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they taking her away-please help

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Nikaleeona · 07/01/2007 23:59

DD is 21 months, was rushed to a specialist hospital 120 miles away from home as it was discovered she had a bleed on the brain. she has totally recovered n is back to normal but child protection n social services are involved and are putting her into foster care 2mora as they say she is at risk living with us. They are also planning on taking out baby away when it is born as they are accusing me n DP of throwing her around n abusing her. All we know is she fell off the sofa n found her on the floor unconcious when i was at wrk n DP looking after her. They have no evisence of us doing anything and we havent done anything to hurt her, we dont even tap her hand or anything. Its ridiclous, im in such a state. She is my world n they taking her away for no reason. Any advice or anyone else been in similar condition?
Many thanks x

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HandyTrinkett · 08/01/2007 17:49

I'm around until lateish probably tonight and from v early tomorrow.. ..(should cut down on Internet time really)... ..I'll be leaving here 6ish then on a train for 2.5 hours... ..get in touch though!

SpookyMadMummy · 08/01/2007 17:53

Hang on... i'm confused.
She says on this thread her dp works with sn adults
she says on the ladder thread her cousin works with sn adults...

Do they both work together??????

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 17:55

If i am honest i have had a fair few moments myself but am trying to be as trusting as i can just in case this is genuine.

But i have a horrible horrible gut feeling

TheBlonde · 08/01/2007 17:56

Spooky - I had spotted that, maybe they are the same person

SpookyMadMummy · 08/01/2007 17:57

Yes mamazon..I agree...

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 18:45

oh lord....can of worms....

NurseyJo · 08/01/2007 18:47

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Greensleeves · 08/01/2007 18:48

enough with the worm analogy, you are making me heave

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 18:48

I thought you liked to go eat worms at the end of your garden greeny?

Greensleeves · 08/01/2007 18:51

That's different. Those are pink, friendly worms. Not wriggly writhy can-of-worms worms.

Eeeeuw

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 18:53

I fail to see a notable difference

PeachyClair · 08/01/2007 18:54

If this kept happening in my Dh's are, I would move out with my child (I presume you can prove youwere elsewhere) until it was sorted, or at elast discuss this option with a solicitor.

I was a bit about this thread too, tbh. 2 Black eyes? bleed to the brain? And still believes its all accidental??

nothercules · 08/01/2007 18:58

I dont understand why you didnt take your dd to the doctors/hospital if she had 2 black eyes??

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 19:03

As i say i have had a few moments myself but i really want to give the benefit of the doubt.

I didn't work in CPT but alarm bells are ringing for me here so i really can't criticise the social services for having had the reaction they have.

Nik - i think you need to maybe re post with the details. sit and take your time and make sure you get the facts correct.
that way we will be able to have the full picture and be able to give you as much advice as we can.

JennyLeevesmilkandcookiesforSa · 08/01/2007 19:14

Why don't you find out if kicking your partner out would make any difference? ask tomorrow, ask them if you are single would you get to keep her and your baby and then if that is the case do it, after all what is more important Man love or the love and safety of your children? think about it

if the the partner is more important to you and you know you have not done it yourself, and the injuries are that severe why do you not think it could be him? it is possible. if it is not you doing it then it must be him and the things happen when he is with her.
It does not make any difference if she loves him to bits or not, children can forgive a lot, and she may not realise it is not normal to be injured like this. and if the cousin and partner are the same person you did say' she is being a bit cautious around the cousin'

choose what you want and then live with your decision

JennyLeevesmilkandcookiesforSa · 08/01/2007 19:15

why did you not legal advice before this are you too afraid too? trying to get advice on the day they are coming to take her is a bit cutting it fine

JennyLeevesmilkandcookiesforSa · 08/01/2007 19:17

Handytrinkett I hope this person gets help, she is obviously lost and does not know what to do

Rhubarb · 08/01/2007 19:23

Why would someone want to make up such a story? I don't know if it's more disturbing to think of this as a troll or genuine.

If a troll it's very sick considering a Mumsnetter recently lost her little girl.

SoupDragon · 08/01/2007 19:28

There are certainly inconsistencies but the poster does post on other threads.

Heavenis · 08/01/2007 19:39

If either one of you were suspected of causing her injures would you have both not been interviewed by the police ?

PeachyClair · 08/01/2007 20:07

I have woprked in CP{T (albeit not as a social worker), I have to say that unfortunately quite alrge numbers of Mums seem to fail to cotton on to the idea that they could actually help matters by disposing of a partner in whose care the child seems to become injured- Nic, if you are genuine please, please consider doing this. It will hold up most well for you when it comes to SS (after all if you've been absent during the incidences they cannot actually accuse you- can they?). It will also show where your priorities are.

It doesn't mean you can nver see Dh again, or even be with him once things have calmed down. But for now- your kids!

controlfreaky2 · 08/01/2007 20:09

have to say the police are completely crapola ime re investigating potential crimes arising from possible nai to children

MerlinsBeard · 08/01/2007 20:19

has no one asked yet why cctv was being installed in her DDs room? (the ladder link)

Plibble · 08/01/2007 20:19

It sounds from this thread as though Nikaleeona's DP and her cousin may well be the same person. Nikaleeona - if this is the case, then that makes two incidents where your child has been hurt by the same man. You said on the thread about the ladder that you thought your daughter was acting more cautious around your cousin after the incident. I think that you need to have a frank conversation with your DP and check that both incidents (and any others) genuinely were accidents. It might be a difficult conversation to have, but your child must come first and if you have any doubts at all, please get your daughter away from your DP.

ParanoidAndroid · 08/01/2007 20:24

Hmmm, this doesn't 'feel' right somehow. Nikaleeona - have you managed to see a specialist solicitor yet?

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