Afficionados of How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk HELP please

[unknownrebelbang]

Ok, the thread's too long for me to something similar has been covered, but you seem quite impressed with it, so.......

DS2+3, 10 and 8, can sometimes be a pita at bedtime. (Sometimes aided and abetted by DS1).

They're loud and boisterous lads, and tbh most of the time they're only sitting talking, but they're soooo loud.

The problem is DH sometimes has vvv early starts and often goes to bed before them, and then is kept awake by their nattering.

What should we be saying to them to get them to show some consideration, be quieter, and ultimately go to blardy sleep?

pml.

Find dbook.

I need help!!!!

Or rather DH does.....

(My usual response would be similar, GDG, lol)

Oh definitely, and if it doesn't work then it really freaks them out, which is half the fun.

There's a chapter on problems? ohmygod. Have you found dbook yet?

Haim waitin. Hif you are going to persist in tahking this long, Haigh shall have to go and find may book, mayself. Back in a tick.

ok need dh to come home os i an ask him

God is he reading it too? You're going wild for it there. Hurrah.

no he knew where it was
dulard
ok have foudn but
too tired to psot now
have answers though

oh good!

lol, I trust you will share the answers at some point???

ok right as dh was watchign 24 what was i doing?
reading that book for you.

i now have no idea where the nuclear transponders are or if "oddry" will ever tlak agin.

right ill type out the simple intrucs then flesh out later when i haev dont eh shcool run
ok?

1.talk abotu the kids feelgins and needs
2 tlak abotu your feeligns and needs
3 barinstorm together to find a mutulaly agree solution
4 write down all the ideas wihtout evaluating htem

1. decide which oness you like and which ones you dont like and which plan to follow through

I see a plan formulating.....

Cheers.

bloody hell gobble!

when it works on dgs3 I'll give it the thumbs up

well what did oyu do>

Nothing yet - DH is at work this evening and he needs to be part of the discussions, given that he's the one most affected.

I shall have a natter with the lads at bedtime, just generally, reminding them about how bad it is for DH if they start, and asking them to think of solutions, then when DH is around (probably Saturday now) we'll all discuss it together.

Thanks for looking in the book - especially when you could have been watching 24!!

thats how much i care.

I'm touched!

lol.

please nto that hundertimes hwo rekcosn sheis an expert has nowt all tosay on it

Can't help but notice that both this and your Lite thread end with you dissing the 100. Am shocked. Perhaps I over-reached myself a little by saying 'expert'. Perhaps. But am most loyal and dedicated student and, come on, fess up, definately Top of the Class. In the yearbook, I'd be Parenting Student Most Likely to Talk Weird.
You know it and I know it.

lol
ok you are class creep!

lol @ you two!

Anyway, we've had a discussion.

Asked them for their thoughts, reiterated DH's needs (and mine, though less important in this context.)

Discussed various options, and decided what we're going to go with (and have actually planned out bedtimes for the whole week, depending on their commitments, and DH's shifts).

We've also discussed consequences, so that could be interesting...

and were they freaked by it?

No, not really. We do have discussions about various issues, but I did let them lead the way a bit more than I usually do.

All three took on board what we were saying, including DS1 who whilst not the main issue, can antogonise the situation sometimes.

Youngest (8) was really eager to please, bless him.

Ironically, they've not been too bad/DH hasn't had the vv early shifts since I raised this.

DS2 is away with a school trip this coming week, and then we're away for half-term, so it'll be June before I can see how well it works long-term, although am expecting good results tonight, lol.

great
ill take all teh credit
not 100

If it works, I'll give you all the credit!