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Did anyone else do progressive Christmas presents?

356 replies

TheFSMisreal · 28/12/2017 23:44

It seems like I'm the only one. According to Facebook atleast. My son is super excited to earn his next lot. There must be others though right?

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LadyHonoriaDedlock · 30/12/2017 00:48

Hope the poor kid goes to a steiner school or something cos otherwise he's going to get the piss ripped out of him for his coat of many buttons.

pallisers · 30/12/2017 00:49

My mum had a box of buttons we used to play with (1970s childhood - lots of simple pleasures!)

This OP feels a bit hipsterish to me. Taking something parents have done for generations - occasionally offering small rewards to children for doing some tasks - and packaging/marketing it a family tradition that is worthy of an article/blog/instagram post.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 30/12/2017 04:30

OP, I know you've gone but I just want to say this, I think everyone resorted to being funny after being accused of lying.

We've tried very very hard to understand what the freaking hell you are talking about I've even asked my mum and some of my RL friends wether they've heard of it. Read your replies to them to see if it's just me having a mind block, no I'm very sorry they have never heard of it and asked the same questions as so many here, such as how old is the child, and most importantly since when has present giving been conditional and reward giving.

It's your rude replies that has set every one off, starting with the learn to read or bore off to some one who like every one else was just genuinely asking to explain what the fecking hell you are actually talking about.

Then you accused everyone of lying presumably because you weirdly believe we're lying when we say no we don't understand and no we've never heard it.

Yes the dressing gown jojdchas got a bit out of hand but your failure to explain, has amused and FRUSTRATED people and in their respiration they've come up with their own versions.

Loving age old tradition, we no, not very loving pretty controlling, by your own admission it's only for kids because you can't use rewards to displine adults, so your using presents to control your child's behaviour, that's not what Christmas presents are. Rewards are well rewards they're things you get for conditional achievements, gifts are gifts and are unconditional, the two aren't the same thing.

It might be tradition in your family, but that doesn't mean it's everyone else's tradition In my family for example it's tradition to have Christmas eve presents entirely different from the more resent trend for the Christmas eve box, it started because my grandfather would work till late on Christmas eve and my mum and her sister would be allowed to open one present when he got home just before bed. This became a thing passed down to me and my siblings then now to my siblings children, even though it's not waiting till the father gets home any more. However if never come on here going what's every one doing for Christmas eve presents, because everyone would go what the blithering fuck are you on about. Or even if I did I would just explain like I just have and if people went still a bit confused, I'd explain not call every one trolls and liars.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 30/12/2017 04:53

I have just googled that time honoured tradition of progressive gifting that we’ve never heard of. I came up with this. www.prudentia.co.nz/trusts-wills-estates/gifting/lump-sum-vs-progressive-gifting/. Op is actually trying to save on inheritance tax. But she’s not very wealthy, bless and hasn’t quite got the concept that there’s no such thing as iht on buttons. After all op doesn’t want her son to lose his buttons... or marbles if he has any of those.

I can conclude that even google, an oracle of much knowledge also knows very little of progressive gifting. There is a company called progressive gifts, which sells, well, gifts.

I also looked up progressive presents. It gave me a bunch of searches about the present progressive or present continuous if you prefer. So it’s a ‘loving age old tradition’ as well as a grammatical term. Who knew.

But of course we, along with google, are trolls, piss takers, liars and makers of fables.

As the not at all hopping mad bunny would say: That’s all folks.

LadyGAgain · 30/12/2017 09:12

GrinGrinGrin This is clearly a joke. Right? ConfusedConfusedConfused. Utterly batshit crazy idea but most of you ladies have made me
Chuckle. This thread became progressively more and more funny. Success OP.

Babybauble · 30/12/2017 09:50

Gifts?! I've clearly missed something!

DeepanKrispanEven · 30/12/2017 10:00

How is this a loving age old tradition if no-one's heard of it?

