Did anyone else do progressive Christmas presents?

[TheFSMisreal]

It seems like I'm the only one. According to Facebook atleast. My son is super excited to earn his next lot. There must be others though right?

I wonder what happened to my Nan's button box? It was a delightful thing. In an old Quality Street tin (back when they were really deep) and it had oodles of every type of button that you could imagine. Little pearly ones, large wooden ones, ones with ladybirds and red riding hood on, plain shirt buttons, glittery buttons... hours of fun.

I love a rummage in an old button box.

Misses point of thread.

You people taking the piss out of a loving age old tradition for what exactly?

That nobody else has heard of and one you won’t explain?

I’m summing up that this thing you’re doing to your kid is mega controlling and hopefully he won’t mention it at school.

We also have a button box at home. I stole it from my mother. It’s in a tobacco tin. Just saying
#smug #whybegoodwhenyoucanbebad

Dd has had coats a couple of times for Christmas. One of several gifts. Not as her main coat. She likes getting coats and shoes. These are things she wouldn’t normally have btw. Extras. Think fake fur coat that she wanted because a relation had it and monsoon coat when she has one from landsend. Lelli kelly sparkle boot things for £55 when she has trainers, shoes and sandals Etc.

Fuck I've been doing this for years & haven't realised it!

DS got a PS4 for Christmas & for his birthday he'll get a game to go with it - I'm not an evil bitch he also got 3 games with it & announced that he'd like another one today & conveniently has a birthday in a week.

DD1 has a February birthday so usually got things for her birthday which progressed went with her Christmas gifts whereas DD2 has a birthday a few weeks before Christmas so it was her birthday gifts which needed to progress at Christmas baby born shit was expensive.

Just been through the whole thread with DH who has had to change his underwear
May I nominate this for 'Mumsnet Classics' please?

But have your dcs earnt their presents Whiskeysourpuss? Not very progressive just giving it to them. They’re going to grow up very entitled you know .

The DD's are now 16&17 mummyoflittledragon & whilst we do have episodes of them thinking the world owes them a living they've come out not too bad considering that they are given Christmas & birthday gifts with no strings attached to them.

But then cleaning their pigsty rooms & being civil, polite humans are basic requirements for which there is no progressive shite material reward in this house.

Totally agree the issue is that is an old age tradition - no ones heard of.

Of course we've all heard of (and most likely do) but large sets of things and add on over the years and I very much expect it's related to being earnt (good behaviour etc) as well as birthdays and further Christmases.

But the OP seems to be saying is about buying an item (coat or dressing gown etc) and then being able to personalise it as a reward.

I think the idea of adding emblems and own buttons of clothing is great and allows children freedom of expression etc.
But the idea of buying a dressing gown and then saying "whether this progresses beyond a dressing gown or not is up to you" just seems odd. But I guess that's what the OP means by avoiding spoiling - teaching children about simpler gifts and things rather than them wanting another nerf gun modular set?!

Is it like my DC get a Saturday toy if they half fill their star charts?

@EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck I think it's more that once they have the Saturday toy you would then buy them something to progress the Saturday toy if they completely fill their star charts although I'm not clear on timescales... you could have a dozen charts on the go with various Saturday toys going un-progressed until you get a full chart

I must start that tomorrow!

No giving presents that can have add ons isn't taking away anything.

It doesn’t make sense to me and I don’t understand the concept.

Just joined the party - batshit indeed

@EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck kinda, but the Saturday toy would be related to what they got for Christmas. Preferably buttons. Fucking buttons!

I'm definitely doing it. Where can I sew buttons on to a Playmobil pirate ship? Or a drone?

Screw sewing too time consuming. Use blu tack... after your kids have earned it first ofc.

@EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck you'll maybe have to glue the buttons on - I'm sure OP will give you some of hers if you need it as she appears a to have a steady supply of glue that is

Buttons are a choke hazard.

I don't mean to be button in but I bet OP keeps her local habidashary shop in business...

My children's coats always had zips.

I wonder if you can exchange the buttons for goodies...like in an old amusement arcades. 2 buttons gets you a stuffed toy etc.

M I right in thinking you have just the one dc, Zop?

In fact after reading the whole thread I need to lie down. In a dark room.
With no buttons!

Whiskey
Had you followed progressive parenting, their bedrooms would be immaculate and wallpapered in buttons. Clearly you have not allowed them to reach their potential.