AIBU to think holes in my child’s PJ’s are okay

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So I have two children ages 4 and 2-both boys. Obviously the second child lives in the hand-me-downs. We spent a lot on reasonably expensive/good quality clothing for my first child. Being boys the clothes can sometimes be rugged and torn on the knee. Is it okay to allow my youngest to wear torn PJ’s stained (but clean) jumpers? Why do I feel so guilty, shouldn’t I do this. I’m interested on hearing from parents on what they do with torn clothes??

Would you wear stained and ripped clothes yourself? I wouldn't.

Just buy him some new clothes ffs.

I've reused torn pyjamas (how do they manage it?!) but I always sew it up first. Depends on how poor I was at that time.

I have 3.5 and a 2yo of different genders. I’m big on hand me downs but only if in decent condition. Light stained stuff might still head to nursery. Ripped stuff goes in the bin. There are limits.

My child chews his clothes. His pyjamas look like they're made of lace. As he chews them on first wear, do you honestly think I buy new ones?
No-one sees them but us, so what does it matter?

Pj's as long as they are clean, comfy and worn just at home, not a problem really. Stuff that gets worn outside the house probably not unless they're getting mucky anyway.

I wouldn't let mine wear torn or stained clothes. A lot of my youngest's vests are stained but clean, and I'll let him wear them if I need to just quickly grab something. But I wouldn't let him wear noticeably stained clothes in public.

Generally I get rid of torn clothing.

Stained clothes I might keep for when they’re doing messy stuff to save the good clothes getting spoilt.

If theyre torn then I would repair if possible and absolutely they can wear these out, stained it depends on if it's an item of clothing that will be seen or not. For my youngest we had some stained but clean clothes that we used around the house and garden etc but wouldnt wear out. We didnt have muvh money so had to be very careful about what we bought and kept it for best and trips out etc.

My ds2 has a lot of hand-me-downs but I didn't keep anything ripped or stained. Although I don't have a problem with holey clothes worn at home (mainly stuff they can't bear to part with).

He probably doesn't care about the holes in his pyjamas.

You can definitely reuse torn/stained clothes, it's wasteful not to.
But is it possible to mend them? Or even get the kids involved and patch them with fun fabrics or patches?

Stuff around the house can be as torn as you like. Outside clothes probably should look a bit better otherwise people will judge I’m afraid.

I meant to say for indoor wear, obviously not to go out in.

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DD chews the neckline of pyjamas too - end up with holes in at day 1 of wearing. I am not going to replace her PJs EVERY DAY... don't be daft...

My sons clothing is not even second hand and its full of holes and stained etc..... he just got an oil stain on a new tshirt yesterday (hes 3) no way am I throwing it away. Yeah he wont be wearing it to anything important again but its fine for down the park and in the house.
Do people really throw away clothing at the slightest sign of wear?

For me, it would come down to the question of whether you would wear secondh holey clothes yourself. So if money is tight or it's for environmental reasons, and the rest of the family have similar quality stuff for at home, fair play. If not, I wouldn't, just because I wouldn't want it to seem that he were less important. (DS2 might not notice but DS1 probably would.)

I see no problem with ripped/stained clothes for home or messy activities - nursery or park etc.

But I wouldn't pass down damaged clothes. Dd2 shouldn't have to wear clothes that dd1 has damaged. That's unfair on her. Clothes are cheap enough in Primark - I bought a t-shirt for £1.30 and skirt for £2.50. Or good condition second hand are easy enough to find.

If something's torn and stained, it's not exactly "the slightest sign of wear"!

My twins have some lovely scandi sleepsuits and some Aussie zip rompers that are bloody expensive and we wear them to death. A few of them have small holes in (one of the knee, one at the crotch etc) and there’s no way I’d stop them wearing them - what’s the point?

Stained stuff we still wear at home or at messy play groups.

hollowtalk well I disagree. My child rips and stains things which have literally just been bought, so I would consider it 'the slightest sign of wear'
Of course they cant wear those things to important events any more. But to throw something away after its been worn once or twice because it has a stain on it is not something I would do personally. And it is different for a child than it is for an adult.... I dont regularly climb trees and role around in the mud etc So I might throw something away for myself if it was stained... but for a toddler theres no point because they will just stain the next thing you buy them!!

I'd let either child continue to wear a favourite that was ripped or stained, I wouldn't pass it on to DS2 (unless he actually wanted it).
Aged 7, today as we were going through all the stuff for recycling, he declared he didn't want his brothers old clothes - and promptly claimed a batman teeshirt!!!

My two are over the toddler stain everything as soon as look at it stage so they generally look presentable out of the house (except school shirts. Dd2 can stain a shirt by osmosis!). Holey pjs though, no problem!

He does have new clothes but naturally gets less new stuff as we have so much handed down and given to us. I’m just thinking, in an age where I think kids get too much it’s excessive at time and not essential. Do I need to keep adding to the wasteful society we already live in. I’m not sure I’m being neglectful to my DS2 and they certainly wasn’t handed down with holes in. Maybe a stain or two 🤭.

Surely it’s okay? They’re heading to bed clean but holey...