As for your I guess this generation won't grow up learning the value of things - my children managed to grow up being fully aware of the value of things without any of this peculiar system. That's because I brought them up to do so without having to offer bribes.

imaddictedtomn · 30/12/2017 10:12

I feel sorry for OP’s DC.

insancerre · 30/12/2017 10:30

I think the op was planning on converting us all to the cult --of one she is head of
She is a little disappointed that we are not all following her parenting ethos , buttons in hand

PasstheStarmix · 30/12/2017 11:00

Maybe you would get a complimentary button for joining? Grin

LadyGAgain · 30/12/2017 11:07

I did lose a button yesterday. I didn't unload the dishwasher quickly enough...

Breeze241 · 30/12/2017 11:07

Oh yeah I totally do this every year. This year for example I gave my DS a PS4, he got the controller, then the console and he should be getting the plug soon. He also got a new football strip so far he has a sock and the shorts.

My DH also participates, this year he got a new iPad he has the plug but not the iPad yet. He also gets 'me' so each night I put on a piece of special 'clothing' or 'stocking' for him to admire. We've got a long way to go...

Blueskyrain · 30/12/2017 12:23

We have a button box at home. Just saying
#smug #musthavebeengoodthisyear

Babybauble · 30/12/2017 12:44

Can someone please explain the button thing? I've searched back and can't find it?

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 30/12/2017 13:01

babybauble the OP's got a coat as one of his progressive presents, so some one went ok slightly get it, but how does a coat get better, and the OP responded that her son loved buttons so his earnt present is that each time he choses to progress his coat she's going to let him chose a fancy button to replace the ones that are already on his coat, like a button at a time.

To which people are like What? Time consuming (apparently not according to the OP) and buttons are a bit of a crap present.

But in the OPs failure to explain what the bloody he'll she's talking about people have latched on to what seems to be the funniest thing.

Whinesalot · 30/12/2017 13:03

We all probably do an inadvertent version of this. We just don't choose presents especially to do this.

Aftereights91 · 30/12/2017 13:47

I've read the whole thing op and I still don't get it. Are you doing what all other parents do by buying things for their children throughout the year as and when they deserve it and just calling it by the name progressive presents, or is this something else entirely? And before you start getting shout, I've read every single comment and still don't get it

DeepanKrispanEven · 30/12/2017 13:58

I suspect most of us have done the thing of giving presents that have accessories that can be bought separately; the difference is that we don't seek to control the child's access to them by linking it to behaviour. In that situation I normally let relatives and friends know about the accessories if they want present ideas, and give them for things like birthdays and/or let the child buy them from monetary gifts and pocket money.

Haffiana · 30/12/2017 14:01

I expect DC will grow up and progress away from home as fast as he can. Then one day we will have one of those MIL-from-hell threads.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 30/12/2017 14:17

I lost the will about page 5, after op got a bit snippy. I suspect she's gone off to start her PP blog and tell the world what a bunch of reactionaries MN are. But this thread ranks amongst the great batshit threads of the past-Dinosaurs against Christans, the one about helium balloons. Kept me entertained on a bleak afternoon.

Thermostatpolice · 30/12/2017 14:35

I think I get it. But can't imagine having the time and brainspace to progress Christmas presents. Nor the inclination to make my DC earn them. Clearly it works for the OP though.

SimonBridges · 30/12/2017 14:45

When I was little if I did well in a test or got a good report then I might get something new for my Sindy house or the next book in a series, but I want bribed with them or only given half a present.

Verilyfrankinscensed · 30/12/2017 14:49

I've read it all. I don't understand. Please come back and explain, it's driving me crazy.

Verilyfrankinscensed · 30/12/2017 14:53

And I just googled progressive presents and it came up with this thread.

TheSmallClangerWhistlesAgain · 30/12/2017 14:58

DD would have been very disappointed with a coat as a present. Coats are something you need when you're a kid, not a special treat.

She does like buttons though.