Did anyone else do progressive Christmas presents?

[TheFSMisreal]

It seems like I'm the only one. According to Facebook atleast. My son is super excited to earn his next lot. There must be others though right?

Oh come on it takes two minutes to sew on a button. The real time consuming part is going to be him choosing from the wall of buttons in the shop 😂

PerspicaciaTick no that's not how it works...

So explain it please, because at the moment it is making literally no sense to me.

I’m confused too? He gets a jacket for Christmas. Then if He cleans his room, (or whatever set task) he gets a button each time?!?! Or am I way off?!

DD got slime for xmas. On boxing day,it fell onto a christmas crown thingy and bits got stuck on it,changing it's colour. DD was delighted. Did I accidentally progressive gifted her?

Curious where you came across this batshit idea?

Is it open to adults too? I can just imagine saying to DH, I know you love your socks but just wait until you see how fucking amazing they could be if you play your cards right over the next few months....

Seriously OP, I imagine you are coming from a good place but it seems a bit joyless.

I hate sewing on buttons so where is my incentive?

But did she deserve the progressive gift rebel otherwise you must turn it back into its previous state at once.

I can't live in a world where people don't earn their progressive gift....

should work for the modern generation - it is like a computer game :) you are given the base dressing gown and then earn coins by playing the game (of real life!) and earning upgrades - at what point do you get super powers?! :)

PerspicaciaTick so you buy your kid a doll for Christmas. That's their present. They also sell all kinds of accessories for these dolls. Rather than get them randomly, sporadically, if at all for them you put them in control and give them the choice. They don't have to get any if they don't want to.

You sound bat shit.

Buttons?!

Only one book out of a series then has to earn the rest? That is so mean spirited.

Just let the kid enjoy Christmas.

Where did you get this idea?

I don’t get this. But then me and DH have differing experiences of Christmas as kids. For us it was an absolute orgy of gifts. One “big” thing like a pram or bike and then a bajillion little gifts of fun, frivolous things. We did the whole Father Christmas thing, charades in the evening, staying up til midnight playing Trivial Persuit with our Nans. It was just massively joyful. DH had an earn-your-gifts vibe going on, wasn’t allowed to believe in Santa and got practical presents like shoes and gloves and and, weirdly, has fewer happy Christmas memories. We are doing my families kind of Christmas with our daughters!

Where does the room tidying fit in to it?

DD was delighted. Did I accidentally progressive gifted her?

Nah Rebel, clearly your excellent parenting enabled your child to progress herself! It just happened organically like

Now WTF are we talking about? I'm really not getting this, has this little boy not got his Christmas presents still?

If my child was so thrilled by buttons, I'd be giving them buttons all the time. Not just for Xmas.

But what if the button your child chooses to replace the one you have in a completely batshit way cut off his dressing gown isn't the right size? What if he wants a little ladybird one but the dressing gown requires something more substantial?

I'm not sure that you have thought this through tbh.

So DC spends build up to Christmas trying to be good. Only to discover that their gifts are half-arsed and they have to keep on jumping through hoops to earn the rest of the present

After reading that I now think giving half a dozen lumps of coal instead of just one in a stocking is acceptable.

seafooodplatter yes, he loves buttons... They have some fabulous ones at the store. And he earns the books by reading the previous ones

@CantSleepClownsWillEatMe you made my day. No one has ever before used my name and excellent parenting in the same sentence before.

Off I go to find New things to drop slime in.

My son is having to earn some of his Christmas presents this year because I have searched the house top to bottom & still can't find the 'safe place' where I stashed them.
I've given up now & told him if he can find them, he can have them.

Does that count as (accidental) progressive Christmas presents?

It's only a couple of annuals & he was supposed to get them Christmas day.

PerspicaciaTick so you buy your kid a doll for Christmas. That's their present. They also sell all kinds of accessories for these dolls. Rather than get them randomly, sporadically, if at all for them you put them in control and give them the choice. They don't have to get any if they don't want to.

So you buy a present and then bribe your children to behave by promising them more stuff related to that present if they are good. I hate to sound stuffy but I kind of expected my children to behave anyway, present or no present. I thought that was the point of behaving well - you do it because it is right not because someone is going to reward you (within reason - obviously bribes are a useful tool in the arsenal of parenting).

It sounds like you gave christmas presents and then set up a reward chart after christmas with the rewards relating to the presents he got. whatever.

It's only a couple of annuals & he was supposed to get them Christmas day

If you're anywhere near me you can have a Thomas Annual and My Granny is a Pirate to give him. I just found them yesterday on top of the kitchen cupboard. There was also a bag of chocolate and sweets but Ive eaten those. Maybe your boy could be good all year and I'll give him next years misplaced sweets instead.

. And he earns the books by reading the previous ones

Wtf is this new fangled terminology. He doesn't earn new books by reading the ones he has. He gets new books because he's read all the others just like every other kid everywhere (new or from the library). It's an age old idea

So Op taking your example of the doll and accessories, am I right in saying you buy the child the doll as a gift and then over time you buy accessories or add ons? If the child still wants them?

Is that not just normal though? As in DD got lego elves for her October birthday and she really likes them so got another set at Christmas. She has Xmas money/vouchers so may choose more lego elves. Is it that she wouldn't be allowed any more unless she's well behaved or achieves something? Sorry I'm just not sure I'm understanding it.