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Livid at in laws over poorly baby

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user1485778793 · 01/07/2017 05:31

I've posted a few times about my in laws and my new baby. Back story: baby has life limiting condition requiring a lot of surgery, he's had one major op at 4 days old, he's now 19 days and they're preparing for next op in a few weeks. He's on a lot of medication, tube fed and has oxygen, so there are a lot of wires and tubes coming out of his incubator. We made it clear that only dh and me would be holding him as we have been shown how to with all the wires etc. We asked all visits to be limited to twice a week which everyone except inlaws respected.

I walked into the ward yesterday and the inlaws were there holding him. Firstly I'm livid they were holding him after they have been told no and secondly they were allowed in without myself or dh. All other visitors have been asked to wait outside the ward until we get there.

I immediately told mil to put him back, the nurse took him off her straight away and she sat there with a face like thunder staring at me. I left the room to ring dh and ask if they'd made arrangements with him, he said no.

The nurse asked if I wanted them to leave. I said yes, they refused and wanted to speak to me. That turned into a bit of a row her blaming everyone else and she said 'wait till someone comes along and takes your child away'

Dh is angry, I'm livid. I just want to ban them totally. It's all about them. She left crying...not because of what I've said she just cries all the time.

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Malters87 · 16/07/2017 19:25

You are simply a mama protecting her baba. A lioness over her cub. You do what you have to. That baby is trusting you to protect it xxx

Yamayo · 16/07/2017 23:41

Hope things are ok. How are you holding up?

user1485778793 · 16/07/2017 23:57

He's doing well, he's stable and may go to hdu in a few days. I'm tired, takes me ages to get to sleep then I wake up all the time. I can't believe how well he has done though Smile

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NameChange30 · 17/07/2017 00:31

So glad he's stable and doing well, hope he continues to go from strength to strength!

I'm not surprised you're tired and not sleeping well. Would you consider sleeping tablets, maybe the herbal ones if you don't want to take anything too strong?

MrsMozart · 17/07/2017 00:42

A good update lass. Hope he's home soon and you get some rest xx

Redsippycup · 18/07/2017 09:19

What good news! That's brilliant Flowers

mohuzivajehi · 18/07/2017 09:41

So glad he is stable now - I didn't see this thread when it was originally started up so my "yanbu" is superfluous now. Sounds like you have dealt with it all really well. I guess it's not long till the next operation now - I do hope that all goes well.

Your in-laws are not going to change but you are dealing with it well. Whenever they complain your comeback is "we know that you can't be trusted - and when you had half a chance you endangered a newborn baby's health and life because you thought your own wishes were more important, so you will not have half a chance ever again"

Zebra31 · 19/07/2017 08:24

That's great news. Flowers

user1485778793 · 19/07/2017 16:07

Hopefully going to hdu in a few days

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TheMerryWidow1 · 19/07/2017 16:33

brilliant news, you have a little fighter there!!

user1485778793 · 19/07/2017 18:19

He is! Out of all the procedures, ops, injections etc the thing he hates most is having his nappy changed lol

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NameChange30 · 19/07/2017 18:34

Lol! My DS hated having his nappy changed when he was a newborn, too. They do grow out of it.. but meanwhile you get pretty good at doing it as fast as possible!

namechangedforthisreply · 19/07/2017 18:46

What a little star Smile

mohuzivajehi · 19/07/2017 21:30

Star Easter Smile

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