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Afficionados of How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk HELP please

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unknownrebelbang · 15/05/2007 16:58

Ok, the thread's too long for me to something similar has been covered, but you seem quite impressed with it, so.......

DS2+3, 10 and 8, can sometimes be a pita at bedtime. (Sometimes aided and abetted by DS1).

They're loud and boisterous lads, and tbh most of the time they're only sitting talking, but they're soooo loud.

The problem is DH sometimes has vvv early starts and often goes to bed before them, and then is kept awake by their nattering.

What should we be saying to them to get them to show some consideration, be quieter, and ultimately go to blardy sleep?

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filthymindedvixen · 04/06/2007 18:10

do you have an expensive tan now doggers?

ahundredtimes · 04/06/2007 22:09

Oh god sorry Dogsby, am in and out at stupid hours. Have too much work in RL. See, just NOT dependable.

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ahundredtimes · 04/06/2007 22:28

Glory. Shall go and find it. Won't be flattered until I've read it.

FluffyMummy123 · 04/06/2007 22:29

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ahundredtimes · 04/06/2007 22:33

Yes. Was hardly overwhelmed with interested parties was it?

ahundredtimes · 04/06/2007 23:40

But then they all pitched up shouting 'you're a man'. Was weird Dogsby.

ahundredtimes · 04/06/2007 23:42

Am going to bed now to think of more feminine posting style. Shall use lots of exclamation marks and happy faces, other than when I'm using sad faces, because I'll be crying all the time.

!!!!!!!

ahundredtimes · 04/06/2007 23:54

You know, I do sound a bit like a man don't I? I sound cold, that's what it is. Oh god. Poncy AND cold. Jeez, I never knew. Is all quite uphill this mumsnet malarky. Okay, am quite disturbed by this now. Am going to work on it. I was joking before, but now I've been thinking about it. And you're not even there, you're off reading My Cousin Rachel or something and I'm having a gender crisis.

Am going to talk to DH about it. Shall report back.

ahundredtimes · 05/06/2007 09:59

Well that didn't go very well. Firstly dh said 'it's because you're funny and women aren't very funny as a rule' (wtf?) then he made it worse by saying, 'you are being yourself. You are funny but a bit removed and private as well. You don't open yourself out much do you, as a rule? I mean what about that time yaddah yaddah yaddah' and on it went, on and on.

foxinsocks · 05/06/2007 10:00

don't forget - 'it's all about you'

ahundredtimes · 05/06/2007 10:04

Oh god yes. The phrase he uses actually is 'this isn't about you' - usually when discussing himself......

ahundredtimes · 05/06/2007 10:06

Foxy, have you ever at any point thought I'm a man? Honestly.

foxinsocks · 05/06/2007 10:07

No, I don't think so. But then again, thinking is probably not my strong point.

ahundredtimes · 05/06/2007 10:07

Ok, no, just go with I don't think so. Feel better now.

Roux · 05/06/2007 10:10

Who started all this stuff about you being a bloke in the first place ahundredtimes?

It certainly never crossed my mind if that's any help

foxinsocks · 05/06/2007 10:11

living with creative types can be quite taxing though (your dh, not you). Lots of internal angst and talking about themselves.

ahundredtimes · 05/06/2007 10:14

Thank you Roux. Dogsby says enid did. I'm on another thread now that she's on, floating about in a summer dress and rearranging scatter cushions. Is quite exhausting.

ahundredtimes · 05/06/2007 10:15

Yes too true. Dh rather nice as a rule though, but did enjoy the conversation about why anyone might think I was a man, a little too much!

Roux · 05/06/2007 10:15

Lol ahundredtimes

foxinsocks · 05/06/2007 10:15

Just go with the flow and Be a Man. Nothing to lose really.

FrannyandZooey · 05/06/2007 10:18

100x IGNORE the man thing

they know it is needling you and they are just carrying on to annoy you

I never thought for a minute you were a man, you are clearly an intelligent and extremely bright woman who is quite reserved

you are absolutely charming as I keep telling you

FrannyandZooey · 05/06/2007 10:19

LOL at "intelligent AND extremely bright"

I think I lost my train of thought there somewhere in the excitement of being the 100x appreciation club leader

ShrinkingViolet · 05/06/2007 10:55

Does all this advice fly through the air somehow to the offspring? Only I've been reading this thread for the first time, and DD2 came over with a serious face and said "You know Mummy, if you keep laughing like that all the snot will drip over the keyboard and break the computer, then you won't be able to go on Mumsnet any more and we won't be able to play the Sims and it will all be very sad. Is that really what you want?". Can I hire her out, do you think?

foxinsocks · 05/06/2007 15:46

aha you see, a hundred, mumsnet is already under your skin (discussing your manhood with dh).

Because of this thread, dh and I have been 'discussing' (i.e. rowing) about pronouncing Vermouth. I say Vermoooooooooth, he insists it is VERmuth grrrr.