowed to make judgements about your body and what you do with it, even though your actions don’t affect me in any way.

I wonder if my reasons for refusing to breastfeed would be ‘good’ enough to pass your little test. I suppose we’ll never know, because they’re none of your business (if I have any at all).

I also wonder if I’m ‘allowed’ to judge you for the things you do with your body. I wouldn’t, by the way, because I think that kind of nasty arrogance is deeply unpleasant.

Ah, yes, the 'informed choice'... the only valid one being bf, obviously.

By the way, medical fact has a half life as well, which means that, statistically, 50% of the things we now consider to be 'facts' will be disproved I think in 20 years.

If there is an anti-lobby it is because the pro-lobby is so annoyingly patronising and presumptuous, implying that everyone will do it and non-bf mums' choices are out of the ordinary, weird and dangerous.

There are proven benefits to vaginal birth. Do we tell women who are scared of childbirth to suck it up and 'try it'? No, on the contrary, we support them in trying to get a csection. Imagine the fallout if we told them to get lost.

I have nothing against bf. Only I don't want to do it. Though I'd be willing to consider applications for a wetnurse.

"Ah, yes, the 'informed choice'... the only valid one being bf, obviously

Bollocks.

Oh yeah I wondered where the obligatory post about breast milk being the elixir of life which cures cancer was.

"I have helped two women rid their bodies of breast cancer with my pumped breast milk."

Can I say "Bollocks" twice in two posts? I think I can. Bollocks.

'I have helped two women rid their bodies of breast cancer with my pumped breast milk. '

Just when you thought you'd heard it all

I am tempted to report that post- but maybe it's best it stays there to show just how deluded and ridiculous some people can be.

OK-time to report.

Already have Bert

I have helped two women rid their bodies of breast cancer with my pumped breast milk.

How can we even try to compare between natural milk and milk made in a lab?

Most women need to distinguish between what they want and what their baby needs. Quiet frankly needs comes first. Unless you have a crippling disability you owe it to your baby to at least try to BF because you can't just have a baby and go half way because you feel like it. You go all the way because mothers make sacrifices.

You need to understand that formula sellers are in it to make a profit, so you would be naive to make a decision from the nonsense they tell you on posters or TV ads. Who in their right mind is going to publicise the flaws of their products?

'Unless you have a crippling disability you owe it to your baby to at least try to BF because you can't just have a baby and go half way because you feel like it.'

So it has to be a 'crippling disability'

Would you like to list some that fall into your model?

And again

If I was undecided about BF

Another complete idiot would have put me off.