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they taking her away-please help

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Nikaleeona · 07/01/2007 23:59

DD is 21 months, was rushed to a specialist hospital 120 miles away from home as it was discovered she had a bleed on the brain. she has totally recovered n is back to normal but child protection n social services are involved and are putting her into foster care 2mora as they say she is at risk living with us. They are also planning on taking out baby away when it is born as they are accusing me n DP of throwing her around n abusing her. All we know is she fell off the sofa n found her on the floor unconcious when i was at wrk n DP looking after her. They have no evisence of us doing anything and we havent done anything to hurt her, we dont even tap her hand or anything. Its ridiclous, im in such a state. She is my world n they taking her away for no reason. Any advice or anyone else been in similar condition?
Many thanks x

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Nikaleeona · 08/01/2007 00:59

Thats not an option. They accusing me as much as him cos i was talking to another couple at hospital n they been told she can keep the kids if her husband moves out but they got no proof its him doing it.

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hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 01:06

Why is it not an option? What have this couple at the hospital got to do with anything?

lornaloo · 08/01/2007 01:11

Nikaleeona you should do whatever is best for your dd. If it means seperating from dp for a while then do it.
A fall off the sofa would not knock her out. I'm sorry but it just wouldn't. Espesially if you have a carpet!

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 01:11

Are the hospital thinking that this has happened aftr prolonged knocks to the head rather than one big blow?

ifthey feel it was one big blow then she was not in your care when it happened and so oif you offered to remove your partner from her life then it is quite possible that they could reconsider you having care of her.

If they beleive it is a number of knocks over a longer period of time then i can see why they have not offered you this choice.

ou really need to start talking to them and asking questions. you also need to get a solicitor.
When you find one please go to the appointment on your own, take notes and be as frank and honest with them as you can. the news he gives you may not be what you wantto hear but if you go alone at least you can give the whole story uninterupted.

Saturn74 · 08/01/2007 01:12

Nikaleeona, you need expert help from a professional.
Try and get some rest tonight if you can, and in the morning you can set about finding someone to legally represent you.
You need to be sure of your facts and sure of your rights.
I cannot understand why you are being accused too, as you say you were at work when the injury occurred.
There are obviously lots of aspects to this situation.
You need to do whatever it takes to prove that your daughter is safe with you. That might mean altering your living arrangements, but you have to put your DD first?

hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 01:13

DS2 fell off the sofa (onto laminate floor) when he was 5 weeks old. I took him to A&E, he was fine, no health professional has mentioned it to me since, ever.

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 01:15

honesty is the best policy when it comes to dealing with child services.

you only lie if you have somethign to hide.

that was always my feeling.

hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 01:16

Nikaleeona, how is your DD with your partner?

lornaloo · 08/01/2007 01:19

Ds feel from sofa backwards and hit his head very very hard on the coffee table. I was terrified that he was really badly hurt. He was fine.

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Nikaleeona · 08/01/2007 01:33

DD is fine with Dp. She loves him to bits like she always has done nothing has changed at all in that way, only way shes different is shes scared of anyone she dunno but thats cos of all the doctors n stuff they did to her

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Saturn74 · 08/01/2007 01:36

Will you get some legal representation tomorrow?

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Nikaleeona · 08/01/2007 01:42

i really dont know. We're going first thing in the morning to try n sort out a solicitor n see what they have to say

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Saturn74 · 08/01/2007 01:46

Good idea.
I hope this situation gets sorted out soon.
Perhaps you should try and get some rest now.

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Nikaleeona · 08/01/2007 01:50

thats easier said than done

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Saturn74 · 08/01/2007 01:55

I know, but you've got a lot to deal with tomorrow, so perhaps you should try?

Saturn74 · 08/01/2007 08:41

Have you found a solicitor yet. Nikaleeona?

Jimjams2 · 08/01/2007 09:06

Agree with Greent- although I can tell you that calls to NHS Direct are not logged and then referred to the GP. If you phone NHS direct your GP will not know and it will not go on your notes. Whether they keep an accessible record of every call I don;tt know.

I did meet someone when ds3 was in hospital who was having nightmare. Her ds (aged 2) had had 3 different accidents when accompanied by 3 different people (one time was at nursery) - never with his mother- and his mother was having to attend police stations to give statements, and was told that she was the mother so she was reponsible no matter who her child was with at the time of the accident (at nursery??? she's responsible for what goes on at nursery???). Which seems ridiculously heavy handed to me. Her ds was going to be in hospital for 8 weeks (traction), she was self employed, single mum, but was terrified to leave his bedside at all as she thought that would look bad for SS. So she had no money coming in, and was getting no sleep at all. It does happen. Having had dealings with SS myself (not child protection - trying to access services) I would say that the best way of describing them is as incompetent.

Get yourself a lawyer today. They may be incompetent but they are powerful, you need someone watching out for you.

Jimjams2 · 08/01/2007 09:13

oh has anything else unusual happened recently. Has your baby been ill at all- had a temperature, has she ever had a seizure? has she had a vaccination (there are some people who believe that vaccinations can cause similar injuries to shaken baby syndrome- which can cause bleeding in the brain, although that wouldn't be accepted by the authorities as a potential cause at all- just mention it in case she has you might want to look further into it if so - although if she has don't say anything to SS fgs, they would mark you down as a loon- that would be something to ask the solicitor).

Judy1234 · 08/01/2007 09:24

Also tell the child's father too because her moving to live with him rather than in care may be a better option for all of you.
Two separate incidents, black eyes first time time with cousin, falling off sofa with your partner there just taken together look bad. The black eyes surely cannot have been accidental.

HandyTrinkett · 08/01/2007 15:12

Hey Nikaleeona.. ...I'll bump my wife with this thread and see what's she's got to say. She's represented peeps in your position a number of times..

HandyTrinkett · 08/01/2007 16:26

Hey Nikaleeona, I've got a reply from the wife but would rather send it to you direct. Any way I can do this? (very new to the whole mums net thing)

Just for info my wife is a family solicitor specialising in child/family cases.. ...we be on the south coast..

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 17:09

Handy trinkett - that would be great if your wife could be of help to Nikaleena. i really do feel she needs to get some good legal advice.

If you use the contact another talker function you can send her an email to her via Mumsnet.

wurlywurly · 08/01/2007 17:23

something here dont sound right??

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 17:25

I would imagine your still at the hospital or with SS but when you get back o let us know what is happeneing Nikaleena.

Im increasingly concerned about the details you have provided so far.
Ijust have a feeling that there must be more to the story and without it you may be missing out on recieving some crucial help.

HandyTrinkett · 08/01/2007 17:46

Hey Nikaleeona,
contact me here

stolensoul AT hotmail dot com

and I'll drop the email to you. On a client network at the mo and don't have any CCs to pay the £5 to use CATing... or am I being thick??